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You can’t get a beautiful girlfriend if all you do is sit on the couch and watch television. If you’re serious about landing the woman of your dreams, you’ll need to put some effort in. Be warned though, it’s going to take longer than an afternoon. | You can’t get a beautiful girlfriend if all you do is sit on the couch and watch television. If you’re serious about landing the woman of your dreams, you’ll need to put some effort in. Be warned though, it’s going to take longer than an afternoon. | ||
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#*Humor is one of the best ways to win a girl over. Make sure your jokes are good natured and aren’t offensive, even if they aren’t offensive to her or anyone she knows. If you begin to share inside jokes, you’ll know that you’re on the right track. | #*Humor is one of the best ways to win a girl over. Make sure your jokes are good natured and aren’t offensive, even if they aren’t offensive to her or anyone she knows. If you begin to share inside jokes, you’ll know that you’re on the right track. | ||
#*Regularly doesn’t mean 24/7. Don’t come on too strong right away. A few minutes a day most days of the week is fine to start out with. You’ll see each other more as things progress. | #*Regularly doesn’t mean 24/7. Don’t come on too strong right away. A few minutes a day most days of the week is fine to start out with. You’ll see each other more as things progress. | ||
| − | #Talk about your dreams. Ambition is something that everyone finds attractive. Bringing your future into the conversation can make you seem a lot more interesting to a girl. Talk about things you want to learn and what you want to accomplish in your life. Mention things you are doing now to someday achieve these goals. She’ll probably want to get to know you more when you do.<ref>http://www.askmen.com/grooming/project/top-10-tips-to-project-ambition.html</ref> | + | #Talk about your dreams. Ambition is something that everyone finds attractive. Bringing your future into the conversation can make you seem a lot more interesting to a girl. Talk about things you want to learn and what you want to accomplish in your life. Mention things you are doing now to someday achieve these goals. She’ll probably want to get to know you more when you do.<ref name="rf1">http://www.askmen.com/grooming/project/top-10-tips-to-project-ambition.html</ref> |
| − | #Start flirting. You’re going to have start flirting to let the girl you’re attracted to know you’re interested in her. Make some low-pressure physical contact like touching her elbow or shoulder. Compliment something she’s wearing then smile and make eye contact. Gently tease her, but not about anything that could make her upset.<ref>http://theweek.com/articles/448643/how-flirt-according-science</ref> | + | #Start flirting. You’re going to have start flirting to let the girl you’re attracted to know you’re interested in her. Make some low-pressure physical contact like touching her elbow or shoulder. Compliment something she’s wearing then smile and make eye contact. Gently tease her, but not about anything that could make her upset.<ref name="rf2">http://theweek.com/articles/448643/how-flirt-according-science</ref> |
| − | #*While you’re flirting, look for signs that she is enjoying it and flirting back. Does she move away when you touch her elbow or let her arm linger? If you compliment her clothing does she smile and look you in the eye or stay quiet and look away? If she isn’t responding well to your flirting, it’s time to move on.<ref>http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/flirting-signs.html</ref> | + | #*While you’re flirting, look for signs that she is enjoying it and flirting back. Does she move away when you touch her elbow or let her arm linger? If you compliment her clothing does she smile and look you in the eye or stay quiet and look away? If she isn’t responding well to your flirting, it’s time to move on.<ref name="rf3">http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/flirting-signs.html</ref> |
#*Don’t try a tired old pickup line. Hotties get approached all the time by guys and have probably heard whatever you’ve had to say before. In general, women see these as immature and won’t be impressed by what you have to say. | #*Don’t try a tired old pickup line. Hotties get approached all the time by guys and have probably heard whatever you’ve had to say before. In general, women see these as immature and won’t be impressed by what you have to say. | ||
===Dating your Hottie Girlfriend=== | ===Dating your Hottie Girlfriend=== | ||
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#*Be sensitive. Talk about how things make you feel. Tell her that you like her and say why. Empathize with her problems. Contrary to how some books and movies make the world seem, girls like guys who are in touch with their emotions and can comfortably express them. | #*Be sensitive. Talk about how things make you feel. Tell her that you like her and say why. Empathize with her problems. Contrary to how some books and movies make the world seem, girls like guys who are in touch with their emotions and can comfortably express them. | ||
===Being the Best Version of Yourself=== | ===Being the Best Version of Yourself=== | ||
| − | #Be confident in yourself. Both average people and scientists agree that self-confidence is a desirable trait in a romantic partner.<ref>http://www.thedatereport.com/dating/science/2168-science-explains-why-confidence-scores-you-dates/</ref>If this is something you struggle with, try reminding yourself of some things you have accomplished that you are particularly proud of. | + | #Be confident in yourself. Both average people and scientists agree that self-confidence is a desirable trait in a romantic partner.<ref name="rf4">http://www.thedatereport.com/dating/science/2168-science-explains-why-confidence-scores-you-dates/</ref>If this is something you struggle with, try reminding yourself of some things you have accomplished that you are particularly proud of. |
#Practice good hygiene. Good hygiene is essential for anyone who is interested in dating. Make sure you are brushing and flossing at least twice a day to keep your breath fresh and your teeth white. Wash your hair and get it cut regularly so it looks neat and put-together. Shower regularly and wear deodorant so you smell good. | #Practice good hygiene. Good hygiene is essential for anyone who is interested in dating. Make sure you are brushing and flossing at least twice a day to keep your breath fresh and your teeth white. Wash your hair and get it cut regularly so it looks neat and put-together. Shower regularly and wear deodorant so you smell good. | ||
