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#*This includes ideas that are difficult to talk about. You may think you should "protect her," but she is a smart, capable person just like you. She'll feel more touched that you trusted her than hurt by what you have to say.<ref name="rf1">http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Relationships_and_communication?open</ref> | #*This includes ideas that are difficult to talk about. You may think you should "protect her," but she is a smart, capable person just like you. She'll feel more touched that you trusted her than hurt by what you have to say.<ref name="rf1">http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Relationships_and_communication?open</ref> | ||
#Make eye contact. Eye contact breeds trust, closeness, and love. It shows that you're talking honestly and respectfully, whereas looking away may make you seem untrustworthy. Just as importantly, keep you eyes up and away from her body. You don't want a girl to think you only like her for her body. | #Make eye contact. Eye contact breeds trust, closeness, and love. It shows that you're talking honestly and respectfully, whereas looking away may make you seem untrustworthy. Just as importantly, keep you eyes up and away from her body. You don't want a girl to think you only like her for her body. | ||
| − | #*If you have trouble making eye-contact, look between her eyes or at her earlobe. If you're a few feet away, most people won't notice that you're not looking at their eyes.< | + | #*If you have trouble making eye-contact, look between her eyes or at her earlobe. If you're a few feet away, most people won't notice that you're not looking at their eyes.<ref name="rf1">http://hellobeautiful.com/2011/08/04/5-reasons-why-eye-contact-is-important/</ref> |
#Make listening a priority. 50% of conversation is listening, but people often forget how important it is to shut up from time to time. Ask her questions and listen thoughtfully, nodding along and asking relevant questions when possible. If you've been talking for 2-3 minutes straight, it is time to slow down and ask her a question.<ref name="rf2">http://boardofwisdom.com/togo/Quotes/ShowQuote?msgid=48448#.VgWOU5c4nEY</ref> | #Make listening a priority. 50% of conversation is listening, but people often forget how important it is to shut up from time to time. Ask her questions and listen thoughtfully, nodding along and asking relevant questions when possible. If you've been talking for 2-3 minutes straight, it is time to slow down and ask her a question.<ref name="rf2">http://boardofwisdom.com/togo/Quotes/ShowQuote?msgid=48448#.VgWOU5c4nEY</ref> | ||
#*Make eye-contact as you listen. | #*Make eye-contact as you listen. | ||
#*Ask her simple questions like, "how was your day?" and "what do you think of that?" | #*Ask her simple questions like, "how was your day?" and "what do you think of that?" | ||
#Give compliments, as long as they are genuine. If you really like this girl, try unique compliments, such as "I love your laugh, it brightens up the whole room," instead of "you have beautiful eyes". Avoid cheesy pick-up lines that she's probably heard before. A compliment only means something if you really mean the compliment. | #Give compliments, as long as they are genuine. If you really like this girl, try unique compliments, such as "I love your laugh, it brightens up the whole room," instead of "you have beautiful eyes". Avoid cheesy pick-up lines that she's probably heard before. A compliment only means something if you really mean the compliment. | ||
| − | #*The more genuine and specific your compliment, the better it will be. Think about what you really love about her and let her know. Don't just spit the lines you've heard in movies.<ref>http://www.lovepanky.com/men/attracting-and-dating-women/how-to-be-a-good-boyfriend</ | + | #*The more genuine and specific your compliment, the better it will be. Think about what you really love about her and let her know. Don't just spit the lines you've heard in movies.<ref name="rf2">http://www.lovepanky.com/men/attracting-and-dating-women/how-to-be-a-good-boyfriend</ref> |
#Be there for her when she's upset. Sometimes she doesn't expect you to offer a solution, but instead wants you to listen to her vent. Treat her with care and compassion when she shares her feelings with you. If she needs time and space, give it to her. | #Be there for her when she's upset. Sometimes she doesn't expect you to offer a solution, but instead wants you to listen to her vent. Treat her with care and compassion when she shares her feelings with you. If she needs time and space, give it to her. | ||
#*Being supportive is about being there when she needs you. Even if something seems small to you, you need to show her that you care when she's upset. | #*Being supportive is about being there when she needs you. Even if something seems small to you, you need to show her that you care when she's upset. | ||
| − | #*If she seems upset, but won't talk, don't push her. Just listen. Ask her if there "is anything on your mind?" or simply "how is everything going." Asking her "if something is wrong" implies that there is something bad happening, which can cause her to close up.<ref>http://boardofwisdom.com/togo/Quotes/ShowQuote?msgid=48448#.VgWOU5c4nEY</ | + | #*If she seems upset, but won't talk, don't push her. Just listen. Ask her if there "is anything on your mind?" or simply "how is everything going." Asking her "if something is wrong" implies that there is something bad happening, which can cause her to close up.<ref name="rf3">http://boardofwisdom.com/togo/Quotes/ShowQuote?msgid=48448#.VgWOU5c4nEY</ref> |
===Making Her Feel Special=== | ===Making Her Feel Special=== | ||
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#*Check your local paper for events, from street festivals to outdoor music and theater. | #*Check your local paper for events, from street festivals to outdoor music and theater. | ||
#Remember and celebrate the special days, like birthdays and anniversaries. Take initiative on the big days and plan a surprise, even if it is something small like flowers or breakfast in bed. Having the foresight to celebrate these little milestones will make her feel special and show her that you value the relationship as much as she. | #Remember and celebrate the special days, like birthdays and anniversaries. Take initiative on the big days and plan a surprise, even if it is something small like flowers or breakfast in bed. Having the foresight to celebrate these little milestones will make her feel special and show her that you value the relationship as much as she. | ||
| − | #*Occasionally, have a little fun by celebrating a goofy holiday or anniversary, like the first time you cooked together or National Talk Like a Pirate Day.<ref | + | #*Occasionally, have a little fun by celebrating a goofy holiday or anniversary, like the first time you cooked together or National Talk Like a Pirate Day.<ref name="rf2" /> |
===Being a Gentleman=== | ===Being a Gentleman=== | ||
