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Simply thinking about the guy you have a crush on can make your heart pound and your palms sweaty. When you like someone, whether you have known them for a long time or you have only been talking for a couple days, your first instinct is to wonder how they feel about you. Once your feelings about someone become clear, it is only normal to want to know how the guy you're crushing on feels. There are many ways to accelerate a guy into confessing his feelings for you so that you don't have to wait around guessing. Once you figure out your guy, you can find the right approach. | Simply thinking about the guy you have a crush on can make your heart pound and your palms sweaty. When you like someone, whether you have known them for a long time or you have only been talking for a couple days, your first instinct is to wonder how they feel about you. Once your feelings about someone become clear, it is only normal to want to know how the guy you're crushing on feels. There are many ways to accelerate a guy into confessing his feelings for you so that you don't have to wait around guessing. Once you figure out your guy, you can find the right approach. | ||
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== Steps == | == Steps == | ||
=== Making Sure the Guy Is Open and Ready === | === Making Sure the Guy Is Open and Ready === | ||
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#*"Do you go on dates often?" | #*"Do you go on dates often?" | ||
#Keep your time with him light and fun. During your interactions, try to always create pleasant and fun conversation that will allow you to see if he wants to joke around with you. You might even want to gently poke his shoulder during conversation to see how he reacts. If he laughs and teases you back, that is a good sign. Humor is a good way to open a heart that is leaning towards you because it shows you are interested which makes the guy more comfortable. | #Keep your time with him light and fun. During your interactions, try to always create pleasant and fun conversation that will allow you to see if he wants to joke around with you. You might even want to gently poke his shoulder during conversation to see how he reacts. If he laughs and teases you back, that is a good sign. Humor is a good way to open a heart that is leaning towards you because it shows you are interested which makes the guy more comfortable. | ||
| − | #*When he tells a joke, make sure you laugh. This will boost his confidence and give him the green light to share his feelings with you.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-bottom-line/201105/want-know-if-someone-likes-you</ref> | + | #*When he tells a joke, make sure you laugh. This will boost his confidence and give him the green light to share his feelings with you.<ref name="rf17433">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-bottom-line/201105/want-know-if-someone-likes-you</ref> |
#*A light tough on his arm or shoulder is a welcoming way to show you're interested. | #*A light tough on his arm or shoulder is a welcoming way to show you're interested. | ||
#Watch for signs of chemistry you may have together. If you find that you are always laughing with one another and are likeminded, chances are there is a mutual attraction. Constant laughing and smiling are the biggest indicators that there is something between you two. Guys will also use your name as much as they can when they have a crush on you. Here are a couple other signs that will reveal his true feelings: | #Watch for signs of chemistry you may have together. If you find that you are always laughing with one another and are likeminded, chances are there is a mutual attraction. Constant laughing and smiling are the biggest indicators that there is something between you two. Guys will also use your name as much as they can when they have a crush on you. Here are a couple other signs that will reveal his true feelings: | ||
| − | #*If he is constantly fidgeting with his hands or other objects, this is a sign that he is feeling over-stimulated around you and is definitely attracted.<ref>http://www.becomegorgeous.com/love-relationships/flirting_and_dating/6_signs_you_two_have_chemistry-5695.html</ref> | + | #*If he is constantly fidgeting with his hands or other objects, this is a sign that he is feeling over-stimulated around you and is definitely attracted.<ref name="rf17434">http://www.becomegorgeous.com/love-relationships/flirting_and_dating/6_signs_you_two_have_chemistry-5695.html</ref> |
| − | #*He may scan your appearance and point out tiny details. This is called imprinting and this type of attachment is caused by the increase of dopamine levels.<ref | + | #*He may scan your appearance and point out tiny details. This is called imprinting and this type of attachment is caused by the increase of dopamine levels.<ref name="rf17434" /> |
=== Getting Him To Open Up === | === Getting Him To Open Up === | ||
#Develop a trusting relationship. Make him feel special by showing an interest in him as a person. Ask him about his passions and his dreams for the future. Stay positive and open to the things that he is telling you to make him feel comfortable. Tell him vulnerable things about yourself which will make him feel special that you trust him with knowing meaningful things about you. | #Develop a trusting relationship. Make him feel special by showing an interest in him as a person. Ask him about his passions and his dreams for the future. Stay positive and open to the things that he is telling you to make him feel comfortable. Tell him vulnerable things about yourself which will make him feel special that you trust him with knowing meaningful things about you. | ||
#*Tell him what your greatest fears are or share one of your most embarrassing moments. | #*Tell him what your greatest fears are or share one of your most embarrassing moments. | ||
#*If you show you trust him, he will feel more at ease and open with you. | #*If you show you trust him, he will feel more at ease and open with you. | ||
