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=== Watching Her Body Language === | === Watching Her Body Language === | ||
#Pay attention when she's around. If you two haven't met yet, and this girl likes you, then she may stare at you and smile to get your attention. Make sure you smile back, and watch her reaction. Shy girls may blush and outgoing girls may smile back. You're basically engaging in a little flirting.<Ref>http://www.teenvogue.com/story/crush-on-girl</ref> | #Pay attention when she's around. If you two haven't met yet, and this girl likes you, then she may stare at you and smile to get your attention. Make sure you smile back, and watch her reaction. Shy girls may blush and outgoing girls may smile back. You're basically engaging in a little flirting.<Ref>http://www.teenvogue.com/story/crush-on-girl</ref> | ||
| − | #Note if she likes to giggle with her friends. If she notices you're around and she likes you, she may want to appear more interested in her friends, so she'll start laughing. She may also feel nervous when you're around, and many people giggle or laugh when they're nervous.<ref>http://www.thedatereport.com/dating/advice/signs-she-likes-you/</ref> | + | #Note if she likes to giggle with her friends. If she notices you're around and she likes you, she may want to appear more interested in her friends, so she'll start laughing. She may also feel nervous when you're around, and many people giggle or laugh when they're nervous.<ref name="rf1">http://www.thedatereport.com/dating/advice/signs-she-likes-you/</ref> |
| − | #Watch her body language. Does her face turn red when around you? She might stare at you for a long time, and smile when you look. Maybe when you look at her, she looks quickly away. These signs may mean she likes you. She may also look nervous because she has butterflies, meaning she likes you.<ref>http://kidshealth.org/en/kids/crushes.html</ref> | + | #Watch her body language. Does her face turn red when around you? She might stare at you for a long time, and smile when you look. Maybe when you look at her, she looks quickly away. These signs may mean she likes you. She may also look nervous because she has butterflies, meaning she likes you.<ref name="rf2">http://kidshealth.org/en/kids/crushes.html</ref> |
| − | #See if she gets clumsy near you. If you notice she seems to drop things when she's near you, that could be a sign she likes you. It could indicate she gets nervous when she's near you, causing her to drop things or be a bit clumsier.<ref>http://get-a-wingman.com/how-to-tell-if-a-shy-girl-likes-you/</ref> | + | #See if she gets clumsy near you. If you notice she seems to drop things when she's near you, that could be a sign she likes you. It could indicate she gets nervous when she's near you, causing her to drop things or be a bit clumsier.<ref name="rf3">http://get-a-wingman.com/how-to-tell-if-a-shy-girl-likes-you/</ref> |
=== Looking for Other Clues that She Likes You === | === Looking for Other Clues that She Likes You === | ||
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#Watch for signs on social media. One way to see if a girl likes you is to watch how she treats you on social media. Of course, you first need to friend her. Once you do, watch how she interacts with you. If she seems to pay extra attention to you, she may like you. For instance, maybe she "likes" everything you post or tags you in a number of her posts.<ReF>http://www.beyondtalk.net/likes-you-or-not/</ref> | #Watch for signs on social media. One way to see if a girl likes you is to watch how she treats you on social media. Of course, you first need to friend her. Once you do, watch how she interacts with you. If she seems to pay extra attention to you, she may like you. For instance, maybe she "likes" everything you post or tags you in a number of her posts.<ReF>http://www.beyondtalk.net/likes-you-or-not/</ref> | ||
#* For instance, if she writes "Cute!" on a selfie you posted, it may be she's flirting with you. | #* For instance, if she writes "Cute!" on a selfie you posted, it may be she's flirting with you. | ||
| − | #Notice how often she's around. If a girl likes you, she's going to find reasons to be near you. Even if you've never talked to her, you'll look up, and she'll be at the next table in the library or a few benches down at the basketball game. It's not that she's stalking you. Rather, she's probably hoping you'll notice her.<ref | + | #Notice how often she's around. If a girl likes you, she's going to find reasons to be near you. Even if you've never talked to her, you'll look up, and she'll be at the next table in the library or a few benches down at the basketball game. It's not that she's stalking you. Rather, she's probably hoping you'll notice her.<ref name="rf1" /> |
