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===Having Fun If Your Devices Were Taken Away=== | ===Having Fun If Your Devices Were Taken Away=== | ||
| − | #Read a book.<ref>http://www.teenink.com/nonfiction/all/article/289126/101-Things-to-do-When-You-Are-Grounded/</ref> If your parents saw fit to confiscate all your electronics, reading a book is usually your best option. Although you may find books less exciting than video games or TV at first, becoming immersed in a good book is incredibly enjoyable. Provided you choose the right book, the time can shoot past like nothing at all. | + | #Read a book.<ref name="rf1">http://www.teenink.com/nonfiction/all/article/289126/101-Things-to-do-When-You-Are-Grounded/</ref> If your parents saw fit to confiscate all your electronics, reading a book is usually your best option. Although you may find books less exciting than video games or TV at first, becoming immersed in a good book is incredibly enjoyable. Provided you choose the right book, the time can shoot past like nothing at all. |
#*Lying down on your bed and reading is a relaxing way to go about this. | #*Lying down on your bed and reading is a relaxing way to go about this. | ||
#*Young adult fiction usually comes in the form of series. This can be handy if you have a lot of downtime to work with. | #*Young adult fiction usually comes in the form of series. This can be handy if you have a lot of downtime to work with. | ||
| − | #Do something creative. Paint a picture. Write a story.<ref>http://dorkdiaries.com/2012/07/what-to-do-when-grounded/</ref> Creative things can sometimes feel like work, but the truth is that they're incredibly enjoyable ways to pass the time. If you a given amount of time being grounded, you should think about doing something creative by the end of it. That way, you can turn something negative like a grounding into a beautiful thing. | + | #Do something creative. Paint a picture. Write a story.<ref name="rf2">http://dorkdiaries.com/2012/07/what-to-do-when-grounded/</ref> Creative things can sometimes feel like work, but the truth is that they're incredibly enjoyable ways to pass the time. If you a given amount of time being grounded, you should think about doing something creative by the end of it. That way, you can turn something negative like a grounding into a beautiful thing. |
#Spend time with siblings. If you have any siblings, the company of family members besides your parents can be a great comfort. Depending on the sort of relationship you have with brothers or sisters, you can share a variety of activities together. In some cases, you might even be able to do things with them that you would otherwise be banned from, like video games and movies. In general however, it's recommended that you simply try to talk to them. Conversation can be very enjoyable on its own when it's with the right people. | #Spend time with siblings. If you have any siblings, the company of family members besides your parents can be a great comfort. Depending on the sort of relationship you have with brothers or sisters, you can share a variety of activities together. In some cases, you might even be able to do things with them that you would otherwise be banned from, like video games and movies. In general however, it's recommended that you simply try to talk to them. Conversation can be very enjoyable on its own when it's with the right people. | ||
#*Board games are an enjoyable, disconnected way to spend time. You will need other players to play however. If you have siblings, you should try to enlist them in a game or two. | #*Board games are an enjoyable, disconnected way to spend time. You will need other players to play however. If you have siblings, you should try to enlist them in a game or two. | ||
#Try on different outfits. You probably don't think of your wardrobe as a potential source of fun. All the same, the down time you have available to you can be used as an opportunity to see what sets of clothing match best with others. This is easiest if you already have a body mirror in your bedroom. If you're usually the sort of person who throws a random outfit together, this can be your chance to get some skill in fashion. | #Try on different outfits. You probably don't think of your wardrobe as a potential source of fun. All the same, the down time you have available to you can be used as an opportunity to see what sets of clothing match best with others. This is easiest if you already have a body mirror in your bedroom. If you're usually the sort of person who throws a random outfit together, this can be your chance to get some skill in fashion. | ||
| − | #*If you're a girl, you can experiment with different hairstyles and makeup as well.<ref | + | #*If you're a girl, you can experiment with different hairstyles and makeup as well.<ref name="rf2" /> |
| − | #Reorganize your room.<ref | + | #Reorganize your room.<ref name="rf2" /> Reorganizing your room sounds like work at a glance, but it can become a form of creative expression if you really get into it. Moving around furniture or redecorating your bulletin board can have a big effect on the atmosphere of your bedroom. Once you get started with organizing, it can be difficult to stop! |
===Having Fun With Electronics=== | ===Having Fun With Electronics=== | ||
| − | #Surf the internet. Surfing the internet takes up hours of people's time without them even realizing it. The internet has a virtually unlimited stream of information. Try Google searching something you find interesting, or go for an info hunt on Wikipedia.<ref>https://www.wikipedia.org</ref> If you just want the time to pass faster, sites like Buzzfeed specialize in mildly amusing distractions.<ref>http://www.buzzfeed.com</ref> The possibilities for the web are endless, and virtually every curiosity can be satisfied with a working internet connection. | + | #Surf the internet. Surfing the internet takes up hours of people's time without them even realizing it. The internet has a virtually unlimited stream of information. Try Google searching something you find interesting, or go for an info hunt on Wikipedia.<ref name="rf3">https://www.wikipedia.org</ref> If you just want the time to pass faster, sites like Buzzfeed specialize in mildly amusing distractions.<ref name="rf4">http://www.buzzfeed.com</ref> The possibilities for the web are endless, and virtually every curiosity can be satisfied with a working internet connection. |
#Binge watch a good TV show. Nothing quite makes the time fly past than a great TV show. Shows from AMC and HBO are often film-quality, and can keep you occupied for hours and hours. Watch a show via Netflix or your computer. It's recommended that you do this in your bedroom where it's private. If your parents see you watching TV, they might make a stink about it. | #Binge watch a good TV show. Nothing quite makes the time fly past than a great TV show. Shows from AMC and HBO are often film-quality, and can keep you occupied for hours and hours. Watch a show via Netflix or your computer. It's recommended that you do this in your bedroom where it's private. If your parents see you watching TV, they might make a stink about it. | ||
