Make Your Mother Happy

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It can sometimes be hard to think of ways to make your mom happy beyond the obvious things such as flowers and gifts. While these things are nice, and most moms would not turn them down, there are many other ways you can show your mom that you care about her. Happiness is a very personal thing and varies dramatically from person to person, so you may need to experiment with several of these techniques before you find what makes your own mom the happiest.

Steps

Connecting With Your Mom Through Communication

  1. Ask your mom to tell you about her life. One way to make someone else feel valued is to show them that you’re interested in them: who they are, what they’ve experienced, and what they think about. Asking your mom about her life will offer you the chance to connect with her, and will make her feel happy that you’re interested in what she has to say.
    • For example, if you’re just hanging out in the living room, you could turn to your mom and ask her what her favorite thing to do was as a little girl. You’ll probably get a few interesting stories this way!
    • Research even shows that families who share stories about their family history have closer bonds, and the children in those families tend to have more self-confidence. Asking your mom to talk about her history will benefit both of you -- it’s science![1]
  2. Ask your mom how she’s feeling. Moms are just like anyone else: they need people to talk to. Asking your mom how she’s feeling shows that you’re paying attention to her and that you care about her happiness -- and that will probably make her very happy.
    • For example, if you notice that she seems stressed, you could say something like this: “You seem really stressed right now, Mom. Are you okay?”
    • Asking your mom about her day is another good way to engage with her. She probably asks you about what you did that day; why not return the favor?
  3. Send her a quick text. Even small acts of kindness have big payoffs. Sending your mom a quick text during the day that says you’re thinking about her will help make her feel appreciated and special. The more people feel cared for, the happier they tend to be.[2]
    • You don’t have to write a novel to make an impact. Even a short “Hi Mom! I hope your day is going well” is enough to show that you care about your mom’s happiness.
  4. Apologize when you know you've done something wrong. Sometimes it’s really hard to apologize to your mom, especially if you feel like she’s on your case a lot. However, apologizing when you’re wrong and taking responsibility for your actions will strengthen your relationship and make your mom feel loved.
    • Good apologies incorporate the “3 R’s”: regret, responsibility, and remedy. This means you express regret for the hurt you caused, take responsibility for your actions without making excuses, and offer a suggestion for what you’ll do differently next time.
    • For example, if your mom points out that you forgot to take out the trash again, say something like “I’m sorry I forgot to take out the trash. I know that meant more work for you. I’ll put a reminder in my phone for Wednesdays so I remember next time.”[3]
  5. Put yourself in her shoes. It can sometimes feel like your mom is your best friend one day and your prison warden the next. Instead of just thinking to yourself What is she doing?, try imagining what it would be like to be in her position. Exercising your empathy muscles isn't just good for your mom, it's good for you, too.[4]
    • For example, if she asked you about your day and you shrugged her off instead of talking, that might have hurt her feelings. If you’re too busy to talk at that moment, express that clearly by saying something like “Sorry, but I have a lot of homework to finish right now, Mom.Is it okay if we can talk later?” This shows that you do care about connecting with her, even if you can’t do it right then.
    • Moms can do things that embarrass you; in fact, sometimes it can feel like they specialize in it! Try to imagine why your mom is doing what she’s doing. It could be that she’s babying you because she wants you to feel secure, not because she thinks you’re immature. And hey, you can always ask her why she’s doing what she does.
  6. Talk to her when you’re having problems. Many moms love to feel involved in their kids’ lives, especially when their kids invite them to share in their feelings and thoughts. If you’ve had a bad day, or you can’t figure out a situation at school, or you have a secret crush and don’t know how to approach him or her, ask your mom for advice. This will help make her feel like you value her opinion.
    • The opposite of this also goes. Even though your mom is probably happy to listen and help you with your issues, you also don’t want the only times you talk to your mom to be when you dump your problems on her. If you’re feeling great about something, or you have some good news to share, or you just saw a movie that you liked, chat with her about that, too.
  7. Develop some inside jokes and references. You probably have a lot of hilarious jokes with your friends, right? Maybe you went to see a movie one time and mispronounced a character’s name, so now it’s funny whenever you bring up that mispronunciation. Having that kind of “secret” humor just between you and your mom will help strengthen your bond and make both of you feel secure and happy in your relationship.[5]

