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#*Look the place up online and find pictures to see how fancy or casual it is. Look for pictures with other people in them to give you an idea of how people tend to dress there. | #*Look the place up online and find pictures to see how fancy or casual it is. Look for pictures with other people in them to give you an idea of how people tend to dress there. | ||
#*Swing by the place before you meet him so you can get the vibe in person. | #*Swing by the place before you meet him so you can get the vibe in person. | ||
| − | #Adjust to the time of day. The time of day you will be meeting is also going to effect what you wear. Beyond dressing appropriately for the temperature, there are differences between daytime and nighttime clothing.<ref>http://www.elegantwoman.org/dressing-etiquette.html</ref> | + | #Adjust to the time of day. The time of day you will be meeting is also going to effect what you wear. Beyond dressing appropriately for the temperature, there are differences between daytime and nighttime clothing.<ref name="rf1">http://www.elegantwoman.org/dressing-etiquette.html</ref> |
#*Daytime calls for light or bright colors and a more casual style with less jewelry. You can still wear a dress, but tone it down to a simple shift, shirt dress, or wrap dress. | #*Daytime calls for light or bright colors and a more casual style with less jewelry. You can still wear a dress, but tone it down to a simple shift, shirt dress, or wrap dress. | ||
#*Meeting at night means a more formal style like that little black dress with some heels and that one piece of eye-catching jewelry. | #*Meeting at night means a more formal style like that little black dress with some heels and that one piece of eye-catching jewelry. | ||
| − | #Balance casual looks with class. If you decide to dress casually, you want to be sure you still look put together and not sloppy. Combine very casual clothing with something a little fancier to keep the casual in check.<ref>http://www.whowhatwear.com/first-date-outfit</ref> | + | #Balance casual looks with class. If you decide to dress casually, you want to be sure you still look put together and not sloppy. Combine very casual clothing with something a little fancier to keep the casual in check.<ref name="rf2">http://www.whowhatwear.com/first-date-outfit</ref> |
#*Make distressed jeans work for you by pairing them with a nice pair of black heels and a sweater or silk blouse. | #*Make distressed jeans work for you by pairing them with a nice pair of black heels and a sweater or silk blouse. | ||
#*Combine an oversized shirt with something fitted like tights or leggings so your outfit doesn’t look baggy or ill-fitting. | #*Combine an oversized shirt with something fitted like tights or leggings so your outfit doesn’t look baggy or ill-fitting. | ||
| − | #Avoid covering a nice outfit with casual outerwear and accessories. Once you have put together the perfect attire for the evening, the last thing you want to do is ruin it by covering your nice dress with an old coat, or slinging your big, beat up handbag over your shoulder. Think ahead when it comes to the necessities and make sure they enhance your outfit instead of detracting from it.<ref>http://www.vogue.com/946240/dress-for-a-formal-dinner-date/</ref> | + | #Avoid covering a nice outfit with casual outerwear and accessories. Once you have put together the perfect attire for the evening, the last thing you want to do is ruin it by covering your nice dress with an old coat, or slinging your big, beat up handbag over your shoulder. Think ahead when it comes to the necessities and make sure they enhance your outfit instead of detracting from it.<ref name="rf3">http://www.vogue.com/946240/dress-for-a-formal-dinner-date/</ref> |
#*Black leather jackets have style and class, and go with almost anything. They are a great addition to your wardrobe. | #*Black leather jackets have style and class, and go with almost anything. They are a great addition to your wardrobe. | ||
#*Accessorize with a hands-free purse like a clutch or wristlet. These look more sleek and sophisticated than fussing with a large bag. If you need more space to carry things, use your jacket pockets. | #*Accessorize with a hands-free purse like a clutch or wristlet. These look more sleek and sophisticated than fussing with a large bag. If you need more space to carry things, use your jacket pockets. | ||
| − | #Wear comfortable shoes. Medium to low heels and flats are fine for a casual look. When you are going for formal, heels can look great, but also can be terribly painful. When you are choosing heels the fit is just as important as the fashion. Choose a heel which is comfortable on your feet and easy to walk in.<ref | + | #Wear comfortable shoes. Medium to low heels and flats are fine for a casual look. When you are going for formal, heels can look great, but also can be terribly painful. When you are choosing heels the fit is just as important as the fashion. Choose a heel which is comfortable on your feet and easy to walk in.<ref name="rf3" /> |
