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Romance, when you're younger, can be difficult. Parents, teachers and other family members usually think you’re too young and not prepared for it. In addition to that, you may not know what to do because many of these situations are brand new. Kissing someone for the first time can be scary, and you may not know how to do it. Luckily, by following techniques and paying attention to the person you like, you can have that dream kiss that you’ve been waiting for. | Romance, when you're younger, can be difficult. Parents, teachers and other family members usually think you’re too young and not prepared for it. In addition to that, you may not know what to do because many of these situations are brand new. Kissing someone for the first time can be scary, and you may not know how to do it. Luckily, by following techniques and paying attention to the person you like, you can have that dream kiss that you’ve been waiting for. | ||
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== Steps == | == Steps == | ||
===Convincing Someone to Like You=== | ===Convincing Someone to Like You=== | ||
| − | #Be social, happy, and confident. In elementary school, the people that are liked the most are people who are active and social. Being aggressive or causing disruptive behavior could make you unpopular.<ref>http://www.pbs.org/parents/education/going-to-school/social/cliques/</ref> Try to keep your temper under wraps and go out of your way to talk to other kids in school. | + | #Be social, happy, and confident. In elementary school, the people that are liked the most are people who are active and social. Being aggressive or causing disruptive behavior could make you unpopular.<ref name="rf1">http://www.pbs.org/parents/education/going-to-school/social/cliques/</ref> Try to keep your temper under wraps and go out of your way to talk to other kids in school. |
| − | #*Trying different and new experiences, keeping close friends, and staying away from negative people will increase your happiness.<ref>http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/15-scientifically-proven-ways-to-be-happier.html</ref> | + | #*Trying different and new experiences, keeping close friends, and staying away from negative people will increase your happiness.<ref name="rf2">http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/15-scientifically-proven-ways-to-be-happier.html</ref> |
#*Go out of your way to talk to kids in school and try to make as many friends as possible. | #*Go out of your way to talk to kids in school and try to make as many friends as possible. | ||
#*Joining a sport or club may also make you more confident and social. | #*Joining a sport or club may also make you more confident and social. | ||
| − | #*If you aren’t known as the “social” kid in school, try to change that. Think about the way you dress, the way you talk to people, and how you interact with adults. Try to be happier and more outgoing every day until you are a more social person.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/growing-friendships/201312/popular-kids</ref> | + | #*If you aren’t known as the “social” kid in school, try to change that. Think about the way you dress, the way you talk to people, and how you interact with adults. Try to be happier and more outgoing every day until you are a more social person.<ref name="rf3">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/growing-friendships/201312/popular-kids</ref> |
#Try to hang out with them during recess. If you don’t know the person that you want to kiss very well, a great way to get to know them is to hang out with them during recess. If they are with a group of people, try to become friends with everyone that they hang out with. Make sure to show the person you’re interested in special attention, but don’t make it obvious to everyone around you. | #Try to hang out with them during recess. If you don’t know the person that you want to kiss very well, a great way to get to know them is to hang out with them during recess. If they are with a group of people, try to become friends with everyone that they hang out with. Make sure to show the person you’re interested in special attention, but don’t make it obvious to everyone around you. | ||
| − | #*Recess allows kids in elementary school to work on their social skills.<ref>http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/131/1/183</ref> | + | #*Recess allows kids in elementary school to work on their social skills.<ref name="rf4">http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/131/1/183</ref> |
| − | #*A great way to become part of the group is to talk to them about something they are interested in. This can be a new video game, a funny YouTube video, or a musician that they like.<ref | + | #*A great way to become part of the group is to talk to them about something they are interested in. This can be a new video game, a funny YouTube video, or a musician that they like.<ref name="rf3" /> |
#*Ask them something about themselves. You can say something like "Hey, I noticed that you have a Pokemon bag, I really like Pokemon. What's your favorite?" Think of something that they are interested in and start a conversation about that. | #*Ask them something about themselves. You can say something like "Hey, I noticed that you have a Pokemon bag, I really like Pokemon. What's your favorite?" Think of something that they are interested in and start a conversation about that. | ||
#Join their group for class projects. If your teacher lets you pick your own partner or group for a class project, make sure to team up with the person you’re trying to kiss. This will give you an opportunity to talk to them. | #Join their group for class projects. If your teacher lets you pick your own partner or group for a class project, make sure to team up with the person you’re trying to kiss. This will give you an opportunity to talk to them. | ||
