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| − | + | Does someone else's bullying personality make you feel worthless? Do you mistake people's antics for subtle insults? Most of the time, the way a person acts has little to do with you personally. It has more to do with how this person was raised, how they deal with emotional issues, or other variables like their mood, energy level, or health. This is important to keep in mind if you find yourself taking the blame for things that are beyond your control. In order to stop taking things so personally, consider the situational factors as well as the other person’s motivations and background. Improving your self-confidence and communicating assertively are key to being able to handle other people’s comments. | |
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#* When you identify your triggers, you can acknowledge that you might be taking things too personally. | #* When you identify your triggers, you can acknowledge that you might be taking things too personally. | ||
#* It may also be helpful to inform people about your triggers. "I'd rather you didn't make jokes about me being a witch. My nose and face are a bit of a sore spot for me, so it stings a little." | #* It may also be helpful to inform people about your triggers. "I'd rather you didn't make jokes about me being a witch. My nose and face are a bit of a sore spot for me, so it stings a little." | ||
| − | #Refocus your attention. When you take things personally, you shift your attention from what someone said or did to how you feel. Those feelings can intensify if you fixate on them. You might even catch yourself rehearsing over and over what you would have said back to the person if you could. This is known as ruminating. There are a number of strategies to help you stop ruminating over a problem. Some of these include: <ref name="rf10845" /> | + | #Refocus your attention. When you take things personally, you shift your attention from what someone said or did to how you feel. Those feelings can intensify if you fixate on them. You might even catch yourself rehearsing over and over what you would have said back to the person if you could. This is known as ruminating. There are a number of strategies to help you stop ruminating over a problem. Some of these include: <ref name="rf10845">http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/02/16/8-tips-to-help-stop-ruminating/</ref> |
#*'''Try [[Exercise Mindfulness to Be Happier|mindfulness]] exercises.''' Be present in the moment, which will bring you away from a previous moment that you’re ruminating about. | #*'''Try [[Exercise Mindfulness to Be Happier|mindfulness]] exercises.''' Be present in the moment, which will bring you away from a previous moment that you’re ruminating about. | ||
#*'''Take a walk.''' Get a change of scenery to distract your mind from the problem. | #*'''Take a walk.''' Get a change of scenery to distract your mind from the problem. | ||