#*Avoid heels which are incredibly high. Not only may they be difficult to walk in, but you might tower over him if they are too tall. | #*Avoid heels which are incredibly high. Not only may they be difficult to walk in, but you might tower over him if they are too tall. | ||
===Projecting Your Personality=== | ===Projecting Your Personality=== | ||
| − | #Decide what impression you would like to make. Based on what you wear, he will assume things about your behavior, character and attitude. Little tweaks in your outfit will send signals about who you are.<ref>https://www.rit.edu/cla/communication/sites/rit.edu.cla.communication/files/images/Clothing%20as%20Communication%20Angerosa%20Thesis.pdf</ref> | + | #Decide what impression you would like to make. Based on what you wear, he will assume things about your behavior, character and attitude. Little tweaks in your outfit will send signals about who you are.<ref name="rf4">https://www.rit.edu/cla/communication/sites/rit.edu.cla.communication/files/images/Clothing%20as%20Communication%20Angerosa%20Thesis.pdf</ref> |
#*People who dress more formally tend to be perceived as smarter, and more successful. | #*People who dress more formally tend to be perceived as smarter, and more successful. | ||
#*People with a more casual look come off as friendlier and more adventurous. | #*People with a more casual look come off as friendlier and more adventurous. | ||
| − | #Ask your friends for their opinion. You know what the outfit means to you, but the perceiver could form an entirely different opinion. Choose a friend or two who you know will be honest with you and ask what they think of your outfit. Don’t just ask if they like it, but ask what impression they get from you when you are wearing it. What would it say about you if they had never met you before?<ref | + | #Ask your friends for their opinion. You know what the outfit means to you, but the perceiver could form an entirely different opinion. Choose a friend or two who you know will be honest with you and ask what they think of your outfit. Don’t just ask if they like it, but ask what impression they get from you when you are wearing it. What would it say about you if they had never met you before?<ref name="rf4" /> |
#*Try asking a guy friend so you can get a male perspective. | #*Try asking a guy friend so you can get a male perspective. | ||
#*Get more than one opinion, because your relationship to different friends can effect their perception of your outfit. | #*Get more than one opinion, because your relationship to different friends can effect their perception of your outfit. | ||
#*Tone the outfit up or down, or change it entirely and start over based on your friend’s response. | #*Tone the outfit up or down, or change it entirely and start over based on your friend’s response. | ||
| − | #Incorporate items which group you with a certain community. If you know that you and the boy have similar interests, wear something which will bring you together. Certain clothing can identify you as being part of the group.<ref | + | #Incorporate items which group you with a certain community. If you know that you and the boy have similar interests, wear something which will bring you together. Certain clothing can identify you as being part of the group.<ref name="rf4" /> |
#*If you are both really into music, you could wear a band t-shirt. | #*If you are both really into music, you could wear a band t-shirt. | ||
#*Put on the necklace, bracelet or skirt you got overseas to show you are a free-spirited adventurer. | #*Put on the necklace, bracelet or skirt you got overseas to show you are a free-spirited adventurer. | ||
#*Cowboy boots will give off the impression of a country, outdoors type. Doc Martens will set you off as more of a punk rocker. | #*Cowboy boots will give off the impression of a country, outdoors type. Doc Martens will set you off as more of a punk rocker. | ||
| − | #Be true to yourself. Remember this is not all about him, it’s about you too. You want to attract the kind of boy that you like. Your outfit is part of your own personal branding and says something about you. Letting your personality shine through your outfit is going to help you find out if this boy is a good match right from the start.<ref>http://stylecaster.com/what-to-wear-on-a-first-date/</ref> | + | #Be true to yourself. Remember this is not all about him, it’s about you too. You want to attract the kind of boy that you like. Your outfit is part of your own personal branding and says something about you. Letting your personality shine through your outfit is going to help you find out if this boy is a good match right from the start.<ref name="rf5">http://stylecaster.com/what-to-wear-on-a-first-date/</ref> |
