Difference between revisions of "Stop Over Thinking in a Relationship"

Sometimes we tend to think too much or over-think things (which incidentally is just as bad as not putting enough concentration on a subject). It's like watering a plant: not enough water the plant dies, too much water can kill it as well, so you need to find the correct balance. When we over-think things waiting by the phone, a minute turns into years as we think of what our lover is doing, who is he talking with, whether she is attracted to the new guy at the coffee place etc. All the negativity sets in and it builds up and consumes us and we find ourselves breaking up. We do not know what happened. And then it happens again, and again and again....Over-thinking usually introduces negativity into the relationship; and as we know, no relationship thrives on negativity. So how do we stop that from happening?

Sometimes we tend to think too much or over-think things (which incidentally is just as bad as not putting enough concentration on a subject). It's like watering a plant: not enough water the plant dies, too much water can kill it as well, so you need to find the correct balance. When we over-think things waiting by the phone, a minute turns into years as we think of what our lover is doing, who is he talking with, whether she is attracted to the new guy at the coffee place etc. All the negativity sets in and it builds up and consumes us and we find ourselves breaking up. We do not know what happened. And then it happens again, and again and again....Over-thinking usually introduces negativity into the relationship; and as we know, no relationship thrives on negativity. So how do we stop that from happening?

== Steps ==

== Steps ==

#Take some time for yourself. Too much thought about another person can lead to an 'unhealthy' obsession and that is not a good thing, right? Falling into this trap can be easy causing over-dependence, jealousy, and eventually depression. All of the latter states lead to a loss of your 'personal' power and can cause a relationship to deteriorate quickly which kind of defeats the purpose of the whole thing. Therefore it's critical when things reach an uncomfortable level in relation to you concentrating too much on your partner (or anything outside of your self for that matter) that you turn your concentration back onto 'yourself' and what makes you happy and feel satisfied (outside of your relationship).

#Take some time for yourself. Too much thought about another person can lead to an 'unhealthy' obsession and that is not a good thing, right? Falling into this trap can be easy causing over-dependence, jealousy, and eventually depression. All of the latter states lead to a loss of your 'personal' power and can cause a relationship to deteriorate quickly which kind of defeats the purpose of the whole thing. Therefore it's critical when things reach an uncomfortable level in relation to you concentrating too much on your partner (or anything outside of your self for that matter) that you turn your concentration back onto 'yourself' and what makes you happy and feel satisfied (outside of your relationship).