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#*Something as simple as "Hi, how are you today?" might open up a conversation with the person. Get in the habit of doing this daily so they know you want to be friends. | #*Something as simple as "Hi, how are you today?" might open up a conversation with the person. Get in the habit of doing this daily so they know you want to be friends. | ||
===Knowing When the Time is Right=== | ===Knowing When the Time is Right=== | ||
| − | #Talk to them about how they feel about kissing. There is a tendency for younger people in elementary school to socialize with people they don’t like romantically. Kissing may not be for everyone, so it’s important that you understand the person you want to kiss, and how they feel about kissing.<ref>http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/154-parents</ref> | + | #Talk to them about how they feel about kissing. There is a tendency for younger people in elementary school to socialize with people they don’t like romantically. Kissing may not be for everyone, so it’s important that you understand the person you want to kiss, and how they feel about kissing.<ref name="rf5">http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/154-parents</ref> |
#*Ask them about kissing. If they seem grossed out or embarrassed, they may not be ready for a kiss. | #*Ask them about kissing. If they seem grossed out or embarrassed, they may not be ready for a kiss. | ||
#*You don’t have to give away your intentions to kiss them. Say something like “My older brother kissed his girlfriend in front of me. What do you think about kissing?” | #*You don’t have to give away your intentions to kiss them. Say something like “My older brother kissed his girlfriend in front of me. What do you think about kissing?” | ||
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#Think about how they treat you. If someone does not like you, they probably won’t want to kiss you. Think about how you talk and treat each other. If they are constantly telling you to go away, that you’re annoying, or that they don’t want to be around you, it’s a good sign they don’t like you. | #Think about how they treat you. If someone does not like you, they probably won’t want to kiss you. Think about how you talk and treat each other. If they are constantly telling you to go away, that you’re annoying, or that they don’t want to be around you, it’s a good sign they don’t like you. | ||
#*If they always go out of their way to help you and always wants to talk to you, they may like you. | #*If they always go out of their way to help you and always wants to talk to you, they may like you. | ||
| − | #*If they tease you, don’t lose hope. Some kids in elementary school tease other kids because they like them.<ref>http://studio5.ksl.com/?nid=71&sid=19259729</ref> If they go out of their way to talk to you and be around you, it might be a sign that they actually like you, even if teasing is involved. | + | #*If they tease you, don’t lose hope. Some kids in elementary school tease other kids because they like them.<ref name="rf6">http://studio5.ksl.com/?nid=71&sid=19259729</ref> If they go out of their way to talk to you and be around you, it might be a sign that they actually like you, even if teasing is involved. |
#If the person doesn’t like you, move on. You can’t force or trick anyone to like you. If you feel like your crush doesn’t like you, try to find someone else. It might be hard and it may make you very sad, but you shouldn’t be ashamed. There are plenty of people that will enjoy your company. | #If the person doesn’t like you, move on. You can’t force or trick anyone to like you. If you feel like your crush doesn’t like you, try to find someone else. It might be hard and it may make you very sad, but you shouldn’t be ashamed. There are plenty of people that will enjoy your company. | ||
#*Try to make friends with other kids in school to take your mind off the person you want to kiss. | #*Try to make friends with other kids in school to take your mind off the person you want to kiss. | ||
#*Don’t give up immediately. Don’t assume they don’t like you without trying to talk to them. | #*Don’t give up immediately. Don’t assume they don’t like you without trying to talk to them. | ||
| − | #Look at their body language and see how they act. If you want to kiss a boy, there are common signs that point to if he likes your or not. If he fiddles with his shirt or socks, leans or stands with a wide stance, talks with his hands, or seems nervous, there’s a good chance he likes you.<ref>http://slism.com/girlstalk/is-he-flirting-with-me-5-ways-to-read-his-body-language.html</ref> If you’re curious if a girl likes you, she will usually tilt her head towards you, point her feet in your direction, play with her hair, or will blush when she’s around you.<ref>http://www.scienceofpeople.com/2013/07/body-language-of-attraction/?utm_expid=40598772-17.uJs4PDefRa2HAY2q6qfXNw.0</ref> | + | #Look at their body language and see how they act. If you want to kiss a boy, there are common signs that point to if he likes your or not. If he fiddles with his shirt or socks, leans or stands with a wide stance, talks with his hands, or seems nervous, there’s a good chance he likes you.<ref name="rf7">http://slism.com/girlstalk/is-he-flirting-with-me-5-ways-to-read-his-body-language.html</ref> If you’re curious if a girl likes you, she will usually tilt her head towards you, point her feet in your direction, play with her hair, or will blush when she’s around you.<ref name="rf8">http://www.scienceofpeople.com/2013/07/body-language-of-attraction/?utm_expid=40598772-17.uJs4PDefRa2HAY2q6qfXNw.0</ref> |