#*Stick with your normal style rather than trying to change your look for the first meeting. You want him to meet the real you. | #*Stick with your normal style rather than trying to change your look for the first meeting. You want him to meet the real you. | ||
#*You don’t want to look completely different if the two of you decide to hang out again. | #*You don’t want to look completely different if the two of you decide to hang out again. | ||
===Making a Good First Impression=== | ===Making a Good First Impression=== | ||
| − | #Learn as much as you can about him before you meet. People tend to react more positively toward people they can relate to, including people who dress more like them.<ref | + | #Learn as much as you can about him before you meet. People tend to react more positively toward people they can relate to, including people who dress more like them.<ref name="rf4" /> The more you know about him, the easier it will be to appeal to what he likes. Think of a few questions you can ask to learn more about his personality and style.<ref name="rf6">http://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2012/11/first-impressions.aspx</ref> |
#*Ask where he grew up. Certain regions have different styles. Someone from Brooklyn may be more on the cutting edge of style than someone who grew up in the country in Montana. | #*Ask where he grew up. Certain regions have different styles. Someone from Brooklyn may be more on the cutting edge of style than someone who grew up in the country in Montana. | ||
#*Ask what his hobbies are. If he spends time in coffee shops and record stores, he is probably more of a hipster. Someone interested in sports is probably more of a t-shirt and shorts type of guy. | #*Ask what his hobbies are. If he spends time in coffee shops and record stores, he is probably more of a hipster. Someone interested in sports is probably more of a t-shirt and shorts type of guy. | ||
| − | #Be confident in what you are wearing. There are already enough unknowns in a first meet. You want to appear confident. Now is not the time to try to put together a new outfit. Choose clothes you already really like, that make you feel good.<ref | + | #Be confident in what you are wearing. There are already enough unknowns in a first meet. You want to appear confident. Now is not the time to try to put together a new outfit. Choose clothes you already really like, that make you feel good.<ref name="rf6" /> |
#*Think about what outfits you have gotten compliments on in the past. | #*Think about what outfits you have gotten compliments on in the past. | ||
#*Choose comfortable clothing which fits well. You don’t want to have to worry about adjusting yourself all night. | #*Choose comfortable clothing which fits well. You don’t want to have to worry about adjusting yourself all night. | ||
| − | #Stay near the middle of the road. Avoid wearing something that you think is too much of anything. This could mean it is too short, too tight, too flashy, or too boring. If you are already questioning it, don’t wear it.<ref | + | #Stay near the middle of the road. Avoid wearing something that you think is too much of anything. This could mean it is too short, too tight, too flashy, or too boring. If you are already questioning it, don’t wear it.<ref name="rf6" /> |
#*Save the daring choices for a later date when you want to spice things up. | #*Save the daring choices for a later date when you want to spice things up. | ||
| − | #Wear some makeup, but not too much. It’s sad but true that people react more positively to girls who are wearing makeup than bare-faced girls. It’s a double-edged sword, because that respect can also be negated if you are wearing too much makeup.<ref | + | #Wear some makeup, but not too much. It’s sad but true that people react more positively to girls who are wearing makeup than bare-faced girls. It’s a double-edged sword, because that respect can also be negated if you are wearing too much makeup.<ref name="rf6" /> |
#*Stick to just some powder, blush, mascara and lip color. | #*Stick to just some powder, blush, mascara and lip color. | ||
#*Avoid excessive eye makeup or bold lip color for the first meeting. | #*Avoid excessive eye makeup or bold lip color for the first meeting. | ||
| − | #Don’t sweat it too much. He may not be the type of person who puts a lot of thought, effort or money into his own clothing. If this is the case, he is less likely to pick up on clothing cues or really care too much about what you are wearing.<ref | + | #Don’t sweat it too much. He may not be the type of person who puts a lot of thought, effort or money into his own clothing. If this is the case, he is less likely to pick up on clothing cues or really care too much about what you are wearing.<ref name="rf4" /> |
#*If he does spend a lot of money or time on his outfit, then he is probably just as worried about how he looks as you are. | #*If he does spend a lot of money or time on his outfit, then he is probably just as worried about how he looks as you are. | ||
