Get a Guy to Admit That He Likes You

Simply thinking about the guy you have a crush on can make your heart pound and your palms sweaty. When you like someone, whether you have known them for a long time or you have only been talking for a couple days, your first instinct is to wonder how they feel about you. Once your feelings about someone become clear, it is only normal to want to know how the guy you're crushing on feels. There are many ways to accelerate a guy into confessing his feelings for you so that you don't have to wait around guessing. Once you figure out your guy, you can find the right approach.

Steps

Making Sure the Guy Is Open and Ready

1. Check to make sure he is not committed to someone else. You don't want to step on someone else’s toes by trying to get an already taken guy to confess his feelings for you. Also, you don't don't want to get your hopes up about a guy who is hung up on someone else they may be pursuing. It won't take too much effort to find out what the situation is. All you need to do is a little digging around among friends, social media, or simply asking him questions. Here are some questions you can ask to find out:
   • If you have the courage, ask him during one of your regular conversations if he is already seeing someone. Casually ask, "Are you dating anyone?" or "Is there currently someone you're pursuing?". Simply asking won't give away any of your feelings.
   • If you can't ask him, either because you are too shy or you don't see him often, try asking one of his friends what they might know. Bring him up in a conversation and ask, "Do you know if he is dating someone?".
   • If you can't ask anyone, check to see if he has his relationship status posted on Facebook or another social media outlet.
2. Find out his position on dating and relationships. If you discover that he is single, then you should try to find out what his feelings are about relationships. This will allow you to see if you two are on the same page about dating. Be subtle and try to get some one on one time together that is just between the two of you. Here are some questions you can ask him to help open up a conversation about dating:
   • "When was your last relationship?"
   • "Are you interested in dating?"
   • "Do you go on dates often?"
3. Keep your time with him light and fun. During your interactions, try to always create pleasant and fun conversation that will allow you to see if he wants to joke around with you. You might even want to gently poke his shoulder during conversation to see how he reacts. If he laughs and teases you back, that is a good sign. Humor is a good way to open a heart that is leaning towards you because it shows you are interested which makes the guy more comfortable.
   • When he tells a joke, make sure you laugh. This will boost his confidence and give him the green light to share his feelings with you.
   • A light tough on his arm or shoulder is a welcoming way to show you're interested.
4. Watch for signs of chemistry you may have together. If you find that you are always laughing with one another and are likeminded, chances are there is a mutual attraction. Constant laughing and smiling are the biggest indicators that there is something between you two. Guys will also use your name as much as they can when they have a crush on you. Here are a couple other signs that will reveal his true feelings:
   • If he is constantly fidgeting with his hands or other objects, this is a sign that he is feeling over-stimulated around you and is definitely attracted.
   • He may scan your appearance and point out tiny details. This is called imprinting and this type of attachment is caused by the increase of dopamine levels.

