Act in a Relationship
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Template:FormatGetting a partner may be easy or difficult but keeping them or being happy with each other is a joint effort. This article is about how to act well for a good, healthy relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Steps
- Be realistic. Know that the basic rule of being in a relationship is being you and accepting the other with their imperfections. If you don't like to see how things seem very mundane or routine, try to find beauty and peace in it. Just like a home looks beautiful from inside, if you scratch the walls, you will see it has nothing beautiful but cement and bricks inside. Likewise, you would be accepting enough of your partner. Mainly during these times:
- When your partner is sick, help them get better.
- When your partner has failed, share the pain and encourage them for a better attempt next time.
- When your partner has been ill-treated by someone, try to understand the issue and be frank about what you think went wrong.
- While being frank, do not use harsh terms. Speak with your partner in mind.
- Be as honest as you can with your partner. Trust and honesty are the foundations of a relationship, and when too many lies are told, the relationship can be questioned. If you are unsure when to lie, you may lie:
- When speaking the truth will further hurt your partner.
- Telling the truth serves no purpose.
- The matter is pretty much done or closed.
- Be confident in your real self. If your partner loves you for an image you have set up for yourself, then she/he doesn't truly love you for you. You have to be yourself and be confident about it. Don't ever change anything about yourself for the sake of others. You are you and that's all you will be. If you acted to look good or to make an impression do these:
- Confess that you did it and that your intent was to look good to them.
- Promise that you will be you and never let them down.
- Speak, behave and care the way you do and have them fall in love with you all over again.
- Take the relationship at a comfortable pace. You don't want to rush things with your partner because it can lead to complications. Trying to be somewhere in a relationship is positive thinking but relationships can't be lifted and placed somewhere ahead. Relationships go ahead on its own whilst you compliment each other, get over all the negative experiences, forgive each other and continue loving each other.
- Bond. Always find new ways of hanging out and enjoying each other without sexuality. Learn new things about each other to keep the relationship zesty and fresh. You will be happy to see what comes out of a simple gesture or initiative. Each individual has more to them than what eyes meet. Being in a relationship gives you ample time to wait and allow it to unfold. Every once in a while, get out of the regular routine and do something new.
- Understand that dating is the best part of life. You experience so much and learn the meaning of being swept off your feet and feeling loved unconditionally. You don't feel lonely and have someone to hug or share your stories with. When your partner makes efforts to maintain happiness and peace, you must do your bit too. Each individual is different, each relationship is different. As you spend more time with your partner, you will understand on your own what they like or don't like, what you both enjoy collectively and what will help in keeping the relationship going. Just heed by them and correct yourself and your partner when required. This will keep the bond stronger, reliable, soothing and go forever.
- Express. Some people can't express how happy they are with their partner. If your partner gives you a gift and you feel very happy but you just smile and say, 'thanks', that's not fair. Smile more, appreciate more, express more in terms of how you could use the gift and what difference it will make to your life. Pretending to be fake is different from trying your best to express what you feel in you. If you feel it, it is high time you put in efforts to express it. It also works as an encouragement for your partner to consider you more in the future.
- If your partner can't express him/ herself for some reasons, communicate it with them and clarify that you know how great you feel and they have no need to fret over conveying their message. Such thoughtfulness inbound to go a long way in keeping you both together in love and respect.
- Talk things out and get over hurtful situations. If you or they happen to hurt you by saying something or comparing you with someone else like an ex or any other way, it does not mean the end of the world. Talk things out and get over hurtful situations. But never let it hurt you by not saying anything at all. It is best to get doubts out of the mind by talking over it respectfully.
- Clarify, apologise and understand. You both may not agree with each other at all times. Some decisions may require you to choose a path which may not be liked by your partner. Having a partner does not lay an obligation on you to listen and obey. Instead, it empowers you to speak what you think suits you best, apologise for disagreeing and be not cheerful after this.
- Whenever there is a disagreement, make sure that you are not misunderstood as being happy to hurt.
- Clarification won't be required all the times but when you sense sadness, feel free to mend the bridges again.
- Have sex. Sex is an integral part of courtship in most couples. It is about touching and going beyond words. A healthy sex life helps in many ways including:
- Knowing about each other.
- Getting closer emotionally, mentally, and physically.
- Having a certain loving right over each other.
- Not wanting to lust over another person.
- When you are not ready for sex. You may follow the steps mentioned in the step 'Clarify, apologise and understand.'. If your partner tries to talk you into or makes you have any sexual contact with them while you don't want to or are not ready yet, you can:
- Be assertive and allow them to understand what stops you.
- Be firm as when they know what stops you they may try to make stories to make you feel better.
- Shunning from it, however, do not use physical violence unless you are in an immediate danger. If they have violated you, speak with your family and take an informed decision.
- Consider breaking up with him/her. If he/she does this somewhere in the beginning of the relationship, it's a sign that he/she just wants you for sex.
- Understand that being jealous is common, but it should not be taken for granted. If your partner is being too interested in a flirt or a promiscuous person, you must voice your opinion and have them stay away from them. If whom they are friends with are just friends and they have a friendly, deep and true bond, give them time. If you set them apart, they will have hidden anger towards you. If you try to make your bond stronger with your partner with your extended tact, care, support and cheerfulness, he/ she will themselves reach out to you and never do anything to make you feel jealous or insecure.
- Be productive. Just because you are in a relationship it does not mean that you leave all your works and spend time with him/ her alone. Do equal justice to what you are doing like studying or working and make life brighter.
- Have a life. There will be times when you will be left alone. Be happy while you are on your own. Love does not mean that you will be living only with your partner and cannot do without them. Being in love is different from being clingy. Hence, know when to stop and get back to work. And once the work is done, get back to your partner.
- Just be yourself. If your partner doesn't like who you are, do not change for them (unless you are an alcoholic or cheater). As soon as the start to disrespect or be mean about who you are, you have to realise that they are not good enough for you, you can do way better.
Tips
- Take the cue by understanding your partner. The best you will learn will be from being with each other.
- Stay calm and relaxed almost all the time.
- Always be available, understanding and protective.
Warnings
- If they are cheating on you, break up with them. Although they will try to apologise and say they won't do it again, most cheaters don't change.