Demonstrating Your Appreciation Through Actions

  1. Make a personal gift for her. Gifts mean more when they show that you put some time and effort into them. They don’t have to be expensive, either; anything that shows that you thought about what would make your mom happy will probably have the effect you want.
    • For example, if your mom loves Star Wars, fold her an origami Yoda! While it’s also very cheap to make, this gift shows that you pay attention to her interests and will take the time to brighten up her day.[6]
    • You could also make your mom a “coupon book” with things she can redeem, such as “one breakfast in bed” or “one bad joke upon request.”
    • Mix tapes may be too “old school” for you, but you can put together a playlist of songs that remind you of your mom, or songs that make you happy when you’re feeling down. Share this playlist with her, and whenever she hears that song, she’ll think of you.
  2. Leave her a note in her lunch. Maybe your mom always slipped a note into your lunch telling you that she loves you and always will. Why not try it out yourself? You can even pack her lunch for her and leave it in the fridge so she doesn’t have to do a thing in the morning.
  3. Introduce your mom to your friends. Sure, it can be embarrassing to bring your friends home to your mom. You never know if she’s going to try to haul out your baby pictures or talk about that “cute”thing you did when you were 5. However, making your mom feel involved in your life will remind her that you care about her -- even when she’s embarrassing you.
  4. Help your mom around the house. Doing chores can be stressful and a huge time-suck. Take some of the pressure off your mom by helping out with things you’re able to do. This works even better if you surprise her; for example, if she gets home from work and finds all the dishes done already, she’ll probably be really happy.
  5. Make a meal for her. Getting dinner together can be incredibly stressful. If you know your mom is having a busy week, tell her you’d like to Cook For Your Family as a Child one night. Even if you can’t do it all yourself, offer to help her in the kitchen. You’ll learn some sweet cooking skills and get to spend quality time together.
    • Breakfast in bed is a tried-and-true classic. While many people save it for Mother’s Day, the truth is that your mom will probably appreciate breakfast in bed on any weekend!
    • Take time to figure out what her favorite foods are and make them for her. If she likes something that’s too complicated for you, or that you don’t know how to make, ask her to teach you how to make it a few weeks before you want to make it for her.
  6. Take on more responsibility for yourself. It can be incredibly stressful and time-consuming for your mom to manage everyone’s schedules, especially if you are part of a large family. Keeping up with your appointments and outings on your own will help take the burden off your mom. A mom with less stress is a mom with more happiness![7]
  7. Spend time with your mom. Ask to hang out just the two of you, or suggest you see a movie that she’s said she’s really excited about. You can offer to play video games with her or just go on a walk; the important thing is to show that you’re interested in spending time with her.
    • Outings don’t even have to cost anything. For example, if you’re both animal lovers, suggest that you and your mom go to the local animal shelter and play with the animals. Many rescue animals need socialization, so in addition to making your mom happy, you’ll also be helping cats, dogs, and the occasional ferret.
  8. Remember important dates. Nothing makes a mom feel more special than her children remembering her birthday or anniversary. Send her a heartfelt letter, card, or e-card that expresses how much she means to you.
    • To help you remember important dates, put them into your phone’s calendar. If you’re friends with your mom on Facebook (yeah, it happens!), Facebook will remind you about her upcoming birthday.

Tips

  • Even if you’ve moved out on your own, you can still do a lot of these things to bring a smile to your mom’s face. Staying in touch with texts, calls, and even messages on social media can help your mom feel connected to you.
  • While grand gestures are also great, it’s the little day-to-day things that help people feel appreciated and loved. These usually don’t cost much, but the rewards they bring is priceless.
  • Make her a homemade gift. She will love it.
  • Concentrating in your school and getting good grades will make your mum happy- a lot of mothers worry about whether or not their child is getting a good education.
  • Give her a hug and tell her how much you love her!
  • Tell her that you love her for who she is and what she always does for you.
  • You can do anything for her without her telling you at all.
  • Do things without your mom asking you!!!
  • Clean up and do your chores even without your mom asking you.
  • If she's embarrassing you in front of your friends,talk to her about it afterwards. Don't shout and be disrespectful!
  • Make your mom breakfast in bed. She's sure to like that!
  • Don't argue about little things.
  • Make dinner or watch your sister or brother if your older then them.
  • Most mums shout a lot. If this is your mum then just tell her to calm down and then give her a hug and kiss.
  • Do things to take the stress off of her, and lighten her load. For example, do some extra chores around the house.

Sources and Citations

  1. ↑ http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/fashion/the-family-stories-that-bind-us-this-life.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0
  2. ↑ http://www.forbes.com/sites/margiewarrell/2013/05/16/feeling-appreciated-why-it-can-make-all-the-difference/
  3. ↑ http://www.umass.edu/fambiz/articles/resolving_conflict/meaningful_apology.html
  4. ↑ http://yourselfseries.com/teens/topic/empathy/what-you-gain-by-being-empathic/
  5. ↑ http://family.jrank.org/pages/530/Family-Folklore.html
  6. ↑ http://origamiyoda.com/how-to-fold/
  7. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bruce-feiler/forget-flowers-five-ways-to-make-mom-happier_b_3220573.html
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