#* This approach may include things like walking through your line of sight or talking to people near you. | #* This approach may include things like walking through your line of sight or talking to people near you. | ||
| − | #Pay attention to what your instinct is telling you. If you're trying to figure out if someone likes you by analyzing everything she does, she may not be that into you. If someone likes you, you'll generally know it in your gut, with the exception of very shy people.<ref>http://teens.webmd.com/features/how-to-tell-if-someone-likes-you</ref> | + | #Pay attention to what your instinct is telling you. If you're trying to figure out if someone likes you by analyzing everything she does, she may not be that into you. If someone likes you, you'll generally know it in your gut, with the exception of very shy people.<ref name="rf4">http://teens.webmd.com/features/how-to-tell-if-someone-likes-you</ref> |
#* However, if you're not sure, it's always best to give it a shot by talking to her. The worst she can say is "No!" | #* However, if you're not sure, it's always best to give it a shot by talking to her. The worst she can say is "No!" | ||
| − | #Pay attention to when her shyness hits. If you notice that she seems to go up and talk to everyone, but avoids talking to you, she may just be nervous about talking to you. In other words, she doesn't talk to you because she likes you, and that makes her scared.<ref | + | #Pay attention to when her shyness hits. If you notice that she seems to go up and talk to everyone, but avoids talking to you, she may just be nervous about talking to you. In other words, she doesn't talk to you because she likes you, and that makes her scared.<ref name="rf3" /> |
#Use her friends to your advantage. Another step you could take is to talk to one of her friends, particularly if you have a class with one of them. A simple, "Hey, you're Jess's friend, right? Can I ask you something? Do you think Jess likes me?" is really all you need. | #Use her friends to your advantage. Another step you could take is to talk to one of her friends, particularly if you have a class with one of them. A simple, "Hey, you're Jess's friend, right? Can I ask you something? Do you think Jess likes me?" is really all you need. | ||
#* You can also watch how her friends react when you're around the whole group of them, including the girl you like. For instance, they may start whispering to each other, teasing the girl, or even pushing her in your direction. | #* You can also watch how her friends react when you're around the whole group of them, including the girl you like. For instance, they may start whispering to each other, teasing the girl, or even pushing her in your direction. | ||
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#* However, some girls are just shy, and they may not want to make eye contact with you. Try encouraging her with other steps. | #* However, some girls are just shy, and they may not want to make eye contact with you. Try encouraging her with other steps. | ||
#Smile at her. Smiling shows your interest, and makes it easy for her to smile back at you. Sometimes, it might take a while for both of you to just make eye contact and smile before you’re ready to actually talk to each other. Even if you’re nervous, smiling is a good way to make contact because a smile actually acts as a reward to other people. In other words, when you smile at her, her brain perceives it as a reward, making her happier to be around you.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201206/there-s-magic-in-your-smile</reF> | #Smile at her. Smiling shows your interest, and makes it easy for her to smile back at you. Sometimes, it might take a while for both of you to just make eye contact and smile before you’re ready to actually talk to each other. Even if you’re nervous, smiling is a good way to make contact because a smile actually acts as a reward to other people. In other words, when you smile at her, her brain perceives it as a reward, making her happier to be around you.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201206/there-s-magic-in-your-smile</reF> | ||
| − | #Make opportunities for her to talk to you. Don’t just hang around with the same group of friends. It’s much easier to approach someone who is alone rather than someone who's with a large group, so if you make sure you're alone sometime when she's around, she might come over and talk to you. You could also try and go alone to a place you know she will be to make yourself a little more available. You never know what might happen.<ref>http://kidshealth.org/en/kids/crushes.html#</ref> | + | #Make opportunities for her to talk to you. Don’t just hang around with the same group of friends. It’s much easier to approach someone who is alone rather than someone who's with a large group, so if you make sure you're alone sometime when she's around, she might come over and talk to you. You could also try and go alone to a place you know she will be to make yourself a little more available. You never know what might happen.<ref name="rf5">http://kidshealth.org/en/kids/crushes.html#</ref> |
