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#*If you have listed that you want a girl who is kind and caring, then she might volunteer at the local homeless shelter or animal rescue. Try signing up for some volunteer hours as well. | #*If you have listed that you want a girl who is kind and caring, then she might volunteer at the local homeless shelter or animal rescue. Try signing up for some volunteer hours as well. | ||
#*If you want a girl who has the same political or religious philosophy as you do, then attend local political activism meetings or religious services. | #*If you want a girl who has the same political or religious philosophy as you do, then attend local political activism meetings or religious services. | ||
| − | #Go places you usually go. Many people find someone who they feel connected to just by going about their usual business, such as by going to school, work, church, or to community gatherings.<ref>http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/15141/1/Tips-on-How-to-Find-the-Right-Girl.html</ref> Try to stick to your routine and pay attention to the girls who are usually there. One of them might be the perfect girl for you.<ref> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201408/how-and-where-meet-women-or-men</ref> | + | #Go places you usually go. Many people find someone who they feel connected to just by going about their usual business, such as by going to school, work, church, or to community gatherings.<ref name="rf1">http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/15141/1/Tips-on-How-to-Find-the-Right-Girl.html</ref> Try to stick to your routine and pay attention to the girls who are usually there. One of them might be the perfect girl for you.<ref name="rf2"> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201408/how-and-where-meet-women-or-men</ref> |
#*Try talking with girls who you see on a regular basis. For example, you can strike up a conversation by saying something like, “I see you here all the time. I am a regular here, too.” | #*Try talking with girls who you see on a regular basis. For example, you can strike up a conversation by saying something like, “I see you here all the time. I am a regular here, too.” | ||
#*Or, “How long have you been with the company? I have been here about a year, but I don’t think we have ever had a conversation.” | #*Or, “How long have you been with the company? I have been here about a year, but I don’t think we have ever had a conversation.” | ||
| − | #Ask your friends if they know anyone. Although blind dates have a reputation for being awkward, lots of people actually meet their significant other through a friend. Try asking your male and female friends if they know any single girls who might good a match for you.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201408/how-and-where-meet-women-or-men</ref> | + | #Ask your friends if they know anyone. Although blind dates have a reputation for being awkward, lots of people actually meet their significant other through a friend. Try asking your male and female friends if they know any single girls who might good a match for you.<ref name="rf3">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201408/how-and-where-meet-women-or-men</ref> |
#*Be sure to tell your friends what type of girl you are looking for in detail, such as by sharing your lists of traits and interests with them. Your friends might have a different definition of a “sweet” girl, so be as clear as possible about what you are seeking. | #*Be sure to tell your friends what type of girl you are looking for in detail, such as by sharing your lists of traits and interests with them. Your friends might have a different definition of a “sweet” girl, so be as clear as possible about what you are seeking. | ||
| − | #Try online dating. Online dating is also a great avenue for meeting a girl. A great benefit of this method is that you can say exactly what you are looking for and connect with girls who have those traits and interests.<ref | + | #Try online dating. Online dating is also a great avenue for meeting a girl. A great benefit of this method is that you can say exactly what you are looking for and connect with girls who have those traits and interests.<ref name="rf2" /> Try making a profile on an online dating site to meet some girls who have the qualities you are looking for. |
#*Online dating is also a great option if you are a bit shy. You can talk to girls who are interested in you and not have to worry so much about rejection. | #*Online dating is also a great option if you are a bit shy. You can talk to girls who are interested in you and not have to worry so much about rejection. | ||
===Flirting With a Girl You Like=== | ===Flirting With a Girl You Like=== | ||
| − | #[[Take Care of Yourself|Take good care of yourself]]. Before you head out to do some flirting, take stock of your personal care routine. Taking good care of yourself is an attractive trait. Make sure that you are taking good care of yourself, such as by:<ref> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201402/how-flirt-and-be-attractive </ref> | + | #[[Take Care of Yourself|Take good care of yourself]]. Before you head out to do some flirting, take stock of your personal care routine. Taking good care of yourself is an attractive trait. Make sure that you are taking good care of yourself, such as by:<ref name="rf4"> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201402/how-flirt-and-be-attractive </ref> |
#*Taking a shower every day and wearing clean clothes. | #*Taking a shower every day and wearing clean clothes. | ||
#*Brushing your teeth. | #*Brushing your teeth. | ||
#*Combing or styling your hair. | #*Combing or styling your hair. | ||
#*Wearing deodorant and a bit of cologne. | #*Wearing deodorant and a bit of cologne. | ||
| − | #Make eye contact and smile. Making eye contact and smiling is one of the best [[Flirt|flirtation techniques]] you can use.<ref> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201402/how-flirt-and-be-attractive</ref> It shows that you are interested, confident, and available. If you see a girl that you want to get to know better, then try to catch her eye and hold her gaze for a moment. Then, smile and hold your gaze for a few seconds longer. | + | #Make eye contact and smile. Making eye contact and smiling is one of the best [[Flirt|flirtation techniques]] you can use.<ref name="rf5"> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201402/how-flirt-and-be-attractive</ref> It shows that you are interested, confident, and available. If you see a girl that you want to get to know better, then try to catch her eye and hold her gaze for a moment. Then, smile and hold your gaze for a few seconds longer. |
#*If she holds your gaze, or looks away and then looks back and returns your smile, then she may be interested in talking to you. | #*If she holds your gaze, or looks away and then looks back and returns your smile, then she may be interested in talking to you. | ||
