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#*Make sure your friend knows you're hanging out with others. If your friend asks you to hang out on a Saturday night, note that you're hanging out with another group. | #*Make sure your friend knows you're hanging out with others. If your friend asks you to hang out on a Saturday night, note that you're hanging out with another group. | ||
#*You can also bring up events that your friend missed when your hanging out with mutual friends. In a group, mention an inside joke you guys formed during a movie night your friend missed. | #*You can also bring up events that your friend missed when your hanging out with mutual friends. In a group, mention an inside joke you guys formed during a movie night your friend missed. | ||
| − | #Brag in subtle ways. A good way to make others jealous is to find subtle ways to brag about yourself. Outright bragging may feel too awkward for you, so find ways to work small brags into day-to-day conversations.<ref>http://www.businessinsider.com/10-ways-to-talk-about-yourself-without-sounding-like-a-jerk-2014-3</ref> | + | #Brag in subtle ways. A good way to make others jealous is to find subtle ways to brag about yourself. Outright bragging may feel too awkward for you, so find ways to work small brags into day-to-day conversations.<ref name="rf1">http://www.businessinsider.com/10-ways-to-talk-about-yourself-without-sounding-like-a-jerk-2014-3</ref> |
#*Talk about your accomplishments in a way that makes you look gracious. When you have success, try to talk about it in a way that conveys excitement. For example, you can try something like, "I can't believe I got an A on that test. I'm so happy and grateful my Mom helped me study." | #*Talk about your accomplishments in a way that makes you look gracious. When you have success, try to talk about it in a way that conveys excitement. For example, you can try something like, "I can't believe I got an A on that test. I'm so happy and grateful my Mom helped me study." | ||
#*Be a little self-depreciating. You can brag about your achievements while simultaneously downplaying them, allowing you to show off without being too overt. Say you got an internship. You can text something like, "So tired. I just spent all day doing the work the real employees don't want to do." This acknowledges your internship without succumbing to outright bragging. | #*Be a little self-depreciating. You can brag about your achievements while simultaneously downplaying them, allowing you to show off without being too overt. Say you got an internship. You can text something like, "So tired. I just spent all day doing the work the real employees don't want to do." This acknowledges your internship without succumbing to outright bragging. | ||
| − | #Use social media to your advantage. Social media often makes other jealous. As you pick and choose what to share, you can cater your updates to make things look better than they are. You can find ways to make your friend jealous by posting happy statuses and updates on social media accounts.<ref>http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2088074/Facebook-makes-sad-Pictures-make-people-jealous-other.html</ref> | + | #Use social media to your advantage. Social media often makes other jealous. As you pick and choose what to share, you can cater your updates to make things look better than they are. You can find ways to make your friend jealous by posting happy statuses and updates on social media accounts.<ref name="rf2">http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2088074/Facebook-makes-sad-Pictures-make-people-jealous-other.html</ref> |
#*Post things from vacations and outings. If you had your nails done, for example, post a before/after picture. | #*Post things from vacations and outings. If you had your nails done, for example, post a before/after picture. | ||
#*Update others on your successes via social media. If you got a new job, for example, post about it. If you did great on a test, let others know on Facebook or Twitter. | #*Update others on your successes via social media. If you got a new job, for example, post about it. If you did great on a test, let others know on Facebook or Twitter. | ||
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#*Focus on what you want. If you want to improve your grades, for example, work on studying more, completing homework quickly, and asking questions in class. | #*Focus on what you want. If you want to improve your grades, for example, work on studying more, completing homework quickly, and asking questions in class. | ||
#*Pursue your outside interests as well. If you're interested in art, for example, join a drawing class and practice drawing in your free time. | #*Pursue your outside interests as well. If you're interested in art, for example, join a drawing class and practice drawing in your free time. | ||
| − | #Follow up on commitments. If you come off as a reliable person, others will be drawn to you. If you're in a club, show up on time every day and always volunteer to do extra work. If you're trying to make friends with someone new, always keep plans and show up on time. Opportunities will present themselves as you'll be asked to do things more. A president of a club may ask you to coordinate something. If you're fun and reliable, your social life will begin to blossom.<ref>http://www.franchiserelationships.com/gregs-blog/how-to-be-admired-and-respected</ref> If your friend sees you have a lot going on, he or she may become jealous. | + | #Follow up on commitments. If you come off as a reliable person, others will be drawn to you. If you're in a club, show up on time every day and always volunteer to do extra work. If you're trying to make friends with someone new, always keep plans and show up on time. Opportunities will present themselves as you'll be asked to do things more. A president of a club may ask you to coordinate something. If you're fun and reliable, your social life will begin to blossom.<ref name="rf3">http://www.franchiserelationships.com/gregs-blog/how-to-be-admired-and-respected</ref> If your friend sees you have a lot going on, he or she may become jealous. |
