Difference between revisions of "Keep Annoying Family Members out of Your Room"
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== Steps == | == Steps == | ||
===Communicating Directly with Your Family=== | ===Communicating Directly with Your Family=== | ||
| − | #Explain your feelings in a calm and respectful way. This is the best way to talk to your family about privacy. Ask them nicely to respect your space and privacy, just as you respect theirs. Do this without pleading, whining, getting upset or acting victimized. Be firm, to the point and respectful throughout the entire conversation.<ref> http://www.beinggirl.com/article/dealing-with-siblings/</ref> | + | #Explain your feelings in a calm and respectful way. This is the best way to talk to your family about privacy. Ask them nicely to respect your space and privacy, just as you respect theirs. Do this without pleading, whining, getting upset or acting victimized. Be firm, to the point and respectful throughout the entire conversation.<ref name="rf1"> http://www.beinggirl.com/article/dealing-with-siblings/</ref> |
#* You can say things like, "I don't feel like I have any personal space or privacy in my bedroom. Can we talk about that? It's upsetting me." | #* You can say things like, "I don't feel like I have any personal space or privacy in my bedroom. Can we talk about that? It's upsetting me." | ||
#* Or you could try to put a knocking policy into place. Start the conversation with something like, "I want to start a new rule in the house about knocking before entering. Can we have a family meeting about that?" | #* Or you could try to put a knocking policy into place. Start the conversation with something like, "I want to start a new rule in the house about knocking before entering. Can we have a family meeting about that?" | ||
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#* Bring a parent in your room to inspect your handiwork, if necessary. | #* Bring a parent in your room to inspect your handiwork, if necessary. | ||
#* If you don’t take care of these things yourself, family members (especially your parents) will be forced to come in and take care of these things themselves. | #* If you don’t take care of these things yourself, family members (especially your parents) will be forced to come in and take care of these things themselves. | ||
| − | #Show mutual respect.<ref | + | #Show mutual respect.<ref name="rf1" /> If you want your wishes to be respected, you have to show that same respect toward your family members. Never barge into their rooms unannounced. Always knock on their bedroom doors and wait until they ask you to come in before opening their door. |
#* Even if your family members haven’t started respecting your privacy yet, start respecting theirs. | #* Even if your family members haven’t started respecting your privacy yet, start respecting theirs. | ||
#* Set an example by treating everyone in the house the exact same way that you want to be treated. | #* Set an example by treating everyone in the house the exact same way that you want to be treated. | ||
===Preventing Entry Into Your Room=== | ===Preventing Entry Into Your Room=== | ||
| − | #Get a lock for your bedroom door. There are several ways to approach this. The easiest way is to get a portable door lock that can be easily installed and removed by you (no tools required). Addalock is one of the most famous brands.<ref>https://www.addalock.com/shop/addalock/</ref> You could also get a brand new door knob that locks with a key at a hardware store and install it yourself (or ask a family member to help). | + | #Get a lock for your bedroom door. There are several ways to approach this. The easiest way is to get a portable door lock that can be easily installed and removed by you (no tools required). Addalock is one of the most famous brands.<ref name="rf2">https://www.addalock.com/shop/addalock/</ref> You could also get a brand new door knob that locks with a key at a hardware store and install it yourself (or ask a family member to help). |
#* Another option is to get a chain lock at a hardware store and install that yourself (or ask for help). | #* Another option is to get a chain lock at a hardware store and install that yourself (or ask for help). | ||
#* If your parents are reluctant to allow you to lock your door, explain to them exactly why you feel that your privacy is being violated. | #* If your parents are reluctant to allow you to lock your door, explain to them exactly why you feel that your privacy is being violated. | ||
#Barricade your door. If you’re in your room and you want privacy, barricade your door by wedging a chair under the door knob or pushing a piece of furniture in front of it. This is only helpful if you’re actually in your room when someone tries to barge in, but it will prevent them from being able to do it. | #Barricade your door. If you’re in your room and you want privacy, barricade your door by wedging a chair under the door knob or pushing a piece of furniture in front of it. This is only helpful if you’re actually in your room when someone tries to barge in, but it will prevent them from being able to do it. | ||
#* Make sure that you can quickly and easily remove whatever you’re barricading your door with, if necessary, in the event of an emergency. | #* Make sure that you can quickly and easily remove whatever you’re barricading your door with, if necessary, in the event of an emergency. | ||
| − | #Use a doorstop to hold the door closed.<ref>https://household-tips.thefuntimesguide.com/2011/10/door-stops.php</ref> Doorstops are wedge-shaped tools that can be used to hold a door open or closed. Block family members from opening the door by shoving a doorstop under your door when you're in your bedroom. If you don't have a doorstop, you can easily improvise one. Use anything that will fit tightly in the space between the bottom of your door and the floor. | + | #Use a doorstop to hold the door closed.<ref name="rf3">https://household-tips.thefuntimesguide.com/2011/10/door-stops.php</ref> Doorstops are wedge-shaped tools that can be used to hold a door open or closed. Block family members from opening the door by shoving a doorstop under your door when you're in your bedroom. If you don't have a doorstop, you can easily improvise one. Use anything that will fit tightly in the space between the bottom of your door and the floor. |
#* The more things you wedge tightly under the door, the stronger the barricade is, so if you're concerned it won't hold, use multiple items. | #* The more things you wedge tightly under the door, the stronger the barricade is, so if you're concerned it won't hold, use multiple items. | ||
#* Grab a pair of old sneakers and shove the toe end of both of them under your door. Space them out a little for a stronger hold. | #* Grab a pair of old sneakers and shove the toe end of both of them under your door. Space them out a little for a stronger hold. | ||
#* Shove a big fluffy towel under your door. Really cram it under there so that it will hold, or use multiple towels. | #* Shove a big fluffy towel under your door. Really cram it under there so that it will hold, or use multiple towels. | ||
===Hanging Out with Them Outside of Your Room=== | ===Hanging Out with Them Outside of Your Room=== | ||
| − | #Work on a project together.<ref>http://www.beinggirl.com/article/dealing-with-siblings/</ref> Sometimes siblings just want a little attention from you. Come up with a project that you can work on together outside of your bedroom. If you're dealing with a very small sibling, come up with a fun art project you can work on together. | + | #Work on a project together.<ref name="rf4">http://www.beinggirl.com/article/dealing-with-siblings/</ref> Sometimes siblings just want a little attention from you. Come up with a project that you can work on together outside of your bedroom. If you're dealing with a very small sibling, come up with a fun art project you can work on together. |
#* If it's someone a little older, ask for their help on something, like going shopping with you to get a parent a birthday gift or even making something creative together as the gift. | #* If it's someone a little older, ask for their help on something, like going shopping with you to get a parent a birthday gift or even making something creative together as the gift. | ||
#* Giving a family member a little attention outside of your bedroom will hopefully make them less inclined to barge in your room constantly for attention. | #* Giving a family member a little attention outside of your bedroom will hopefully make them less inclined to barge in your room constantly for attention. | ||
