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Knowing if someone will be receptive to a kiss can be the source of quite a bit of anxiety, but it doesn’t need to be. If you know what to pay attention to in someone’s conversation and body language, you can actually tell pretty accurately how well you’re doing and whether or not a kiss would be welcomed. Women often communicate more subtly than men--that is, they use (sometimes understated) body language cues rather than words or blunt physicality--so keep reading to find out how to tune into women’s kissing language and figure out if or when to make a move. | Knowing if someone will be receptive to a kiss can be the source of quite a bit of anxiety, but it doesn’t need to be. If you know what to pay attention to in someone’s conversation and body language, you can actually tell pretty accurately how well you’re doing and whether or not a kiss would be welcomed. Women often communicate more subtly than men--that is, they use (sometimes understated) body language cues rather than words or blunt physicality--so keep reading to find out how to tune into women’s kissing language and figure out if or when to make a move. | ||
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== Steps == | == Steps == | ||
=== Reading the Conversation === | === Reading the Conversation === | ||
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=== Reading Body Language === | === Reading Body Language === | ||
| − | #Read her posture. Note how she holds her body when you’re together.<ref>http://datingtips.match.com/signs-girl-wants-leave-her-alone-13443373.html</ref> | + | #Read her posture. Note how she holds her body when you’re together.<ref name="rf1">http://datingtips.match.com/signs-girl-wants-leave-her-alone-13443373.html</ref> |
#*If she turns her body towards you (shoulders, chest, and legs or feet), leans forward, and keeps her arms open rather than crossed, those are all positive body language cues. | #*If she turns her body towards you (shoulders, chest, and legs or feet), leans forward, and keeps her arms open rather than crossed, those are all positive body language cues. | ||
#*An open posture, while a good sign, needs to be taken in context as part of a series of positive cues. A woman may have open and engaged body posture, but may be feeling more friendly than amorous. | #*An open posture, while a good sign, needs to be taken in context as part of a series of positive cues. A woman may have open and engaged body posture, but may be feeling more friendly than amorous. | ||
#*If she gets close enough to touch and/or frequently leans into your personal space, that’s often a strong indicator of interest--just be sure she isn’t leaning in simply because it’s hard to hear you. | #*If she gets close enough to touch and/or frequently leans into your personal space, that’s often a strong indicator of interest--just be sure she isn’t leaning in simply because it’s hard to hear you. | ||
| − | #Gauge how she reacts to your touch. Pay close attention to how she reacts when you lightly touch her arm or her hand.<ref>http://www.rookiemag.com/2013/04/kissing-complete-guide/2/</ref> | + | #Gauge how she reacts to your touch. Pay close attention to how she reacts when you lightly touch her arm or her hand.<ref name="rf2">http://www.rookiemag.com/2013/04/kissing-complete-guide/2/</ref> |
#*If she stiffens or pulls away, that’s a sign she’s not yet comfortable, and going in for a kiss now probably won’t go well. | #*If she stiffens or pulls away, that’s a sign she’s not yet comfortable, and going in for a kiss now probably won’t go well. | ||
#*If she blushes, giggles, or smiles, those are signs she’s comfortable with you and would possibly be receptive to a kiss. | #*If she blushes, giggles, or smiles, those are signs she’s comfortable with you and would possibly be receptive to a kiss. | ||
#*If she lingers or presses against you while you’re saying your goodbyes, it’s often a sign that she’s reciprocating your affection. | #*If she lingers or presses against you while you’re saying your goodbyes, it’s often a sign that she’s reciprocating your affection. | ||
| − | #Ask. If you can’t determine from her actions and body language how she’s feeling, you can just ask.<ref>http://allwomenstalk.com/tips-on-how-to-kiss-a-girl-for-the-first-time/5/</ref> | + | #Ask. If you can’t determine from her actions and body language how she’s feeling, you can just ask.<ref name="rf3">http://allwomenstalk.com/tips-on-how-to-kiss-a-girl-for-the-first-time/5/</ref> |