Getting Him To Open Up

1. Develop a trusting relationship. Make him feel special by showing an interest in him as a person. Ask him about his passions and his dreams for the future. Stay positive and open to the things that he is telling you to make him feel comfortable. Tell him vulnerable things about yourself which will make him feel special that you trust him with knowing meaningful things about you.
   • Tell him what your greatest fears are or share one of your most embarrassing moments.
   • If you show you trust him, he will feel more at ease and open with you.
2. Listen to him and avoid judgment. Allow him to show you who he really is. Let him know he is free from judgment and that you appreciate the things that are unique about him. The goal is to develop trust between you and him that lets him know that he can speak freely to you about anything. A guy can get reluctant to share intimate feelings. The fact that you could reject him may be what's holding him back. Let him know that you will not criticize him or reject his feelings regarding personal issues.
   • Guys need to feel freedom from judgment to help them open up emotionally.
3. Do not smother him. Guys do not like it when they feel trapped by another person. Fawning all over him may actually push him away. Even if he does have feelings for you, he will put off telling you because he may not enjoy how clingy you are.
   • Be patient. Trying to move too quickly may frighten him and cause him to be less open around you.
   • Do not bombard him with text messages. You should not be the first person texting him in the morning and the last person texting him at night. Make sure that the text exchanges between the two of you are more equal than one sided.
   • He should initiate hanging out with you at least half the time. If you ask him to hangout and he gives you a reason why he can't, let him be the one to ask you to spend time together next.
4. Avoid chasing after him. If you chase after a guy you like in hopes that he will confess his feelings for you, he might want to keep running. Being chased might be more exciting for him than confessing how he feels about you. He may start to really enjoy being pursued by you instead of being the one to pursue you! Lay off a little bit and let him have the opportunity to realize that he does not want to lose you. This will help push him into telling you how he feels.
   • Don't show up to his work or house without being asked.
   • If you cross paths at a party, don't follow him around all night. Mingle with other friends and show that you can hold your own.
   • There can be only one person chasing, and you don’t want that person to be you.
5. Be authentic and humble. Pretending to feel confident or boastful in order to hide your true feelings will make a man feel uneasy around you because he’ll sense that you’re pretending. If he feels uneasy, he can’t be honest with you about what he’s feeling. Be confident about who you are, but don't brag or come across as arrogant because it will push him away.
   • Do not talk down about other people or talk about how great you are. Instead, offer compliments, listen well, and remember it is okay to be wrong.
   • If he hears you being judgmental about other people, he will fear that you will judge him, too.
6. Flirt a little bit with his friend. If you focus your attention to one of his friends, he might start to fear the idea of losing your interest to someone else and quickly let you know he is into you. You do not have to go to far with your flirtation, just engaged in a fun conversation with one of his friends for the evening to stir up some jealousy and that is all it may take. Here are some questions you can ask his friends:
   • "What do you like to do with your free time?"
   • "What do you do for work," or "What type of job do you want to do in the future".
   • "What are your favorite movies?"
7. Don’t let him become too sure of your feelings too early. He could be refraining from telling you his feelings because he thinks he already has you and therefore, doesn’t need to. Once you know that you want him to confess his feelings for you, try playing a little hard to get by not always being available to hangout or not answering your phone every time he calls. This will hasten the time it takes for him to share his true feelings for you.
   • Give him a chance to miss you or wonder what you are doing. Allow him the opportunity to text or call you first.
   • If he asks you what you are doing over the weekend, be honest, but respond with positive statements. You might say, "I am spending time with friends and catching a movie," or you may say, "This weekend I am hanging out with family for a little bit and then I am not sure what I will do after that."
   • Whatever you say, don't respond with anything that indicates that you will be bored and sitting at home because that sounds desperate.
8. Ask him in a charming and cute way if he likes you. Nothing bad will come to you or him by simply asking him outright how he feels. If he's being shy about confessing his feelings, then be honest and tell him you like him. It may cause him to reveal his undying devotion to you. If you have already developed a close friendship and you have noticed that he responds to your smiles and flirts with you, feel free to ask him. Here are some ways you can ask him:
   • Try sitting or standing next to him and say, "I like you and I am wondering if you maybe like me too?" or "I really like spending time with you and I am kinda hoping you like spending time with me. Do you like me?".
   • If he doesn't know what to say at first, giggle and say, "You like me, don't you?!". He will surely fall victim to your charm.
   • If he says yes, you have won your heart's desire. If it is no, at least you know, so you can stop wasting your time and move on. If he takes time to think, don't worry; he may be having a hard time putting his thoughts into coherent words.
   • If you let him know in a subtle manner that you like him and that you will welcome his feelings, he might open up and admit he likes you.

Tips

• Let him be himself around you.
• If he loves to playfully tease you, that may be a sign that he likes you.
• Try not to flirt too much with other guys. Yes it could make him jealous, but it could also make him lose hope and just stay quiet about liking you forever.
• Smile at him, and if he smiles back and gives you like a little nod of the head, he's totally checking you out!
• A good sign someone is attracted to you is that they will talk to you a lot, perhaps even to the exclusion of others.
• Enjoy your life, when he's around and when he isn't. Enjoy activities that aren't dependent on him. This will indicate to him that you are stable and desirable.
• Don't change yourself for anybody, or expect him to change.
• If his friends tease him around you, he probably likes you.
• Make sure that his friends aren't around when you ask him if he likes you.
• Don't stutter or mumble when you're near him!
• Don't forget to spend time with your other friends as well! It's great to hang out with him, but if you only spend time with him and not your other friends then he may think of you as a little clingy (and your other friends may be disappointed).
• Ask him in a private place and tell him why you think that he likes you. If you like him too, admit it to him and then ask him.
• Don't be shy! If he says no just say ok its fine let's just remain friends if you still want to spent time with him.
• Make eye contact. If he is staring deep into your eyes after both of you have stopped talking, he is secretly trying to read your expression, or he wants to keep chatting with you.

Warnings

• Don't pull him over from his friends, or you may annoy him. Let him have space to maintain the other relationships in his life too.
• Avoid stalking him on the web or constantly checking your phone. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. Getting too close will only stifle him.
• Be prepared for a no, and take it calmly. If he turns down your advances, it is because you two are a bad match for each other, not because you are undesirable.
• Never be to into his personal space. Give him his personal space will let him be himself and make him realize your not always on his personal space. Give him that lets him know your ok with him and understand he needs his personal space like you do.

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