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Your first [[Kiss|kiss]] can be one of the most exciting and nerve-wracking experiences of your life. While preparing yourself for your first kiss isn’t always a piece of cake, it’s certainly better than suffering the consequences of an ill-prepared one. | Your first [[Kiss|kiss]] can be one of the most exciting and nerve-wracking experiences of your life. While preparing yourself for your first kiss isn’t always a piece of cake, it’s certainly better than suffering the consequences of an ill-prepared one. | ||
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==Steps== | ==Steps== | ||
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#*If you are a girl, avoid sticky lip glosses. The person kissing you may find it weird and unenjoyable if your lips are very sticky and messy. | #*If you are a girl, avoid sticky lip glosses. The person kissing you may find it weird and unenjoyable if your lips are very sticky and messy. | ||
#Find the right moment. This is probably the hardest part of any first kiss. However, if you want to kiss the person you are with, look for signs that he or she wants to kiss you, too. Often, a good time is if you’ve been spending some time together alone, having good conversation. | #Find the right moment. This is probably the hardest part of any first kiss. However, if you want to kiss the person you are with, look for signs that he or she wants to kiss you, too. Often, a good time is if you’ve been spending some time together alone, having good conversation. | ||
| − | #*Are they making a lot of eye contact? Obviously, this doesn’t always mean they want to kiss you, but if they make a lot of eye contact, they at least find you interesting. If they want to kiss you, often they will be staring into your eyes or looking at your lips.<ref>http://www.study-body-language.com/how-to-kiss.html</ref> | + | #*Are they making a lot of eye contact? Obviously, this doesn’t always mean they want to kiss you, but if they make a lot of eye contact, they at least find you interesting. If they want to kiss you, often they will be staring into your eyes or looking at your lips.<ref name="rf1">http://www.study-body-language.com/how-to-kiss.html</ref> |
| − | #*What does their body language say? If they have their arms folded across their chest, then they probably don’t want a kiss; however, if they have their body angled towards you, are sitting or standing close to you with arms open, then it’s likely a good bet.<ref | + | #*What does their body language say? If they have their arms folded across their chest, then they probably don’t want a kiss; however, if they have their body angled towards you, are sitting or standing close to you with arms open, then it’s likely a good bet.<ref name="rf1" /> |
#*Remember that this moment could be planned or it could happen spontaneously. Try to stay calm and go with the flow. There are certain moments where it is more likely. For example, if it is the end of the night just before you both go home, or if you are alone in a quiet moment. | #*Remember that this moment could be planned or it could happen spontaneously. Try to stay calm and go with the flow. There are certain moments where it is more likely. For example, if it is the end of the night just before you both go home, or if you are alone in a quiet moment. | ||
| − | #Keep your eyes closed. Although it is OK to take a quick peek every now and then, it is usually better to keep your eyes closed. If your partner realizes you have your eyes open, he/she might feel uncomfortable.<ref | + | #Keep your eyes closed. Although it is OK to take a quick peek every now and then, it is usually better to keep your eyes closed. If your partner realizes you have your eyes open, he/she might feel uncomfortable.<ref name="rf1" /> |
#*It will also help you to relax if your eyes are closed. | #*It will also help you to relax if your eyes are closed. | ||
#Avoid rushing. When the kiss happens, don’t immediately try to stick your tongue in his/her mouth. Instead, start out by gently kissing with just your lips, and if the kiss continues to that, proceed slowly. There is no need to rush when it comes to kissing. | #Avoid rushing. When the kiss happens, don’t immediately try to stick your tongue in his/her mouth. Instead, start out by gently kissing with just your lips, and if the kiss continues to that, proceed slowly. There is no need to rush when it comes to kissing. | ||
| − | #Relax. The worst thing you can do is to over think your first kiss.<ref | + | #Relax. The worst thing you can do is to over think your first kiss.<ref name="rf1" /> Remember that no matter what happens, it is only one kiss, and there will be many others. Once you get the first kiss out of the way, you can practice getting better at it. |