#*Asking her permission before assuming she wants to kiss can be a sign of consideration on your part, and either way you’ll find out where you stand. | #*Asking her permission before assuming she wants to kiss can be a sign of consideration on your part, and either way you’ll find out where you stand. | ||
=== Making a Move === | === Making a Move === | ||
| − | #Move in closer. If her body language and engagement in the conversation are all encouraging, you can begin moving in closer and preparing to attempt a kiss.<ref>http://www.match.com/magazine/article.aspx?articleid=11733</ref> | + | #Move in closer. If her body language and engagement in the conversation are all encouraging, you can begin moving in closer and preparing to attempt a kiss.<ref name="rf4">http://www.match.com/magazine/article.aspx?articleid=11733</ref> |
#*If you give off the right signals, she could very well take note and reciprocate so that the kiss happens naturally and doesn’t feel awkward or unexpected. | #*If you give off the right signals, she could very well take note and reciprocate so that the kiss happens naturally and doesn’t feel awkward or unexpected. | ||
#*The first thing to do when trying to engage in a kiss is to move closer. If you’re sitting, sit so that part of your leg touches hers. | #*The first thing to do when trying to engage in a kiss is to move closer. If you’re sitting, sit so that part of your leg touches hers. | ||
#*If you’re standing, stand close to her and take or touch her hand. | #*If you’re standing, stand close to her and take or touch her hand. | ||
#*If she moves back when you try to move in closer or pulls away from your touch, it’s a pretty clear sign that she doesn’t want to get affectionate. | #*If she moves back when you try to move in closer or pulls away from your touch, it’s a pretty clear sign that she doesn’t want to get affectionate. | ||
| − | #Send the right signals. Up until now you’ve been focused on her body language, but now it’s time to give her a chance to read yours.<ref | + | #Send the right signals. Up until now you’ve been focused on her body language, but now it’s time to give her a chance to read yours.<ref name="rf2" /> |
#*Hold meaningful eye contact and move your gaze from her left eye to her right eye to her mouth and back, pausing for just a moment on each. Most people can read that as a clear sign of the desire for a kiss. | #*Hold meaningful eye contact and move your gaze from her left eye to her right eye to her mouth and back, pausing for just a moment on each. Most people can read that as a clear sign of the desire for a kiss. | ||
#*Slow things down. Slowing down the moment and the conversation can clear the way for an affectionate moment between you if she’s interested. So if you’re walking, slow down the pace. Let the conversation slow down but keep up meaningful closeness and eye contact. | #*Slow things down. Slowing down the moment and the conversation can clear the way for an affectionate moment between you if she’s interested. So if you’re walking, slow down the pace. Let the conversation slow down but keep up meaningful closeness and eye contact. | ||
#*If she doesn’t return the same level of eye contact or seems to want to put distance between you, it probably means she read the signals you’re sending and is now sending signals of her own that she doesn’t want to be kissed. | #*If she doesn’t return the same level of eye contact or seems to want to put distance between you, it probably means she read the signals you’re sending and is now sending signals of her own that she doesn’t want to be kissed. | ||
| − | #Lean in for the kiss. If at this point she’s responding positively to your body language and signals, you can go for a kiss.<ref>http://time.com/2800319/how-to-be-a-good-kisser-10-tips-from-scientific-research/</ref> | + | #Lean in for the kiss. If at this point she’s responding positively to your body language and signals, you can go for a kiss.<ref name="rf5">http://time.com/2800319/how-to-be-a-good-kisser-10-tips-from-scientific-research/</ref> |
#*Move in even closer and part your lips slightly, looking from her mouth to her eyes. | #*Move in even closer and part your lips slightly, looking from her mouth to her eyes. | ||
#*If she reciprocates, looking into your eyes and gazing back and forth between them and your mouth, go for it and kiss her. | #*If she reciprocates, looking into your eyes and gazing back and forth between them and your mouth, go for it and kiss her. | ||