| − | #Listen to him and avoid judgment. Allow him to show you who he really is. Let him know he is free from judgment and that you appreciate the things that are unique about him. The goal is to develop trust between you and him that lets him know that he can speak freely to you about anything. A guy can get reluctant to share intimate feelings. The fact that you could reject him may be what's holding him back. Let him know that you will not criticize him or reject his feelings regarding personal issues.<ref | + | #Listen to him and avoid judgment. Allow him to show you who he really is. Let him know he is free from judgment and that you appreciate the things that are unique about him. The goal is to develop trust between you and him that lets him know that he can speak freely to you about anything. A guy can get reluctant to share intimate feelings. The fact that you could reject him may be what's holding him back. Let him know that you will not criticize him or reject his feelings regarding personal issues.<ref name="rf17433" /> |
#*Guys need to feel freedom from judgment to help them open up emotionally. | #*Guys need to feel freedom from judgment to help them open up emotionally. | ||
#Do not smother him. Guys do not like it when they feel trapped by another person. Fawning all over him may actually push him away. Even if he does have feelings for you, he will put off telling you because he may not enjoy how clingy you are. | #Do not smother him. Guys do not like it when they feel trapped by another person. Fawning all over him may actually push him away. Even if he does have feelings for you, he will put off telling you because he may not enjoy how clingy you are. | ||
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#*Do not bombard him with text messages. You should not be the first person texting him in the morning and the last person texting him at night. Make sure that the text exchanges between the two of you are more equal than one sided. | #*Do not bombard him with text messages. You should not be the first person texting him in the morning and the last person texting him at night. Make sure that the text exchanges between the two of you are more equal than one sided. | ||
#*He should initiate hanging out with you at least half the time. If you ask him to hangout and he gives you a reason why he can't, let him be the one to ask you to spend time together next. | #*He should initiate hanging out with you at least half the time. If you ask him to hangout and he gives you a reason why he can't, let him be the one to ask you to spend time together next. | ||
| − | #Avoid chasing after him. If you chase after a guy you like in hopes that he will confess his feelings for you, he might want to keep running. Being chased might be more exciting for him than confessing how he feels about you. He may start to really enjoy being pursued by you instead of being the one to pursue you! Lay off a little bit and let him have the opportunity to realize that he does not want to lose you. This will help push him into telling you how he feels.<ref>http://datingtips.match.com/guy-admit-loves-13196957.html</ref> | + | #Avoid chasing after him. If you chase after a guy you like in hopes that he will confess his feelings for you, he might want to keep running. Being chased might be more exciting for him than confessing how he feels about you. He may start to really enjoy being pursued by you instead of being the one to pursue you! Lay off a little bit and let him have the opportunity to realize that he does not want to lose you. This will help push him into telling you how he feels.<ref name="rf17435">http://datingtips.match.com/guy-admit-loves-13196957.html</ref> |
#*Don't show up to his work or house without being asked. | #*Don't show up to his work or house without being asked. | ||
#*If you cross paths at a party, don't follow him around all night. Mingle with other friends and show that you can hold your own. | #*If you cross paths at a party, don't follow him around all night. Mingle with other friends and show that you can hold your own. | ||
#*There can be only one person chasing, and you don’t want that person to be you. | #*There can be only one person chasing, and you don’t want that person to be you. | ||
| − | #Be authentic and humble. Pretending to feel confident or boastful in order to hide your true feelings will make a man feel uneasy around you because he’ll sense that you’re pretending. If he feels uneasy, he can’t be honest with you about what he’s feeling. Be confident about who you are, but don't brag or come across as arrogant because it will push him away. <ref>http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/relationship/get-your-man-to-open-up.html</ref> | + | #Be authentic and humble. Pretending to feel confident or boastful in order to hide your true feelings will make a man feel uneasy around you because he’ll sense that you’re pretending. If he feels uneasy, he can’t be honest with you about what he’s feeling. Be confident about who you are, but don't brag or come across as arrogant because it will push him away. <ref name="rf17436">http://www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/relationship/get-your-man-to-open-up.html</ref> |
| − | #*Do not talk down about other people or talk about how great you are. Instead, offer compliments, listen well, and remember it is okay to be wrong.<ref>http://www.sitepoint.com/how-to-be-confident-without-being-arrogant/</ref> | + | #*Do not talk down about other people or talk about how great you are. Instead, offer compliments, listen well, and remember it is okay to be wrong.<ref name="rf17437">http://www.sitepoint.com/how-to-be-confident-without-being-arrogant/</ref> |
#*If he hears you being judgmental about other people, he will fear that you will judge him, too. | #*If he hears you being judgmental about other people, he will fear that you will judge him, too. | ||
#Flirt a little bit with his friend. If you focus your attention to one of his friends, he might start to fear the idea of losing your interest to someone else and quickly let you know he is into you. You do not have to go to far with your flirtation, just engaged in a fun conversation with one of his friends for the evening to stir up some jealousy and that is all it may take. Here are some questions you can ask his friends: | #Flirt a little bit with his friend. If you focus your attention to one of his friends, he might start to fear the idea of losing your interest to someone else and quickly let you know he is into you. You do not have to go to far with your flirtation, just engaged in a fun conversation with one of his friends for the evening to stir up some jealousy and that is all it may take. Here are some questions you can ask his friends: | ||
