Flirt With Girls
Have you ever liked a girl, but didn't know how to show it? Deathly afraid of rejection? As the famous quote from Alfred, Lord Tennyson tells us: "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." And you can't get to the love part without a bit of flirting first.
Steps
- Work on building your self-confidence. Girls don't want to be with a guy who can't talk to them. Think of the things you are confident about (playing a sport, an awesome anime collection, your obsession with skateboarding) and talk about that. Displaying confidence is one of the sexiest things a guy can do.
- Make sure not to overdo it. You don't want to seem like a stuck-up know-it-all. If the teacher tells the class to be quiet shush people but not her and do it quietly or she might not like it!.
- Start gradually. If you start flirting up a storm all of a sudden, the girl you are interested in might think you're a fake or have changed personalities for no good reason, which is weird.
- Smile. When you see her in the hallways, smile at her;just a quick smile then look away. Say hello and ask how she is. DON'T ignore her!!
- Find a way to start up a conversation with her. Ask her about herself. Girls love to talk about themselves ask if you have any thing in common. If she has facebook, chat with her. If she doesn't say something like "there's no good chat on my computer" there is a good chance she likes you.
- Connect with her online. But, don't just add her as a friend on facebook or contact on IM. Message her first and do something like commenting on her profile. This could be a great way to start a conversation before an actual face-to-face one.
- Be her friend. For girls, friendship is important. If she needs help, see how you can help her. But, make sure not to overdo it and help her too much. Then, she won't appreciate you and might just use you. Try not to set yourself up for that. If you see her at the movies or mall, go talk to her.
- Compliment her. Girls love to be complimented.
- Goof off. The truth is, if she likes you even in the slightest bit, your corniest jokes will seem funny, and your dumbest antics sweet.
- Make her miss you. Don't hang around her all day or be too available. This gets annoying. Spend time with your own friends and make sure she knows that you have friends. Leave her guessing. It's a big turn-on. If you are playing a game, don't ask if she wants to join but when she looks a couple of times and then looks at the girl you're playing with go up to her and ask her to join. Don't just shout over a table or something.
- Touch her gently. This is called breaking the touch barrier. If she jumps and shies away, don't try it again for a while. If she shows signs of encouragement in the future, give her a light nudge on the arm or shoulder.If you sit next or opposite you check if she flops her shoes ok,then take your shoes off and with the tips of your toes touch hers and if she looks at you and keeps her feet there then go further, maybe go more on the foot. If you sit next to her that might be harder so try with your arm put it on her seat behind her back, or when your giving things to her touch her hand.
- If none of this works, move on to the next girl. Keep your options open and keep things moving. There will definitely be girls out there waiting for a cool guy like you. Maybe she just can't go out on her own so make sure you know that first or just try again later or flirt with other girls for a reaction!
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Tips
- Be sure you actually like this girl. If you just lead her on she will be upset, and you might get a reputation for being a flirt and no more than that.
- Girls love guys who make them feel special.
- Just be yourself! Girls hate it when you try to be something you aren't just to impress them.
- Practice your talking. Volume, pacing, and even the words you use. If she can't hear or doesn't understand what you're saying, you're not going to get very far.
- Make sure her friends like you. Girls' friends' opinions mean the world to them. Chances are, if her friends don't like you, she won't either.
- Make sure the flirting fits the girl. You shouldn't tell a good-girl that she looks hot.
- Girls like compliments
- Make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend (although this doesn't always matter).
- If you're out of luck at school, try meeting girls outside of school, like at a tennis club or volunteer group.
- Practice on your female friends. They won't take it too seriously, will appreciate the attention and it will allow you to see what works well for you and what doesn't.
- Do NOT rush into things and ask her to be your girlfriend right away wait about a couple weeks.
- If you see that she is hanging around her other friends and ignoring you do the same, if she likes you and notices this she will approach you and initiate the conversation.
Warnings
- Keep in mind that, no matter how well you flirt, you will not always be successful. Not even the most confident guy gets 100% of the girls he likes.
- Girls are sensitive. If you choose to tease her, do it about stupid stuff that doesn't really matter to her. Try not to tease her about her personal appearance ever!
- Girls act differently than boys. Be careful about how you act; don't chug milk out of the container, for example. A glass can make all the difference.
- Some girls either don't want a boyfriend or are not ready for one. If your girl falls into this category, move on.
Things You'll Need
- Guts
- A girl to flirt with
- Some ideas for topics to talk about
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