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===Doing Things With Him=== | ===Doing Things With Him=== | ||
| − | #Find out what makes him feel loved. Everyone shows and receives love differently. Some people place more importance on verbal affirmations and quality time while others want their partner to shower them gifts, physical affection, or small favors.<ref>http://www.5lovelanguages.com/faqs/love-languages/</ref> Gauge what kinds things he likes by observing what he asks of you. It may also help to simply ask him if you’re not sure. Make an effort to act accordingly. | + | #Find out what makes him feel loved. Everyone shows and receives love differently. Some people place more importance on verbal affirmations and quality time while others want their partner to shower them gifts, physical affection, or small favors.<ref name="rf1">http://www.5lovelanguages.com/faqs/love-languages/</ref> Gauge what kinds things he likes by observing what he asks of you. It may also help to simply ask him if you’re not sure. Make an effort to act accordingly. |
#*For example, some men feel loved when you spend time doing activities together like playing basketball or going to a movie. Others feel most loved when you have deep conversations or show affection with hugs and kisses. If you’re not sure, ask. Try saying, “Do you want to play basketball or should we just hang here and talk?” | #*For example, some men feel loved when you spend time doing activities together like playing basketball or going to a movie. Others feel most loved when you have deep conversations or show affection with hugs and kisses. If you’re not sure, ask. Try saying, “Do you want to play basketball or should we just hang here and talk?” | ||
#*Your boyfriend may be the type that likes to receive gifts. Find small ways to show that you are thinking of him. Try buying him a nice shirt or picking up his favorite candy from the store. | #*Your boyfriend may be the type that likes to receive gifts. Find small ways to show that you are thinking of him. Try buying him a nice shirt or picking up his favorite candy from the store. | ||
| − | #Get physical. Sex is often an important part of a romantic relationship. Men are especially likely to feel loved when the sexual connection is genuine and consistent.<ref>http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/8-things-men-wish-women-knew-about-sex</ref> Make time to cultivate passionate moments in the bedroom.<ref>http://www.meetmindful.com/making-your-man-feel-loved/#</ref> | + | #Get physical. Sex is often an important part of a romantic relationship. Men are especially likely to feel loved when the sexual connection is genuine and consistent.<ref name="rf2">http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/8-things-men-wish-women-knew-about-sex</ref> Make time to cultivate passionate moments in the bedroom.<ref name="rf3">http://www.meetmindful.com/making-your-man-feel-loved/#</ref> |
| − | #*Think of all the things that attract you to him and fantasize about him. Express your desires when you are alone together.<ref | + | #*Think of all the things that attract you to him and fantasize about him. Express your desires when you are alone together.<ref name="rf3" /> |
#*Men usually want to please their significant others in bed. Let him know when you like something that he does between the sheets. Try starting off with things like, “I love it when you…” | #*Men usually want to please their significant others in bed. Let him know when you like something that he does between the sheets. Try starting off with things like, “I love it when you…” | ||
| − | #*Avoid criticism. Your boyfriend may feel hurt by any negative comments about his sexual performance. Instead, tell him what he is doing right.<ref><http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/8-things-men-wish-women-knew-about-sex</ref> | + | #*Avoid criticism. Your boyfriend may feel hurt by any negative comments about his sexual performance. Instead, tell him what he is doing right.<ref name="rf4"><http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/8-things-men-wish-women-knew-about-sex</ref> |
| − | #Go on dates. Keep your relationship thriving by going out to do something that you both enjoy. Explore your common interests as pair. Doing things outside of your daily routine will keep your relationship alive and evolving. Go out for a nice dinner, see a movie, or check out a new museum.<ref>https://mic.com/articles/113256/the-happiest-couples-are-the-ones-who-keep-dating-even-though-they-re-already-dating#.a8KOV29Bz</ref> | + | #Go on dates. Keep your relationship thriving by going out to do something that you both enjoy. Explore your common interests as pair. Doing things outside of your daily routine will keep your relationship alive and evolving. Go out for a nice dinner, see a movie, or check out a new museum.<ref name="rf5">https://mic.com/articles/113256/the-happiest-couples-are-the-ones-who-keep-dating-even-though-they-re-already-dating#.a8KOV29Bz</ref> |
