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#Keep your emotions in check. Remain calm in tense situations and speak in a calm, relaxed voice. Strive to act, rather than react emotionally. Diffuse bad situations whenever possible, and take a moment to think before instantly reacting to a negative provocation. | #Keep your emotions in check. Remain calm in tense situations and speak in a calm, relaxed voice. Strive to act, rather than react emotionally. Diffuse bad situations whenever possible, and take a moment to think before instantly reacting to a negative provocation. | ||
#* Well-respected people know how to keep their cool under tense conditions. | #* Well-respected people know how to keep their cool under tense conditions. | ||
| − | #* During arguments, hold your temper to prevent escalations, and if someone raises their voice at you, respond calmly.<ref> http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/assertive/art-20044644?pg=2</ref> | + | #* During arguments, hold your temper to prevent escalations, and if someone raises their voice at you, respond calmly.<ref name="rf1"> http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/assertive/art-20044644?pg=2</ref> |
| − | #Control your body language.<ref | + | #Control your body language.<ref name="rf1" /> Stand up straight, look people directly in the eye, and speak in a steady, composed voice when in conversation. These things exude confidence, which people very much respect. |
#* Conversely, slouching, mumbling and being afraid of eye contact communicates to others that you aren’t confident in yourself. Self-confidence is respected. | #* Conversely, slouching, mumbling and being afraid of eye contact communicates to others that you aren’t confident in yourself. Self-confidence is respected. | ||
#Solve problems. When faced with a problem, do not react emotionally or with visible frustration. Instead, focus on addressing the problem and looking for ways to solve it. Try not to complain or get angry, since neither of those things are going to help the situation. | #Solve problems. When faced with a problem, do not react emotionally or with visible frustration. Instead, focus on addressing the problem and looking for ways to solve it. Try not to complain or get angry, since neither of those things are going to help the situation. | ||
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#* If you don’t respect yourself and your appearance, it will be very difficult to gain the respect of others. | #* If you don’t respect yourself and your appearance, it will be very difficult to gain the respect of others. | ||
===Standing Up For Yourself=== | ===Standing Up For Yourself=== | ||
| − | #Say “no” more often.<ref>http://www.fastcocreate.com/1683359/the-hardest-word-why-saying-no-is-key-to-your-long-term-success</ref> People often believe that taking on more projects and responsibilities will make others respect them, but that’s not the case. You can’t agree to every opportunity or request presented to you. Saying no shows others that you value your own time and care more about delivering quality results over quantity. | + | #Say “no” more often.<ref name="rf2">http://www.fastcocreate.com/1683359/the-hardest-word-why-saying-no-is-key-to-your-long-term-success</ref> People often believe that taking on more projects and responsibilities will make others respect them, but that’s not the case. You can’t agree to every opportunity or request presented to you. Saying no shows others that you value your own time and care more about delivering quality results over quantity. |
#* The delivery of the message is just as important as the message itself. Be polite, frank, and decline with a smile. It’s not personal, you just don’t have the time to take on anything extra right now. | #* The delivery of the message is just as important as the message itself. Be polite, frank, and decline with a smile. It’s not personal, you just don’t have the time to take on anything extra right now. | ||
| − | #* Don’t feel guilty about saying no when you have to. Feel good about standing up for yourself.<ref> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201309/are-you-too-nice-7-ways-gain-appreciation-respect</ref> | + | #* Don’t feel guilty about saying no when you have to. Feel good about standing up for yourself.<ref name="rf3"> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201309/are-you-too-nice-7-ways-gain-appreciation-respect</ref> |
| − | #Have an opinion.<ref | + | #Have an opinion.<ref name="rf1" />. Whether it’s an idea, a thought, or a protest, avoid remaining passive if you have something to say. Don’t be afraid of voicing your opinions and bringing ideas to the table, even if it makes you a little nervous. People appreciate when someone has the guts to say what they think. |
#* If you aren’t used to speaking up, try practicing what you want to say beforehand. | #* If you aren’t used to speaking up, try practicing what you want to say beforehand. | ||
#* Voicing your opinions doesn’t mean verbally passing judgement on everything going on around you. Voice your opinions when they matter. | #* Voicing your opinions doesn’t mean verbally passing judgement on everything going on around you. Voice your opinions when they matter. | ||
| − | #Stop being too nice.<ref | + | #Stop being too nice.<ref name="rf3" /> You can be kind to others without constantly having to do things for them. No one respects a pushover. You can’t please everyone, nor should you try, and allowing yourself to be taken advantage of because you’re nice shows others that you don’t respect yourself. |
#* Being too nice can also have the undesired effect of people thinking you are fake and disingenuous. | #* Being too nice can also have the undesired effect of people thinking you are fake and disingenuous. | ||
#Quit apologizing. The only time you need to apologize is when you’ve done something wrong. Unfortunately, many people get in the habit of saying “sorry” almost automatically, without even thinking about it. | #Quit apologizing. The only time you need to apologize is when you’ve done something wrong. Unfortunately, many people get in the habit of saying “sorry” almost automatically, without even thinking about it. | ||
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===Respecting Others=== | ===Respecting Others=== | ||
#Keep your word. When you commit to something and then don’t follow through, people see you as unreliable. Keep your promises to others and get out of the habit of making promises that you can’t keep. Proving your dependability will garner respect from others. Be the person who can be counted on. | #Keep your word. When you commit to something and then don’t follow through, people see you as unreliable. Keep your promises to others and get out of the habit of making promises that you can’t keep. Proving your dependability will garner respect from others. Be the person who can be counted on. | ||
| − | #Be on time.<ref> http://www.huffingtonpost.com/greg-savage/lateness_b_4169441.html</ref> When you are late, whether that is to an appointment, a meeting, a deadline or responding to an email, you lose the respect of others because they feel that you don’t value their time. Strive to always be punctual. | + | #Be on time.<ref name="rf4"> http://www.huffingtonpost.com/greg-savage/lateness_b_4169441.html</ref> When you are late, whether that is to an appointment, a meeting, a deadline or responding to an email, you lose the respect of others because they feel that you don’t value their time. Strive to always be punctual. |
#* When you show your peers that you respect their time by being prompt, they will respond by respecting your time and you. | #* When you show your peers that you respect their time by being prompt, they will respond by respecting your time and you. | ||
| − | #Avoid gossiping.<ref> http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gina-delapa/be-the-person-everyone-re_b_9825254.html</ref> Frequently engaging in gossip, especially negative gossip that puts other people down, will do nothing good for you. In fact, it usually results in people thinking less of you and gossiping about you when you aren’t in the room. | + | #Avoid gossiping.<ref name="rf5"> http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gina-delapa/be-the-person-everyone-re_b_9825254.html</ref> Frequently engaging in gossip, especially negative gossip that puts other people down, will do nothing good for you. In fact, it usually results in people thinking less of you and gossiping about you when you aren’t in the room. |
| − | #* You don’t have to like everyone, but you should always be respectful toward them.<ref>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gina-delapa/be-the-person-everyone-re_b_9825254.html</ref> | + | #* You don’t have to like everyone, but you should always be respectful toward them.<ref name="rf6">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gina-delapa/be-the-person-everyone-re_b_9825254.html</ref> |
#* Know the difference between socializing and gossiping, and never participate in the latter. | #* Know the difference between socializing and gossiping, and never participate in the latter. | ||
#* Make an effort to avoid drama with your peers. | #* Make an effort to avoid drama with your peers. | ||