#* For instance, maybe you notice she spends time at the library after school. Make it a point to show up there, too. Try sitting at a table near her, where she can see you. | #* For instance, maybe you notice she spends time at the library after school. Make it a point to show up there, too. Try sitting at a table near her, where she can see you. | ||
| − | #Say “hi.” It’s an easy first step and a way to acknowledge that you’re noticing each other. You don’t have to do much more at first if you’re shy. If she’s unwilling to say “hi” back, she might not be interested. Try it a few more times, but if she never responds, let it go.<ref>http://teens.webmd.com/features/how-to-tell-if-someone-likes-you?page=2</ref> | + | #Say “hi.” It’s an easy first step and a way to acknowledge that you’re noticing each other. You don’t have to do much more at first if you’re shy. If she’s unwilling to say “hi” back, she might not be interested. Try it a few more times, but if she never responds, let it go.<ref name="rf6">http://teens.webmd.com/features/how-to-tell-if-someone-likes-you?page=2</ref> |
#* You might be nervous about approaching her, but the only way you can really test your theory of whether she likes you or not is to actually talk to her. | #* You might be nervous about approaching her, but the only way you can really test your theory of whether she likes you or not is to actually talk to her. | ||
| − | #Think about how to start a conversation. If she’s responded to your greeting, you can move ahead to actually talking to each other. Consider what you know about her, as that can lead to a conversation. Is she part of the drama club, or does she play sports? Engaging with her about school activities is a great first way to make conversation. You could even try to be funny, but that can be hard.<ref>http://www.beyondtalk.net/talk-to-girls/</ref> | + | #Think about how to start a conversation. If she’s responded to your greeting, you can move ahead to actually talking to each other. Consider what you know about her, as that can lead to a conversation. Is she part of the drama club, or does she play sports? Engaging with her about school activities is a great first way to make conversation. You could even try to be funny, but that can be hard.<ref name="rf7">http://www.beyondtalk.net/talk-to-girls/</ref> |
#* You could ask, "Is your training on the track team really hard?" or "What did you think of the pep rally?" | #* You could ask, "Is your training on the track team really hard?" or "What did you think of the pep rally?" | ||
#* You could also say something like, "Wasn't the food gross in the cafeteria today? Isn't it awful what they call food?" or "Don’t you think Mr. Harrison looks and sounds a lot like Yoda?" | #* You could also say something like, "Wasn't the food gross in the cafeteria today? Isn't it awful what they call food?" or "Don’t you think Mr. Harrison looks and sounds a lot like Yoda?" | ||
| − | #Engage her in conversation. Now that you have some possible questions, find a good time to talk to her. It should be a time when neither of you is hurrying off to class or activities, and hopefully when you’re both alone. It can feel really awkward the first time, but it does get easier. If she really responds and starts asking you questions too, chances are that she is interested in you. If she doesn’t really respond, it’s likely she’s not that into you.<ref | + | #Engage her in conversation. Now that you have some possible questions, find a good time to talk to her. It should be a time when neither of you is hurrying off to class or activities, and hopefully when you’re both alone. It can feel really awkward the first time, but it does get easier. If she really responds and starts asking you questions too, chances are that she is interested in you. If she doesn’t really respond, it’s likely she’s not that into you.<ref name="rf6" /> |
#* For example, if you asked whether her track training was hard, she might say, "Yes, but I love it!" In that case, you could say, "Cool! What do you love about it? I've always thought about getting into running, but it seems really hard." | #* For example, if you asked whether her track training was hard, she might say, "Yes, but I love it!" In that case, you could say, "Cool! What do you love about it? I've always thought about getting into running, but it seems really hard." | ||