#Show off nice things. Another way to make your friend jealous is to show off nice things. If you have something you know your friend wants, make a point of mentioning it. | #Show off nice things. Another way to make your friend jealous is to show off nice things. If you have something you know your friend wants, make a point of mentioning it. | ||
#*If you have a new dress or outfit that you know your friend will admire, wear it to school or to a social event where you'll see your friend. | #*If you have a new dress or outfit that you know your friend will admire, wear it to school or to a social event where you'll see your friend. | ||
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#*Avoid being cruel, however. If there's something your friends wants but can't have, it may be best to avoid bragging about this. For example, say your friend's parents don't make a lot of money and, therefore, he or she can't afford new school clothes. It may be a bad idea to show off your new outfit. | #*Avoid being cruel, however. If there's something your friends wants but can't have, it may be best to avoid bragging about this. For example, say your friend's parents don't make a lot of money and, therefore, he or she can't afford new school clothes. It may be a bad idea to show off your new outfit. | ||
#Have a good attitude. People are often jealous of those with self-confidence. If you want your friend to be jealous of you, work on fostering a good attitude. Try to genuinely congratulate others on their successes. If you run into a setback, take it in stride and see it as a learning experience. If your friend sees you're resilient and positive, he or she may become jealous of your great attitude. | #Have a good attitude. People are often jealous of those with self-confidence. If you want your friend to be jealous of you, work on fostering a good attitude. Try to genuinely congratulate others on their successes. If you run into a setback, take it in stride and see it as a learning experience. If your friend sees you're resilient and positive, he or she may become jealous of your great attitude. | ||
| − | #*Having a good attitude can also cause others to look up to you. If your friend sees you're admired by a lot of people, he or she may feel jealous.<ref | + | #*Having a good attitude can also cause others to look up to you. If your friend sees you're admired by a lot of people, he or she may feel jealous.<ref name="rf3" /> |
=== Repairing a Relationship === | === Repairing a Relationship === | ||
#Examine yourself. Consider why you're trying to make your friend jealous. There are a variety of reasons you may want to make someone jealous of you. If you're trying to make your friend jealous, try to figure out the reason. Over time, jealousy can cause strain on a relationship. If you want to keep your relationship with your best friend healthy, you need to examine underlying issues. | #Examine yourself. Consider why you're trying to make your friend jealous. There are a variety of reasons you may want to make someone jealous of you. If you're trying to make your friend jealous, try to figure out the reason. Over time, jealousy can cause strain on a relationship. If you want to keep your relationship with your best friend healthy, you need to examine underlying issues. | ||
| − | #*If you tend to get jealous yourself, you may be an insecure person by nature. Therefore, you may try to make others jealous to raise your own self-esteem. You might not have had strong attachments early in life, fueling insecurity and jealousy.<ref>http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/03/04/8-healthy-ways-to-deal-with-jealousy/</ref> | + | #*If you tend to get jealous yourself, you may be an insecure person by nature. Therefore, you may try to make others jealous to raise your own self-esteem. You might not have had strong attachments early in life, fueling insecurity and jealousy.<ref name="rf4">http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/03/04/8-healthy-ways-to-deal-with-jealousy/</ref> |
#*Are you angry at your friend? If your friend did something to hurt your feelings or make you insecure, you may be trying to make him or her jealous as payback. While this can feel good in the short term, it's a good idea to eventually talk it out. Communication is important to a successful relationship. | #*Are you angry at your friend? If your friend did something to hurt your feelings or make you insecure, you may be trying to make him or her jealous as payback. While this can feel good in the short term, it's a good idea to eventually talk it out. Communication is important to a successful relationship. | ||
| − | #Talk things out with your friend. If there's an issue that needs addressing, talk it out. Instead of passive aggressively making your friend jealous, you should be upfront about any issues you have and work on smoothing things over.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/friendship-20/201509/7-ways-make-your-most-difficult-conversations-easier</ref> | + | #Talk things out with your friend. If there's an issue that needs addressing, talk it out. Instead of passive aggressively making your friend jealous, you should be upfront about any issues you have and work on smoothing things over.<ref name="rf5">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/friendship-20/201509/7-ways-make-your-most-difficult-conversations-easier</ref> |
#*Choose a specific time and place to talk. Pick a time where neither of you are busy, and a place free of external distractions. For example, you can meet on a Saturday afternoon at a large coffee shop that's usually not crowded. | #*Choose a specific time and place to talk. Pick a time where neither of you are busy, and a place free of external distractions. For example, you can meet on a Saturday afternoon at a large coffee shop that's usually not crowded. | ||
#*Think about what you want to say ahead of time. Have some idea of the issues that are bothering you. It may help to write down your thoughts to try and sort them out. | #*Think about what you want to say ahead of time. Have some idea of the issues that are bothering you. It may help to write down your thoughts to try and sort them out. | ||
