Get Your Parents to Accept That You're Emo
Template:StubSo, you've decided to go emo, but you know that your parents won't be happy about their kid walking around in black and wearing loads of eyeliner. Maybe you are already emo, and mom and pops disapprove. How can you get them to accept you for the amazing emo that you are or wish to become? Read on to find out.
Steps
- Think about if being emo is right for you. You don't want to go through a whole altercation (conflict) with your parents about this just to change again next week. So think on it.
- Have some decent emo clothes, belts, makeup, etc. picked out to show them. If you manage your own money, maybe buy an awesome emo outfit to wear when you confront them about this. Your parents need to know that you are serious about being an emo, and that you can handle creating your new look.
- Eliminate (get rid of) any misconceptions (wrong ideas) that they might have about emo kids. Do this before you actually tell them that you are an emo. For example, when you get home from school, work, whatever, and your mom/dad asks "What did you learn in school today?" say something besides "Nothing;" Maybe say something like "Nothing, but I felt bad for this one emo kid today because everyone kept saying how emos cut themselves, and everybody knows that that's not true." Ta-da! One misconception down! Even if you don't think that you parental authority figure (mom or dad)is paying much attention to what you said, at least they heard you, even if it didn't register, and they will think about it later.
- Try to get on their good side. For example help around the house ; cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. Don't fight or argue with them, if they are strict, especially.
- Don't just show up at the dinner table as an emo one day; phase into it just a little (slowly become emo). Try starting with you hair, because if your parents are against you being emo and you start dressing emo first, they may refuse to let you get your hair cut/dyed, but if you do this before the clothes/makeup they will never see it coming. If you want to get piercings do them last! Otherwise your parents will just think that you are a crazy teenager, not someone who is just trying to be an individual.
- if you have friends whose parents have accepted them as emo, tell your parents that if they are nervous your friends parents can help.
- Last of all- tell them. Don't just walk up and blurt it, but don't make a big deal about sitting down, etc. Be subtle. Maybe say something like, "Mom, I'm going to the mall with a few of my friends. My styles have changed and I need to update a little." Try to avoid a big sit-down talk, because then your parents can give you all the reasons that you aren't allowed to become emo. Sit-downs make it seem like you are asking their permission, which you're not; you are telling them that you want to dress a bit differently. Don't openly defy (go against) your parents, but don't make it seem like they get to decide how you like to dress. Also don't make them feel trapped, like don't make them feel that this is something that you are doing that they can't stop and have no say in. Not to use a cliché, but everyone knows that trapped animals bite. If they say no, go with it. Next 3 weeks or so try again.
Tips
- Try to get better grades in school or do other things that will please them
- Apply a better attitude when you wear emo clothes
- Don't be nervous! They should accept your style- as long as nothing bad comes from it.
- Be respectful and happy. If you aren't happy or don't seem happy, your parents will most likely worry about you.
- Try to tell how you would like to express yourself.
Warnings
- Make sure to state that you aren't going to mutilate your self (cut/hurt) or become suicidal. They might take you to a psychiatrist.
- Make sure you want to do this
- Being emo does not mean that you cut! Cutting is a serious mental health issue-and not apart of being emo!
- Stay drug-free
- Don't make your parents feel trapped
- If you want to be emo just because your friends are or you think it's cool, that's just plain stupid, and poser-like.
Things You'll Need
- Confidence
- Some emo threads
- Emo makeup, nail varnish/polish, etc to complete your emo look
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