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| − | + | It is common for children to feel like their parents are too reserved in letting them live their own lives. Sometimes this is because the child is just pushing boundaries and maturing a little faster than the parent realizes, and other times it is because the parent is attempting to control the child’s life. There are many reasons for the need to control your child, from being a perfectionist to being afraid that they will repeat your mistakes, and parents often do not even realize that they are harming their child instead of protecting them. | |
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#*This can be hard for minors also, but not impossible to do in small steps. Even if you don’t pay your own rent and utilities, try to earn your own money for extra outings that you would like to do. This doesn’t mean your parents have to say yes, but having earned the money to go to the movies eliminates one more barrier that a controlling parent can use. | #*This can be hard for minors also, but not impossible to do in small steps. Even if you don’t pay your own rent and utilities, try to earn your own money for extra outings that you would like to do. This doesn’t mean your parents have to say yes, but having earned the money to go to the movies eliminates one more barrier that a controlling parent can use. | ||
#Refrain from asking for favors from your parents. Asking a favor of your parent puts them in the position to bargain. If you want them to fulfill your need, you’ll have to do something in return. While this isn’t inherently bad, it can quickly lead to you giving up your decision making power to them. Ask friends or other family members if you need help.<ref name="rf2" /> | #Refrain from asking for favors from your parents. Asking a favor of your parent puts them in the position to bargain. If you want them to fulfill your need, you’ll have to do something in return. While this isn’t inherently bad, it can quickly lead to you giving up your decision making power to them. Ask friends or other family members if you need help.<ref name="rf2" /> | ||
| − | #[[Tell | + | #[[Tell if Your Parents Are Abusive|Identify abuse]]. If you are a child who is being subjected to abuse, call your local child protective services or talk to someone at your school, like a teacher or counselor. Abuse may take many forms, so if you are unsure about whether or not you are being abused, then try talking to a school counselor. Some of the different types of abuse include: |
#*Physical abuse, which includes slapping, punching, restraining, burning, or injuring you in other ways. | #*Physical abuse, which includes slapping, punching, restraining, burning, or injuring you in other ways. | ||
#*[[Identify-Emotional-Abuse|Emotional abuse]], which includes name-calling, humiliation, blaming, and making unreasonable demands. | #*[[Identify-Emotional-Abuse|Emotional abuse]], which includes name-calling, humiliation, blaming, and making unreasonable demands. | ||