#Dress well. The most important part of dressing well is to wear clothes that fit and compliment your body. You don’t have to wear the latest trends or the most expensive brands to dress well. Clothes should sit close to your body but shouldn’t squeeze up against it or restrict your movement. Clothes that are too baggy will make it hard to tell what your body actually looks like, and will actually make you look smaller. | #Dress well. The most important part of dressing well is to wear clothes that fit and compliment your body. You don’t have to wear the latest trends or the most expensive brands to dress well. Clothes should sit close to your body but shouldn’t squeeze up against it or restrict your movement. Clothes that are too baggy will make it hard to tell what your body actually looks like, and will actually make you look smaller. | ||
#*If you’re having trouble finding clothes of your own that fit, start with some basics and work your way up. A good pair of jeans and a white t-shirt can go a long way. It’s better to have a small wardrobe with a lot of pieces that work together than a large wardrobe with a bunch of specific outfits. | #*If you’re having trouble finding clothes of your own that fit, start with some basics and work your way up. A good pair of jeans and a white t-shirt can go a long way. It’s better to have a small wardrobe with a lot of pieces that work together than a large wardrobe with a bunch of specific outfits. | ||
#*Wearing nicer shoes can go a long way in improving your style as well. Don’t wear the same old beaters you use to mow the yard. Sneakers are fine, just make sure they are relatively clean and don’t smell bad. Try some leather boots if you don’t have any already. They are a classic look and can work with almost any pants.. | #*Wearing nicer shoes can go a long way in improving your style as well. Don’t wear the same old beaters you use to mow the yard. Sneakers are fine, just make sure they are relatively clean and don’t smell bad. Try some leather boots if you don’t have any already. They are a classic look and can work with almost any pants.. | ||
| − | #Exercise regularly. Muscularity is one of those things that almost everyone finds attractive. <ref>http://dfred.bol.ucla.edu/FrederickHaselton-2007-PSPB-MuscularityFitnessIndicator.pdf</ref> You don’t have to be the next Arnold Schwarzenegger, but it’s a good idea to start hitting the gym if you don’t already. Make a schedule and commit to it to ensure that you see results. Within a few weeks, you will start to feel and see signs that your body is getting stronger. | + | #Exercise regularly. Muscularity is one of those things that almost everyone finds attractive. <ref name="rf5">http://dfred.bol.ucla.edu/FrederickHaselton-2007-PSPB-MuscularityFitnessIndicator.pdf</ref> You don’t have to be the next Arnold Schwarzenegger, but it’s a good idea to start hitting the gym if you don’t already. Make a schedule and commit to it to ensure that you see results. Within a few weeks, you will start to feel and see signs that your body is getting stronger. |
#*If you’re overweight and want to slim down, you’ll also have to change your dietary habits. There are a lot of different diets out there, but they all revolve around the idea of eating fewer calories. Eating a lot of fruit, green vegetables, and lean protein will go a long way in improving your diet. | #*If you’re overweight and want to slim down, you’ll also have to change your dietary habits. There are a lot of different diets out there, but they all revolve around the idea of eating fewer calories. Eating a lot of fruit, green vegetables, and lean protein will go a long way in improving your diet. | ||
| − | #Develop a sense of humor. Girls tend to like guys who can make them laugh. Work on building a good sense of humor if you’re serious about dating a hottie. It will make you much more attractive in the dating pool. <ref>http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/5-ways-enrich-life-developing-sense-humor/</ref> | + | #Develop a sense of humor. Girls tend to like guys who can make them laugh. Work on building a good sense of humor if you’re serious about dating a hottie. It will make you much more attractive in the dating pool. <ref name="rf6">http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/5-ways-enrich-life-developing-sense-humor/</ref> |
| − | #*If you don’t think of yourself as a funny guy, this can be a tough thing to do. Try watching professional comedians for ideas. Find a few you like and really delve into their catalog, paying close attention to the jokes. You’ll start to see what they find funny in everyday life and begin to notice similar things yourself. Eventually, you’ll start to make similar jokes yourself just by relating to people you think are funny. <ref | + | #*If you don’t think of yourself as a funny guy, this can be a tough thing to do. Try watching professional comedians for ideas. Find a few you like and really delve into their catalog, paying close attention to the jokes. You’ll start to see what they find funny in everyday life and begin to notice similar things yourself. Eventually, you’ll start to make similar jokes yourself just by relating to people you think are funny. <ref name="rf6" /> |
#*It’s a good idea to test out any jokes or zingers on friends first. That way you know if they’re funny or not. Few things are as awkward as staring at someone who didn’t find your joke funny. Even worse if they feel personally offended. | #*It’s a good idea to test out any jokes or zingers on friends first. That way you know if they’re funny or not. Few things are as awkward as staring at someone who didn’t find your joke funny. Even worse if they feel personally offended. | ||
#Earn some spending money. Your girlfriend shouldn’t be interested in you for your money, but it’s nice to have some money in your pocket you can spend when you’re with her. Get a part-time job to earn a little cash. Use it for things like gas for dates and paying for food, tickets, small gifts, etc. She’ll probably want to split most date costs, but treating her every now and then can be nice. | #Earn some spending money. Your girlfriend shouldn’t be interested in you for your money, but it’s nice to have some money in your pocket you can spend when you’re with her. Get a part-time job to earn a little cash. Use it for things like gas for dates and paying for food, tickets, small gifts, etc. She’ll probably want to split most date costs, but treating her every now and then can be nice. | ||
