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#*Try something like: “let me know if you end up going” or “maybe we can go together” | #*Try something like: “let me know if you end up going” or “maybe we can go together” | ||
#*As a result, your crush will be backed into a corner and may have no choice but to ask for your number. Once he calls or texts you, you can save his contact information to your phone. | #*As a result, your crush will be backed into a corner and may have no choice but to ask for your number. Once he calls or texts you, you can save his contact information to your phone. | ||
| − | #Make plans like he already has your number. Invite your crush to an event with a larger group of friends. Tell him that you can text the details later, and try to walk away. Your crush should realize that the two of you have never exchanged numbers and mention it right then and there.<ref>http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=12</ref> | + | #Make plans like he already has your number. Invite your crush to an event with a larger group of friends. Tell him that you can text the details later, and try to walk away. Your crush should realize that the two of you have never exchanged numbers and mention it right then and there.<ref name="rf1">http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=12</ref> |
#*It is essential that the event you invite your crush to is a group event. Group events are non-committal and less nerve-wracking. Your crush is more likely to respond favorably in this set of circumstances than he might if you invite him on a date. | #*It is essential that the event you invite your crush to is a group event. Group events are non-committal and less nerve-wracking. Your crush is more likely to respond favorably in this set of circumstances than he might if you invite him on a date. | ||
#*Try to make the group consist of people your crush knows casually but not too well. If the group consists of your crush's close friends, odds are, he will know someone else's phone number and just text that person for the details instead of you. | #*Try to make the group consist of people your crush knows casually but not too well. If the group consists of your crush's close friends, odds are, he will know someone else's phone number and just text that person for the details instead of you. | ||
#*Start walking away as soon as you make the invitation. If you hang around too long, your crush might ask you for the details then and there. | #*Start walking away as soon as you make the invitation. If you hang around too long, your crush might ask you for the details then and there. | ||
#*Your crush will likely respond in one of three ways. With any luck, he will call or text you right then to store his number in your phone. If this does not happen and the event passes, he might ask you for your number afterward, so he doesn’t miss out next time. Of course, there is also a chance that your crush will not ask at all, in which case, he probably isn't interested in exchanging digits. | #*Your crush will likely respond in one of three ways. With any luck, he will call or text you right then to store his number in your phone. If this does not happen and the event passes, he might ask you for your number afterward, so he doesn’t miss out next time. Of course, there is also a chance that your crush will not ask at all, in which case, he probably isn't interested in exchanging digits. | ||
| − | #Use an excuse. Instead of making plans, you can offer your phone number to your crush on a “just in case” basis. Think of a specific circumstance that you and your crush share and develop an excuse around that. If you can do this skillfully, your crush may even ask for your number without you offering it.<ref>http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=14</ref> | + | #Use an excuse. Instead of making plans, you can offer your phone number to your crush on a “just in case” basis. Think of a specific circumstance that you and your crush share and develop an excuse around that. If you can do this skillfully, your crush may even ask for your number without you offering it.<ref name="rf2">http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=14</ref> |
| − | #*If the two of you share a class, use that as a starting place. Consider your options. If you are great at math and your crush struggles with it, you could offer tutoring whenever he gets stuck on a homework problem. Similarly, if your crush knows in advance that he will be absent, tell him that you are just a phone call away if he needs an update on what was missed.<ref>http://www.girlslife.com/post/2013/02/02/5-clever-ways-to-ask-for-your-crushs-number.aspx</ref> | + | #*If the two of you share a class, use that as a starting place. Consider your options. If you are great at math and your crush struggles with it, you could offer tutoring whenever he gets stuck on a homework problem. Similarly, if your crush knows in advance that he will be absent, tell him that you are just a phone call away if he needs an update on what was missed.<ref name="rf3">http://www.girlslife.com/post/2013/02/02/5-clever-ways-to-ask-for-your-crushs-number.aspx</ref> |
#*For a crush that shares an extracurricular activity with you: offer your phone number and tell him to use it if he needs a ride to or from school. | #*For a crush that shares an extracurricular activity with you: offer your phone number and tell him to use it if he needs a ride to or from school. | ||
#*When you and your crush root for the same sports team, use that as an opportunity to hand over your number. Say that you will miss the big game this weekend and ask your crush to text you with an update on the score. | #*When you and your crush root for the same sports team, use that as an opportunity to hand over your number. Say that you will miss the big game this weekend and ask your crush to text you with an update on the score. | ||
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#*You and your crush need to be talking alone so that no one else offers to call your phone instead. | #*You and your crush need to be talking alone so that no one else offers to call your phone instead. | ||
#*Once your crush calls you, act relieved about the fact that your phone went off. Make it convincing, but try not to get too carried away. | #*Once your crush calls you, act relieved about the fact that your phone went off. Make it convincing, but try not to get too carried away. | ||
| − | #Play it cool. Once you and your crush have exchanged phone numbers, stay calm about it. Do not call or text that night. Give it some time to prevent yourself from seeming too intrigued.<ref>http://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-get-someones-phone-number-on-a-dating-app-according-to-hinge-2016-2</ref> | + | #Play it cool. Once you and your crush have exchanged phone numbers, stay calm about it. Do not call or text that night. Give it some time to prevent yourself from seeming too intrigued.<ref name="rf4">http://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-get-someones-phone-number-on-a-dating-app-according-to-hinge-2016-2</ref> |
#*It’s okay if he figures out your plan and knows you like him. If he likes you back, he’ll have even more of a reason to ask you out. | #*It’s okay if he figures out your plan and knows you like him. If he likes you back, he’ll have even more of a reason to ask you out. | ||