#*Keep it romantic. Go the extra mile to make a reservation at his favorite restaurant, dress nicely, or hold his hand. These kinds of small gestures are thoughtful and affectionate ways to show that you want him to feel loved. | #*Keep it romantic. Go the extra mile to make a reservation at his favorite restaurant, dress nicely, or hold his hand. These kinds of small gestures are thoughtful and affectionate ways to show that you want him to feel loved. | ||
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#*Try to think about what would be the best way to anticipate your boyfriend’s needs in everyday situations and for special occasions. | #*Try to think about what would be the best way to anticipate your boyfriend’s needs in everyday situations and for special occasions. | ||
#Compliment him. Everyone likes to feel attractive and special. Tell your boyfriend about the things you like about him. Comment on his physique, his skills, or his intelligence. | #Compliment him. Everyone likes to feel attractive and special. Tell your boyfriend about the things you like about him. Comment on his physique, his skills, or his intelligence. | ||
| − | #*Make your compliments sincere. If he’s wearing a shirt that looks great on him, for example, touch his shoulder and say, “You look so hot in that shirt.”<ref | + | #*Make your compliments sincere. If he’s wearing a shirt that looks great on him, for example, touch his shoulder and say, “You look so hot in that shirt.”<ref name="rf3" /> |
#Dress up. Show your boyfriend that you want to look good for him. Wear something that you know he likes. | #Dress up. Show your boyfriend that you want to look good for him. Wear something that you know he likes. | ||
| − | #*Wear a cute pair of jeans you when you go out for dinner, or spend a little extra time grooming before you meet up with him.<ref>http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/g1040/how-to-show-a-man-you-love-him/?slide=3</ref> | + | #*Wear a cute pair of jeans you when you go out for dinner, or spend a little extra time grooming before you meet up with him.<ref name="rf6">http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/g1040/how-to-show-a-man-you-love-him/?slide=3</ref> |
| − | #Buy or make him something. You don’t need to spend a lot of money to show that you care about someone. A small gift simply shows that you were thinking of him. Don’t go over the top, but look out for ways to give him things that he likes.<ref | + | #Buy or make him something. You don’t need to spend a lot of money to show that you care about someone. A small gift simply shows that you were thinking of him. Don’t go over the top, but look out for ways to give him things that he likes.<ref name="rf3" /> |
#*For example, if you happen to be on a trip, bring him back a souvenir. If you go to the store, bring him his favorite bag of chips. | #*For example, if you happen to be on a trip, bring him back a souvenir. If you go to the store, bring him his favorite bag of chips. | ||
#*Give things that don’t cost money. If you know that he is interested in a certain type of music, for example, make him a playlist or send him a music video. Thoughtful gifts will show him that you really know and care for him as a person. | #*Give things that don’t cost money. If you know that he is interested in a certain type of music, for example, make him a playlist or send him a music video. Thoughtful gifts will show him that you really know and care for him as a person. | ||
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#*Or, if he opens a door for you, then you can simply say, “Thank you!” | #*Or, if he opens a door for you, then you can simply say, “Thank you!” | ||
#Hug and kiss him. Give him a hug and a peck on the cheek when you see him. Do the same when you part, and whenever you feel the urge to feel close to him. | #Hug and kiss him. Give him a hug and a peck on the cheek when you see him. Do the same when you part, and whenever you feel the urge to feel close to him. | ||
| − | #*Try a long hug for extra closeness. Embrace him and count to seven. It may feel like a long time, but it feels good to get a loving hug from someone you care about.<ref>http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/g1040/how-to-show-a-man-you-love-him/?slide=9</ref> | + | #*Try a long hug for extra closeness. Embrace him and count to seven. It may feel like a long time, but it feels good to get a loving hug from someone you care about.<ref name="rf7">http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/g1040/how-to-show-a-man-you-love-him/?slide=9</ref> |
