Make People Feel Good
All people have one thing in common. We all want to be liked. We are an extremely ego driven race, however we have a strong need to have the approval from others. To make people feel good, you don't have to go out of your way and you don't have to even like the person. Here are several steps you can take to make a person feel good.
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Steps
- Use a person's name. People tend to feel good when they hear their name. Sometimes people also love friendly nicknames-for example: if they love football,you can acknowledge that by calling them "Footy Queen/King"! Do not call someone a nickname if they wouldn't appreciate that, and you know that already. Instead, just say their real name.
- Ask the person to teach you something. People always feel good about themselves when they are teaching people - and when the person gets it right, it is a great feeling !
- Compliment a person. Even if you don't like a person, you can always find one thing that you like about them. It could be the car they drive or the watch they wear.
- Listen and repeat back bits of what they just said. This will show them that you are really listening. All too often we want people to hear us. Most often we want to impose our opinion or we want to tell a person what they should have done in a situation, or what you would have done. If you just listen, and I really mean really listen, not just nod and be forming a reply in your head, people really feel good when they know someone is listening.
- Understand. Put yourself in their position and really understand what they are saying or going through. People feel good when they know someone understands what they are saying.
- Smile (seems simple enough). If you just smile at someone, it will make them feel more at ease.
- Remember their spouse's names, or interests that they have. Then when you see them you can ask "How is Linda?", or "Still building the model boats?" Remembering important facts about a person makes them feel like they are special.
- Help a person. This is a pretty simple one. If someone is in need and you help them, it will show them that someone cares.
- Touch them with friendly hugs, kisses and more. But all of them must be natural. Feel the beauty (think about it - it's the perfect plural!) of loving someone...
- Buy them a gift to say With Love or Best Wishes or something
- Make a conscious effort to soak up negative energy near you and re-radiate in a positive way.
Tips
- Always greet people warmly.
- Every situation and every person is different - adjust accordingly.
- Stay positive. If they see you're happy, it'll make them smile and be happy too.
- Let someone get ahead of you in the line up. Small things like that help people.
Warnings
- Try to do what feels natural and be as sincere as possible.
- This is not a guide to "kissing up". Most people will see right through you if you are not genuine.
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