Tell Your Best Friend You "Like Like" Them
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Need a guide to tell your best friend how you really feel? Read the guide below.
Steps
- Get the other person alone. If you are wanting to tell this person how you feel, it would be best to do so in private. This way, you both have the opportunity to hear each other out and say what you really feel without any interruptions or comments from others. Don't come off too strong, but also try not to hold any feelings you have back. If you only want them to know, and nobody else, it's best to find a way to get you alone instead of asking them to talk alone, for this can make it obvious. If for some reason you can't get them alone because of some friends or their busy or something, text or call them to try to meet up somewhere you can be alone and you both feel comfortable.
- Do something together that you both enjoy. Doing something that you both enjoy together is a brilliant ice-breaker. For example, if you both like to draw, bring some paper to keep each other occupied. Or, if you both like Jump-Rope or browsing at the video game store, you can do that. Once you are both enjoying yourself, you can begin to hint that you like this friend.
- Make casual conversation. Start off casual, you don't want to leap straight into it and start off too strong. If your friend is not the 'open' type, try to slowly ease onto the topic. Keep it casual and calm.
- Make sure your friend is single. You don't want to become the 'other person' in the relationship. If your friend isn't single then it is best to just remain friends until (if)the relationship is over. Do not make your friend chose between you and their current spouse.
- Try to work the conversation in the 'love affairs' direction. If you followed the previous step, casual conversation should be established by now. Slowly but surely work the love topic into your conversation, you can do this as subtly or not, as you like.
- You could always write a love letter to him/her. You can also try write a love poem if you can. If they are the romantic kind they will really appreciate this! Write them a cute, kind letter and they may just fall for you.
- Just blurt it out! If the suspense is killing you, just say it. This is risky, but is also by far the easiest!
Tips
- If this really bothers you, and you simply can't stand it any more, then you should act sooner than later so it won't devastate you.
- Think through this before you actually do the planning. there is nothing wrong with taking a little time to see if he likes you back, and figure it out if you're okay by risking your relationship.
- If you feel that risking a friendship may not be a good thing, consider not telling the person. You would hate to have a really good friend and then have them not like you back in that way. Then every time you hang out, it would be really awkward. Do what's best for you, then and the friendship. That's the most important thing.
- Love that one person forever! You came all this way to look it up. If he says yes, keep him now.
- Don't tell them if they're really interested in another person that they talk to you about. Instead you could ask their best friend what they think.
- Try to determine if your friend is interested in a relationship in general, it might not be the right time to act.
- Although it may seem easier, avoid telling them "digitally" (e.g. through a text message, instant message, e-mail, or on a social network). This kind of news deserves to be heard in real life.
- Be subtle in guiding the conversations toward the "love affairs" topic.
- Try to figure out if your friend likes you.
- Be yourself, the person he/she already knows.
Warning
- Make sure you fully understand that once you tell them, this drastically changes your relationship forever. If you go into a relationship and it falls apart, you might end up losing a very good friend.