| − | #Tell him you love him. The quickest way to communicate that you love him is to tell him! Even if you’ve already said it once, it doesn’t hurt repeat yourself when you feel the urge to do so. Look him in the eye and tell him how you feel.<ref>http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/a11249/25-ways-to-say-you-love-you/</ref> | + | #Tell him you love him. The quickest way to communicate that you love him is to tell him! Even if you’ve already said it once, it doesn’t hurt repeat yourself when you feel the urge to do so. Look him in the eye and tell him how you feel.<ref name="rf8">http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/a11249/25-ways-to-say-you-love-you/</ref> |
| − | #Give him space. Spending time with your boyfriend can be exciting, to say the least. Still, it is important to have time apart. You don’t need to spend every moment with him to show that you love him. Keep doing the activities you love to do, and let him do the same.<ref | + | #Give him space. Spending time with your boyfriend can be exciting, to say the least. Still, it is important to have time apart. You don’t need to spend every moment with him to show that you love him. Keep doing the activities you love to do, and let him do the same.<ref name="rf8" /> |
#*Remember that you both had separate lives before you met. He probably fell in love with you because of who you are as an individual. Keep developing into the person you want to be. | #*Remember that you both had separate lives before you met. He probably fell in love with you because of who you are as an individual. Keep developing into the person you want to be. | ||
| − | #* Let him go out with his friends while you do your own thing. This shows that you trust him and support his other relationships.<ref>http://urbansocialites.com/common-relationship-mistakes-gay-men-make/</ref> Group dates are fun, but quality time with friends (without your significant other) is healthy too. | + | #* Let him go out with his friends while you do your own thing. This shows that you trust him and support his other relationships.<ref name="rf9">http://urbansocialites.com/common-relationship-mistakes-gay-men-make/</ref> Group dates are fun, but quality time with friends (without your significant other) is healthy too. |
#Communicate with him when you’re not together. Send him a text or an email update when you are apart. Let him know that you are thinking about him by maintaining communication. Even if you see each other often, send him a text to check in and see how he’s doing. | #Communicate with him when you’re not together. Send him a text or an email update when you are apart. Let him know that you are thinking about him by maintaining communication. Even if you see each other often, send him a text to check in and see how he’s doing. | ||
| − | #*Maintain contact if you are apart for a long time. Maybe he’s going on a trip, or you have to visit family for a few weeks. Stay in contact. Send pictures, give him updates on your life, and let him know that you miss him!<ref | + | #*Maintain contact if you are apart for a long time. Maybe he’s going on a trip, or you have to visit family for a few weeks. Stay in contact. Send pictures, give him updates on your life, and let him know that you miss him!<ref name="rf8" /> |
| − | #Listen to him. Everyone has opinions, hopes, and fears. No matter what it is, listen to him and try to understand whatever he is going through. Show that you are actively listening to him by reflecting on what he has told you without judgment. Lending an ear shows that you are willing to be supportive.<ref>http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13363/4-surefire-ways-to-make-your-partner-feel-loved.html</ref> | + | #Listen to him. Everyone has opinions, hopes, and fears. No matter what it is, listen to him and try to understand whatever he is going through. Show that you are actively listening to him by reflecting on what he has told you without judgment. Lending an ear shows that you are willing to be supportive.<ref name="rf10">http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13363/4-surefire-ways-to-make-your-partner-feel-loved.html</ref> |
#*Look him in the eye and nod your head to show that you hear him. Repeat back information to clarify or confirm what you heard. | #*Look him in the eye and nod your head to show that you hear him. Repeat back information to clarify or confirm what you heard. | ||
#Be understanding. Everyone has moments when they feel down. Whether it is stress from work or sadness about something that’s gone wrong, we all go through difficult times. Be understanding and supportive of your boyfriend if he is going through something difficult. | #Be understanding. Everyone has moments when they feel down. Whether it is stress from work or sadness about something that’s gone wrong, we all go through difficult times. Be understanding and supportive of your boyfriend if he is going through something difficult. | ||
