Get over a Bad Break Up
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When someone you love doesn't love you anymore, or cannot be with you anymore, your whole world feels like its been smashed. The only person that you want to help you through this time is them. But to regain your happiness and who you were before you were with them, this is what you'll need to do!
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Steps
- Cut off all communication. This is probably the hardest step if you're used to talking all day and night. But there is no way you can start feeling better if you're always waiting for a text to come through or getting dragged back into the fantasy that everything will be okay. Also, communication is the key to a relationship, no communication, no relationship. To help yourself resist the urge to contact them, delete, delete, delete! If they try to get in contact with you, ignore it. That may be hard, but it is the best thing to do, let them know that you're moving on.
- Spend all of your free time with people that made you happy before this relationship. Friends can help you keep your mind off the things that will keep going around in your head. It may seem like just blocking it out, but one day, everything will be resolved. Go for long walks with friends, re-kindle friendships that may have been lost during your time with your latest ex.
- Find your spiritual side. Just close your eyes, and ask someone to take this pain from you, ask them to give you strength to carry on and be happy. It doesn't matter if you have no religion, but just ask!
- Never go to sleep in silence, make sure you have a radio, CD, DVD on in the back ground. Just until your sleeping returns back too normal. It helps because it will stop you thinking about what's happening and calm you until you fall sleep.
- Eating may be the last thing on your mind, you may eat more than normal, or be barely eating at all, but make sure you eat healthily to keep yourself motivated and healthy-minded.
- Don't drown yourself in alcohol. Although it may make you feel happy, it is a depressant and isn't a sustainable way to keep yourself feeling good. If your mind is down in the dumps, alcohol could push you into deep depression.
- Keep your family close. All of them will have been through what you're going through now and can support you in your despair.
- Never think no one will ever love you again like they did. There is always someone else out there. They may be a million times different than your past lover, but you can still share the same feelings for them, and they will for you.
- Don't throw yourself at new partners too quickly or easily. Having sex just to have sex will make things worse, because you'll miss the times you've shared with your old lover and it won't fill your missing emotional bond.
- Stay away from love films and love songs that bring back memories of your old partner.
- Don't let yourself go. Even if you can't be bothered to do anything, make a bit of effort to keep yourself fresh and beautiful.
- If you find yourself continually thinking of them, count to 100 in your head, and then think of something else.
- Even if you feel like you can't go on, keep a smile on your face. It'll make you feel strong which is exactly what you need at this time.
- Places where you used to go together, go with a friend. Undo the anchors that makes it yours and your old lovers.
- Think how lucky you are each and everyday for your health and family.
- Do something to keep you occupied.
- Don't go where you know they'll be on purpose.
- Just smile! A smile can mend a broken heart.
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Tips
- Don't blame everything on yourself. It will only make you feel worse. Accept responsibility for the things you are guilty for, but remember that it is not all your fault.
- Be kind to yourself. Do whatever you feel you need to do to comfort yourself. Don't force yourself to do what your friends want you to do.
- Find someone to talk to about your breakup.
- Eat foods high in energy, good things, not bad. Eat things like bananas, which give your body the fuel to make serotonin, the happy hormone!
- Wear yourself out before you go too sleep.
Warnings
- Do not have sex with your ex. It will confuse both of you and make you regret it.