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#*A shared class is a great starting point. If the two of you are in the same group for a project, ask for her number so that you can arrange a meet-up for a project outside of class. Likewise, if you have trouble with a particular topic that your crush excels at, ask your crush if she might be willing to help you with your homework over the phone. | #*A shared class is a great starting point. If the two of you are in the same group for a project, ask for her number so that you can arrange a meet-up for a project outside of class. Likewise, if you have trouble with a particular topic that your crush excels at, ask your crush if she might be willing to help you with your homework over the phone. | ||
#*Work is another great place to get a phone number organically. Ask for her number if you need someone to check the schedule for you. Alternatively, ask for her number in case she needs a ride to work in the rain. | #*Work is another great place to get a phone number organically. Ask for her number if you need someone to check the schedule for you. Alternatively, ask for her number in case she needs a ride to work in the rain. | ||
| − | #Be direct about seeing her. If you feel bold and confident about the possibility that your crush might have similar feelings, you could offer your phone number directly without an excuse.<ref>http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=11</ref> Nothing beats being straight to the point on matters of romance. | + | #Be direct about seeing her. If you feel bold and confident about the possibility that your crush might have similar feelings, you could offer your phone number directly without an excuse.<ref name="rf5">http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=11</ref> Nothing beats being straight to the point on matters of romance. |
| − | #*Stay cool and confident. Make a simple statement: give your phone number and tell your crush to text you if he or she feels like it. If your feelings are mutual, your crush will probably give you her number in exchange.<ref>http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/got-her-number-text-message/all/1/</ref> | + | #*Stay cool and confident. Make a simple statement: give your phone number and tell your crush to text you if he or she feels like it. If your feelings are mutual, your crush will probably give you her number in exchange.<ref name="rf6">http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/11/got-her-number-text-message/all/1/</ref> |
#*If you and your crush are already flirtatious with each other, you can ask for your crush's number in the midst of flirting. Say something simple like, "I'll give you my number if you give me yours." Keep the mood lighthearted to avoid putting too much pressure or tension on the situation. | #*If you and your crush are already flirtatious with each other, you can ask for your crush's number in the midst of flirting. Say something simple like, "I'll give you my number if you give me yours." Keep the mood lighthearted to avoid putting too much pressure or tension on the situation. | ||
#Give it time. As before, you should avoid using your crush's number that same night you get it. If you are too zealous about sending the first text or placing the first phone call, you might scare the apple of your eye away. | #Give it time. As before, you should avoid using your crush's number that same night you get it. If you are too zealous about sending the first text or placing the first phone call, you might scare the apple of your eye away. | ||
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#Use a business card. If you and your crush are both adults and part of the professional world, you can indirectly ask for a phone number by asking for a business card. | #Use a business card. If you and your crush are both adults and part of the professional world, you can indirectly ask for a phone number by asking for a business card. | ||
#*The downside of this option is that you may end up getting a business phone number instead of a private phone number. Make sure that one of the phone number on the card is marked as a cell phone before calling for personal reasons. | #*The downside of this option is that you may end up getting a business phone number instead of a private phone number. Make sure that one of the phone number on the card is marked as a cell phone before calling for personal reasons. | ||
| − | #Find out from a friend. Asking another person to interfere works well if the third person is a mutual friend with both of you. Ideally, this mutual friend will already have your crush's number. If not, he may be more comfortable asking for it than you are.<ref>http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=10</ref> | + | #Find out from a friend. Asking another person to interfere works well if the third person is a mutual friend with both of you. Ideally, this mutual friend will already have your crush's number. If not, he may be more comfortable asking for it than you are.<ref name="rf7">http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g473/crazy-ways-to-get-numbers/?slide=10</ref> |
#*Your mutual friend may catch onto your motives, so choose who you ask carefully. If you are not ready to have word get back to your crush about how you feel, make sure that the friend you ask can keep a secret. | #*Your mutual friend may catch onto your motives, so choose who you ask carefully. If you are not ready to have word get back to your crush about how you feel, make sure that the friend you ask can keep a secret. | ||
#Use social media. Nowadays, you can find out a lot about a person just by snooping online for a bit. The easiest way to find someone's phone number online is to check that person's Facebook page. If the two of you are friends, there is a decent chance that your crush's phone number will be visible to you. | #Use social media. Nowadays, you can find out a lot about a person just by snooping online for a bit. The easiest way to find someone's phone number online is to check that person's Facebook page. If the two of you are friends, there is a decent chance that your crush's phone number will be visible to you. | ||
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#*This tactic will only work if your crush has a landline and if that number is publicly listed. | #*This tactic will only work if your crush has a landline and if that number is publicly listed. | ||
#*Note that if your crush is underage or otherwise lives with her parents you will need to know the names of your crush's parents. | #*Note that if your crush is underage or otherwise lives with her parents you will need to know the names of your crush's parents. | ||
| − | #Have a good reason to call or text.<ref | + | #Have a good reason to call or text.<ref name="rf4" /> Since she doesn’t know you have her number, she might find it a little creepy if you call or text suddenly without a decent reason. When you do call, make sure that your reason for doing so sounds justifiably urgent. Acknowledge that you got the number from a third party and explain why you needed it. |
#*For instance, you could call to ask a question about a shared assignment and explain that you got the number from a friend in another class. You could also text an invitation to a group event and mention who passed the number along to you. | #*For instance, you could call to ask a question about a shared assignment and explain that you got the number from a friend in another class. You could also text an invitation to a group event and mention who passed the number along to you. | ||
#*You could also just tell her that you wanted to call her to ask her out. Sometimes playing games is not the way to go. | #*You could also just tell her that you wanted to call her to ask her out. Sometimes playing games is not the way to go. | ||