#*Don’t take every action as a sign of something. Only consider this advice if this is how they always act around you. | #*Don’t take every action as a sign of something. Only consider this advice if this is how they always act around you. | ||
| − | #Act confidently when you’re around them. Even if you’re scared or self conscious, act like you are confident. If you smile, stand up straight, and talk clearly, it will appear like you're confident even if you’re not.<ref>http://liveboldandbloom.com/10/self-confidence/body-language-tips</ref> | + | #Act confidently when you’re around them. Even if you’re scared or self conscious, act like you are confident. If you smile, stand up straight, and talk clearly, it will appear like you're confident even if you’re not.<ref name="rf9">http://liveboldandbloom.com/10/self-confidence/body-language-tips</ref> |
#*Try practicing when you’re in other situations so you can do it naturally when you’re around your crush. | #*Try practicing when you’re in other situations so you can do it naturally when you’re around your crush. | ||
===Kissing Someone=== | ===Kissing Someone=== | ||
| − | #Go to a spot alone with them. You don’t want your kiss to be out in the open with everyone staring at you. Try to find a place where there are not a lot of people. If you kiss in school, you may get in trouble if the teachers see you doing it.<ref>http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/27/education/boy-6-suspended-in-sexual-assault-case-at-elementary-school.html</ref> | + | #Go to a spot alone with them. You don’t want your kiss to be out in the open with everyone staring at you. Try to find a place where there are not a lot of people. If you kiss in school, you may get in trouble if the teachers see you doing it.<ref name="rf10">http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/27/education/boy-6-suspended-in-sexual-assault-case-at-elementary-school.html</ref> |
#*Other good places to kiss are at a school dance, during a school sports event, or if you are hanging out outside of school. Just try to stay out of the open when you do it. | #*Other good places to kiss are at a school dance, during a school sports event, or if you are hanging out outside of school. Just try to stay out of the open when you do it. | ||
#*Ask the person by saying, "Hey, do you want to go and hang out alone over there? It's a lot less quiet and we can talk." | #*Ask the person by saying, "Hey, do you want to go and hang out alone over there? It's a lot less quiet and we can talk." | ||
| − | #Gaze into their eyes. The eyes can show a range of emotions, and are important for romance.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201503/loving-eye-contact-how-mutual-staring-can-create-passion</ref> Pay attention to how the other person reacts when you look into their eyes. If they look uncomfortable, they may not want to kiss you. | + | #Gaze into their eyes. The eyes can show a range of emotions, and are important for romance.<ref name="rf11">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201503/loving-eye-contact-how-mutual-staring-can-create-passion</ref> Pay attention to how the other person reacts when you look into their eyes. If they look uncomfortable, they may not want to kiss you. |
#*The other person will most likely be nervous. Don’t confuse this with them not liking you. | #*The other person will most likely be nervous. Don’t confuse this with them not liking you. | ||
#*If you’re unsure, you can ask them "Do you like being alone with me? Do you like me?" or "Would you mind if I kissed you?" If they are not pulling away and look comfortable as you gaze into their eyes, you may not have to ask them permission because they may want to kiss you as well. | #*If you’re unsure, you can ask them "Do you like being alone with me? Do you like me?" or "Would you mind if I kissed you?" If they are not pulling away and look comfortable as you gaze into their eyes, you may not have to ask them permission because they may want to kiss you as well. | ||
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#Touch your lips on their lips, or on their cheek. Go in for the kiss and don’t think about the consequences. This will probably be very hard to do at first. However, if you never take that first step, you won’t be able to kiss anyone. | #Touch your lips on their lips, or on their cheek. Go in for the kiss and don’t think about the consequences. This will probably be very hard to do at first. However, if you never take that first step, you won’t be able to kiss anyone. | ||
#*For younger kids in elementary school, make sure to kiss on the cheek so that they aren’t grossed out or startled by you. | #*For younger kids in elementary school, make sure to kiss on the cheek so that they aren’t grossed out or startled by you. | ||
| − | #*If you are kissing on the lips, make sure you brush your teeth or use a mint before doing it.<ref>https://pairedlife.com/physical-intimacy/PandasKissingHub</ref> | + | #*If you are kissing on the lips, make sure you brush your teeth or use a mint before doing it.<ref name="rf12">https://pairedlife.com/physical-intimacy/PandasKissingHub</ref> |
== Warnings == | == Warnings == | ||
*You can get in trouble for kissing. | *You can get in trouble for kissing. | ||
| − | *You may not be emotionally ready for kissing. The suggested age according to some psychologists is 16 years old.<ref>https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/teen/dating-sex/Pages/When-To-Let-Your-Teenager-Start-Dating.aspx</ref> | + | *You may not be emotionally ready for kissing. The suggested age according to some psychologists is 16 years old.<ref name="rf13">https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/teen/dating-sex/Pages/When-To-Let-Your-Teenager-Start-Dating.aspx</ref> |
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