Ask a Guy Out When You're Scared

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Want more than anything else in the world to ask the cutest guy out, but you melt when you're near him? Everyone knows that it's never easy to do something like that, no matter how much experience you've had. The good news is that this article's going to help you with that. You need to ask a guy out by going up to him, hanging out with him, asking him out and then seeing what he says to you. If he says nothing just move on to another person, but don't forget your feelings about him because he might like you and he will unless he doesn't think about you more because you asked him out. Boys can either ask a girl out or a girl can ask a boy out, it goes either way.

Steps

  1. Pick a guy who isn't taken. This is probably the most important part! If you don't know if he is or not, you could ask someone to casually ask him or just go up and ask. But a guy will respect you more if you ask him yourself.
  2. Get to know that guy and see if you like him or not.
  3. If you do, but are barely able to talk to him, make yourself known in his presence. Try finding out what things you have in common with him. Join a club together, play a sport, or just talk about something.
  4. Practice talking to him in the mirror. It may be weird but it really will work.
  5. Get up your guts and go say hi. Strike a conversation, anything, if you have similar interests.
  6. See how it goes when he is around you. If he likes you, then that is absolutely great. If he doesn't, well, he might be shy, but either way, you should still ask him out.
  7. Ask him out. This is the hardest part because it takes bravery to go up to a guy who's been to your liking such a long time. And if you really really can't ask him out try telling him that you like him first because then there might be more chance that when you do ask him out that he'll say yes since he's had time to get used to the fact you like him. Some guys freak out at first, so that's why you sometimes get rejected by them!
  8. If you're too scared to ask a guy out that you like, try getting him to notice you. When he walks by you say hello or stare at him passionately to tell him something. If you think that's a bad idea then try finding out where he hangs out and walk by. Look at him and smile. Then talk to him a bit and get to know him. If he has friends that are girls ask them what he's like and then either go for a direct approach or ask him to a movie and say it's with him and some of your friends (that way it's not so awkward).
  9. If the guy has a lot of friends around all the time or has a big mouth, you could get a trustworthy friend to go ask him for you. Or get a friend to go say, "There's a girl in (your class) that wants to go out with you; what girls (in your class) would you go out with?" Then if he says your name, your friend could say, "Well it's (your name) so will you go out with her?"
  10. If he says no when you ask him out just reply saying, "Oh its okay, no hard feelings, right?" or something like that.
  11. Don't look at him all the time. If you do then they will get creeped out and then he won't like you very much.

Tips

  • Try to find out if he likes you first before you ask him out. Otherwise you may get hurt. Try not to be pushy when you ask because that could make him not like you.
  • Don't spend forever trying to figure out how to ask him out, because that chance won't be there forever.
  • Be blunt, no beating around the bush. Just walk up and ask. Most guys like girls that have the courage to be straight up.
  • When you or a friend asks him out and he says yes don't get too excited or it will make you seem a little too anxious.
  • If your friend asks him out for you and he does say no, just pretend you had no idea he/she did it and just act natural
  • Make him laugh. They are more likely to be interested in you if you have inside jokes.
  • If he says no, just say something along the lines of, "Oh okay, whatever," or, "Thanks anyway." Whatever you do, don't look upset!
  • If you're playing the hinting game, be obvious! Guys don't realize you're hinting and flirting unless it's pretty obvious!
  • Flirt. Most guys love it when you flirt plus it drops a hint in a subtle way.
  • Don't forget to smile every time that he is looking at you. That gives him a little more than you are just friend he might also like you if he smiles, stares, or even acts odd when he's around all his friends, and your somewhere near him.
  • Hang around with his mates and ask them if he likes you.
  • If you hardly know the guy he might not be the best target because he may look good but on the inside he could be really ugly.
  • Don't be mean to him or he will not like you.
  • Never ask a guy out in front of friends-his or yours! They would make it awkward and could pressure one of you into a decision. It's best to do it alone, so he can make his own choice.
  • Be yourself, guys like a girl who's herself. Show the real you, it CAN work.
  • Get him to notice you. Act like a friendly girl and always look your best in front of him! You will feel better with him coming up to you when you're scared.
  • If you're worried about his reaction to the question, then whisper with a friend and then ask him out, so that if he says yes, great, but if he says no, then just say that it was a dare from a friend.

Warnings

  • Don't ask him in front of friends because that might put pressure on him and he's more likely to say no in front of his friends.
  • If he says maybe, don't get your hopes up too high because he may not have the heart to say no or he needs time to think about it properly. He probably doesn't want to make you feel bad.
  • If he says no because he is taken, let him know you are still on a friendly status, just in case he has a fight with her; he'll think you are more supportive of him than she is and start to realize he likes you.
  • If he says no, don't hold a grudge. That could make it so he never likes you.
  • If he says no, don't be too down. Maybe he's just too busy to have a girlfriend. Don't ask him why, because this will make him uncomfortable and he may not like a girl who goes around asking lots of questions.
  • Don't stalk the guy. No guy likes that and don't be obsessive.
  • If he says no, you are probably too good for him anyway. He doesn't know who he is messing with.
  • Don't over-do it.
  • Start out with small things like slow dancing at school dances or partnering up for a school project.

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