#*If she avoids your gaze, or does not return your smile, then she is probably not interested. | #*If she avoids your gaze, or does not return your smile, then she is probably not interested. | ||
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#* “I’ve really enjoyed talking with you. Can I get your number so we can do this again sometime?” | #* “I’ve really enjoyed talking with you. Can I get your number so we can do this again sometime?” | ||
#*Or, “This was really fun! We should do this again. What’s your number?” | #*Or, “This was really fun! We should do this again. What’s your number?” | ||
| − | #Arrange a date. When you feel ready to give her a call and ask her out, you can sue a direct approach or by more subtle. Some options include:<ref> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201105/5-ways-indirectly-ask-date</ref> | + | #Arrange a date. When you feel ready to give her a call and ask her out, you can sue a direct approach or by more subtle. Some options include:<ref name="rf6"> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201105/5-ways-indirectly-ask-date</ref> |
#* “I’m going bowling this weekend and you should definitely come along. How does Saturday night at eight sound?” | #* “I’m going bowling this weekend and you should definitely come along. How does Saturday night at eight sound?” | ||
#* “I was thinking of trying out that new sushi place tomorrow night. Do you like sushi?” | #* “I was thinking of trying out that new sushi place tomorrow night. Do you like sushi?” | ||
#* “I’m going to see a movie tonight and I just thought I’d see if you are free. Want to join me?” | #* “I’m going to see a movie tonight and I just thought I’d see if you are free. Want to join me?” | ||
===Getting to Know Her Better=== | ===Getting to Know Her Better=== | ||
| − | #Ask questions to get to know her on your first date. First dates are important. You get to learn a lot about the person and then use that information to help you decide if you have found a match. Some questions you can ask on a first date to help you get to know the girl include:<ref> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201305/21-first-date-questions</ref> | + | #Ask questions to get to know her on your first date. First dates are important. You get to learn a lot about the person and then use that information to help you decide if you have found a match. Some questions you can ask on a first date to help you get to know the girl include:<ref name="rf7"> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201305/21-first-date-questions</ref> |
#*How was your day/week? | #*How was your day/week? | ||
#*What do you like to do for fun? | #*What do you like to do for fun? | ||
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#*Do you have roommates or do you live alone? | #*Do you have roommates or do you live alone? | ||
#Pay attention to her words and actions. On your first date, you can begin to get a better idea if this girl meets your criteria for a “sweet” girl. Is she nice? Intelligent? Funny? Optimistic? Think about the list of traits and interests you made to help you figure out if she is someone you want to spend more time with, such as on a second date. | #Pay attention to her words and actions. On your first date, you can begin to get a better idea if this girl meets your criteria for a “sweet” girl. Is she nice? Intelligent? Funny? Optimistic? Think about the list of traits and interests you made to help you figure out if she is someone you want to spend more time with, such as on a second date. | ||
| − | #Watch for red flags. You might get a sense that this person is not someone you can or want to spend much time around. However, there are some red flags to watch out for as well. Try to keep a mental log of these along with any positive traits or interests the person has. Some red flags to watch for include:<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime-connections/201603/13-first-date-red-flags</ref> | + | #Watch for red flags. You might get a sense that this person is not someone you can or want to spend much time around. However, there are some red flags to watch out for as well. Try to keep a mental log of these along with any positive traits or interests the person has. Some red flags to watch for include:<ref name="rf8">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime-connections/201603/13-first-date-red-flags</ref> |
#*She is only talks about herself and does not seem interested in getting to know you. | #*She is only talks about herself and does not seem interested in getting to know you. | ||
#*She constantly complains about her life, the restaurant, friends, family, or other things. | #*She constantly complains about her life, the restaurant, friends, family, or other things. | ||
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#*She keeps checking her phone and seems more interested in it than in engaging with you. | #*She keeps checking her phone and seems more interested in it than in engaging with you. | ||
#*She expresses strong political, religious, or other personal views that you disagree with. | #*She expresses strong political, religious, or other personal views that you disagree with. | ||
| − | #Watch for self-control and conscientiousness. People who have these qualities tend to be better at maintaining positive relationships.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201106/how-pick-better-boyfriend-or-girlfriend</ref> For some, these qualities may also be part of what makes someone “sweet.” Be on the lookout for these traits if you want a satisfying, long-term relationship. Some ways that you can assess the girls that you meet for this quality include: | + | #Watch for self-control and conscientiousness. People who have these qualities tend to be better at maintaining positive relationships.<ref name="rf9">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201106/how-pick-better-boyfriend-or-girlfriend</ref> For some, these qualities may also be part of what makes someone “sweet.” Be on the lookout for these traits if you want a satisfying, long-term relationship. Some ways that you can assess the girls that you meet for this quality include: |
#*Noting how well she listens and responds to what you say. Does she stare off into space when you are talking or start texting friends on her phone? Poor listening skills can signal trouble for a long-term relationship. | #*Noting how well she listens and responds to what you say. Does she stare off into space when you are talking or start texting friends on her phone? Poor listening skills can signal trouble for a long-term relationship. | ||
#*Paying attention to her patience. Does she get impatient if she has to wait for you? If so, then she may have a hard time delaying gratification, which can be trouble for a long-term relationship. | #*Paying attention to her patience. Does she get impatient if she has to wait for you? If so, then she may have a hard time delaying gratification, which can be trouble for a long-term relationship. | ||