#*Movies are always recommended as well, but because it's assumed you probably have a fair amount of time on your hands, you have a perfect opportunity to catch up on longer TV shows. | #*Movies are always recommended as well, but because it's assumed you probably have a fair amount of time on your hands, you have a perfect opportunity to catch up on longer TV shows. | ||
#Play a video game. Video games are lots of fun. If you have a console in your house, there's a good chance you already go out of your way to play them. If it's just a matter of not being able to go see friends, video games are a great way to kill time. What's more, you can play a multiplayer game and interact with your friends as such. | #Play a video game. Video games are lots of fun. If you have a console in your house, there's a good chance you already go out of your way to play them. If it's just a matter of not being able to go see friends, video games are a great way to kill time. What's more, you can play a multiplayer game and interact with your friends as such. | ||
| − | #Text your friends.<ref | + | #Text your friends.<ref name="rf1" /> If you would normally be out spending time with your friends, it will probably feel weird to be separated from them for a time. Luckily, if your phone wasn't confiscated, you can keep in contact with them over the phone. Let your friends in on the situation, and get them to keep you up to date on what's going on with the outside world. |
#Make plans with friends once your grounding is up. If you have your phone or a computer and wish you were out with friends, it can feel good to make plans for a day after you're ungrounded again. Suggest to go see a movie together, or meet up for food. Although it won't change your current setting much, the fact that you'll have a social event to look forward to once the punishment is over. | #Make plans with friends once your grounding is up. If you have your phone or a computer and wish you were out with friends, it can feel good to make plans for a day after you're ungrounded again. Suggest to go see a movie together, or meet up for food. Although it won't change your current setting much, the fact that you'll have a social event to look forward to once the punishment is over. | ||
===Coping With Your Parents=== | ===Coping With Your Parents=== | ||
| − | #Apologize.<ref | + | #Apologize.<ref name="rf2" /> Even if you're not entirely sorry for what you did, apologizing to your parents for what you did will work out big in your favour. If your parents think you are truly regretful for whatever you did, they'll be that much more likely to ease restrictions and unground you. |
| − | #See things from their perspective.<ref>http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/05/19/7-things-parents-should-know-about-grounding-teen-article/</ref> When parents ground you, they're usually not doing it just as a way to get at you. Rather, they're using a punishment to teach you a lesson. If you try to understand why they've grounded you, your attitude towards them may change. Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes. Whether you think you deserved to be grounded or not, try to imagine how something looked from their perspective. Most parents do not go out of their way to be purposefully unfair. Trying to empathize with your parents' side may help you better understand the situation. | + | #See things from their perspective.<ref name="rf5">http://www.radicalparenting.com/2009/05/19/7-things-parents-should-know-about-grounding-teen-article/</ref> When parents ground you, they're usually not doing it just as a way to get at you. Rather, they're using a punishment to teach you a lesson. If you try to understand why they've grounded you, your attitude towards them may change. Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes. Whether you think you deserved to be grounded or not, try to imagine how something looked from their perspective. Most parents do not go out of their way to be purposefully unfair. Trying to empathize with your parents' side may help you better understand the situation. |
#*If you end up feeling like you deserved some form of punishment, the grounding won't feel as bad. On the other hand, if you empathize and still feel like things were misinterpreted, you can bring the issue up with them if you think they're open for discussion. | #*If you end up feeling like you deserved some form of punishment, the grounding won't feel as bad. On the other hand, if you empathize and still feel like things were misinterpreted, you can bring the issue up with them if you think they're open for discussion. | ||
#Negotiate a deal. Many parents will accept other forms of restitution as a way to replace or shorten the grounding. While you'll most definitely need to apologize first in order to open a dialogue with them, you should come prepared with a few ideas on how you're going to make up for whatever it is you did. For example, you should suggest that a day of your grounding be removed in exchange for doing the dishes or sweeping the downstairs floors. These alternative punishments are usually a hit with parents because they'll get something real done for them. | #Negotiate a deal. Many parents will accept other forms of restitution as a way to replace or shorten the grounding. While you'll most definitely need to apologize first in order to open a dialogue with them, you should come prepared with a few ideas on how you're going to make up for whatever it is you did. For example, you should suggest that a day of your grounding be removed in exchange for doing the dishes or sweeping the downstairs floors. These alternative punishments are usually a hit with parents because they'll get something real done for them. | ||
#*Some parents are very strict and won't be open to negotiating. This is something you'll have to deal with if you're in a strict family setting. | #*Some parents are very strict and won't be open to negotiating. This is something you'll have to deal with if you're in a strict family setting. | ||
| − | #Keep your emotions under control.<ref | + | #Keep your emotions under control.<ref name="rf5" /> If you've been grounded for whatever reason, it is natural to feel angry. However, letting these feelings loose will only spell bad news for you and your family situation. Even if you think you're being punished without cause, you should make a firm point of keeping your composure. A simple grounding can be made into something much worse if fighting keeps up. |
==Tips== | ==Tips== | ||