#*Enjoy the moment! You only get one first kiss, and you will likely remember it for your entire life. | #*Enjoy the moment! You only get one first kiss, and you will likely remember it for your entire life. | ||
#*Be present during the kiss. Don’t start thinking about how you can’t wait to tell your friends or write about it in your diary. Simply enjoy it. | #*Be present during the kiss. Don’t start thinking about how you can’t wait to tell your friends or write about it in your diary. Simply enjoy it. | ||
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#Talk with trusted friends. Ask trusted friends about their first kiss, and how they prepared themselves. Ask them what advice they can give you. If you feel comfortable doing so, you can also discuss it with your parents. | #Talk with trusted friends. Ask trusted friends about their first kiss, and how they prepared themselves. Ask them what advice they can give you. If you feel comfortable doing so, you can also discuss it with your parents. | ||
#*Don't be afraid to ask questions. Almost every one can remember the nervousness and worries they had before their first kiss. | #*Don't be afraid to ask questions. Almost every one can remember the nervousness and worries they had before their first kiss. | ||
| − | #Ignore negative thoughts. It's likely that you will be worrying about all the things that could go wrong during your first kiss. Ignore these thoughts.<ref>http://datingtips.match.com/ways-overcome-fear-kissing-13197135.html</ref> Instead, let yourself think only positive thoughts. | + | #Ignore negative thoughts. It's likely that you will be worrying about all the things that could go wrong during your first kiss. Ignore these thoughts.<ref name="rf2">http://datingtips.match.com/ways-overcome-fear-kissing-13197135.html</ref> Instead, let yourself think only positive thoughts. |
#*For example, you can think about how you've taken good care of your lips and mouth, making you very kissable. You can think about how into you the person you will be kissing is, and how romantic it will be. | #*For example, you can think about how you've taken good care of your lips and mouth, making you very kissable. You can think about how into you the person you will be kissing is, and how romantic it will be. | ||
#Be confident. Although you will be nervous, remember that you deserve to be kissed! Believe that the kiss will go well, and although it may not go perfectly, it will all be OK. | #Be confident. Although you will be nervous, remember that you deserve to be kissed! Believe that the kiss will go well, and although it may not go perfectly, it will all be OK. | ||
#*Remember that even if it doesn't go perfectly, it is only the first of many. | #*Remember that even if it doesn't go perfectly, it is only the first of many. | ||
| − | #Understand that it is normal to be nervous. Nearly everyone feels nervous when kissing someone for the first time. This is a biological reaction to our excitement, and doesn’t mean anything bad.<ref | + | #Understand that it is normal to be nervous. Nearly everyone feels nervous when kissing someone for the first time. This is a biological reaction to our excitement, and doesn’t mean anything bad.<ref name="rf1" /> |
#*Remember that this also goes for the person kissing you back. It can sometimes be a comfort to remember the other person is also nervous. | #*Remember that this also goes for the person kissing you back. It can sometimes be a comfort to remember the other person is also nervous. | ||
#*If you do your best to act relaxed about the kiss, it will help your partner relax too, and you can both enjoy it. | #*If you do your best to act relaxed about the kiss, it will help your partner relax too, and you can both enjoy it. | ||
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== Tips == | == Tips == | ||
*Don’t worry if you bump teeth or noses. This happens to everyone at some point or another, and it is nothing to worry about. If anything, it's a moment where you and the person can let go of any tension you're feeling by smiling or laughing. | *Don’t worry if you bump teeth or noses. This happens to everyone at some point or another, and it is nothing to worry about. If anything, it's a moment where you and the person can let go of any tension you're feeling by smiling or laughing. | ||
| − | *Don’t forget to breathe.<ref | + | *Don’t forget to breathe.<ref name="rf1" /> |
*Swallow just before the kiss. It’s good to have moist lips, but you don’t want to have too much saliva in your mouth. Otherwise, the kiss will get sloppy. | *Swallow just before the kiss. It’s good to have moist lips, but you don’t want to have too much saliva in your mouth. Otherwise, the kiss will get sloppy. | ||
