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=== Preparing Your Case=== | === Preparing Your Case=== | ||
#Define what you want. If you want to be extra persuasive when you talk with your parents, you need to know as much about dreadlocks as possible. | #Define what you want. If you want to be extra persuasive when you talk with your parents, you need to know as much about dreadlocks as possible. | ||
| − | #*Learn exactly what they are. Dreadlocks are created by sectioning the hair carefully and then backcombing it. The hair is then twisted and secured. Eventually, your hair will be “trained” to the style. <ref>http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dreadlock</ref><ref>http://www.dreadlocks.us/dreadlocks_faq.html</ref> | + | #*Learn exactly what they are. Dreadlocks are created by sectioning the hair carefully and then backcombing it. The hair is then twisted and secured. Eventually, your hair will be “trained” to the style. <ref name="rf1">http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dreadlock</ref><ref name="rf2">http://www.dreadlocks.us/dreadlocks_faq.html</ref> |
#*Find photos or Internet links with examples of styles you are suggesting. Having something concrete to show your parents will help them visualize you with the new hairstyle. If left to their imagination, they will think of the worst possible outcome. | #*Find photos or Internet links with examples of styles you are suggesting. Having something concrete to show your parents will help them visualize you with the new hairstyle. If left to their imagination, they will think of the worst possible outcome. | ||
#*Figure out how you will take care and style them. That way, you can say something like, “I’ve already researched the shampoo or wax I plan to use, and it is very affordable, easy to obtain, etc.” | #*Figure out how you will take care and style them. That way, you can say something like, “I’ve already researched the shampoo or wax I plan to use, and it is very affordable, easy to obtain, etc.” | ||
#Describe clearly why you want dreadlocks. If you can fully explain your desire for dreads, your parents will take your request more seriously. Otherwise, they could just dismiss your request as a passing fad. | #Describe clearly why you want dreadlocks. If you can fully explain your desire for dreads, your parents will take your request more seriously. Otherwise, they could just dismiss your request as a passing fad. | ||
#*If your primary motivation is individuality, focus on that. Say something such as, “I want to set myself apart from my friends. My clothing choices are already unique, and I want to go a step further.” | #*If your primary motivation is individuality, focus on that. Say something such as, “I want to set myself apart from my friends. My clothing choices are already unique, and I want to go a step further.” | ||
| − | #*Perhaps you are moved by a newfound religious faith and want to express that through wearing dreadlocks. Some followers of Hinduism, Buddhism, and Rastafarianism believe that dreadlocks show an aversion to the material world and a fuller devotion to the creator. <ref>http://peopleof.oureverydaylife.com/religious-beliefs-dreadlocks-8910.html</ref> | + | #*Perhaps you are moved by a newfound religious faith and want to express that through wearing dreadlocks. Some followers of Hinduism, Buddhism, and Rastafarianism believe that dreadlocks show an aversion to the material world and a fuller devotion to the creator. <ref name="rf3">http://peopleof.oureverydaylife.com/religious-beliefs-dreadlocks-8910.html</ref> |
| − | #Think of people your parents admire who had them. If you can remind your parents that someone they respect (such as Bob Marley, Whoopi Goldberg, Lenny Kravitz, or Stevie Wonder) has worn dreads, they may be more open to the idea of you having them.<ref> http://www.dreadlocks.org/famous-people-with-dreads/</ref> | + | #Think of people your parents admire who had them. If you can remind your parents that someone they respect (such as Bob Marley, Whoopi Goldberg, Lenny Kravitz, or Stevie Wonder) has worn dreads, they may be more open to the idea of you having them.<ref name="rf4"> http://www.dreadlocks.org/famous-people-with-dreads/</ref> |
===Talking it Through=== | ===Talking it Through=== | ||
#Write down your thoughts. After you’ve figured out exactly why you want dreads, gather your thoughts and put them to paper. Then, you’ll be prepared to effectively make your case to your parents. | #Write down your thoughts. After you’ve figured out exactly why you want dreads, gather your thoughts and put them to paper. Then, you’ll be prepared to effectively make your case to your parents. | ||
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#Explain that dreadlocks are actually a clean hairstyle. Many people, including parents, mistakenly think that dreadlocks are dirty or smell. By gently informing them this is incorrect, you could help persuade them. | #Explain that dreadlocks are actually a clean hairstyle. Many people, including parents, mistakenly think that dreadlocks are dirty or smell. By gently informing them this is incorrect, you could help persuade them. | ||
#*Educate them that dreadlocks are not a magnet for bugs, as some say. | #*Educate them that dreadlocks are not a magnet for bugs, as some say. | ||
| − | #*Tell them that those with dreadlocks should actually wash their hair twice a week, because clean hair is more easily styled into dreads than dirty hair.<ref | + | #*Tell them that those with dreadlocks should actually wash their hair twice a week, because clean hair is more easily styled into dreads than dirty hair.<ref name="rf2" /> |
#*Show them the research you have done on maintaining dreadlocks in a clean, hygienic way and promise them you will keep your hair neat and clean once you have your dreads. | #*Show them the research you have done on maintaining dreadlocks in a clean, hygienic way and promise them you will keep your hair neat and clean once you have your dreads. | ||
#Negotiate and compromise until you receive a “Yes,” from your parents. During the negotiation process, be open to their suggestions. They may be willing to strike a bargain with you so that everyone is happy with the result. | #Negotiate and compromise until you receive a “Yes,” from your parents. During the negotiation process, be open to their suggestions. They may be willing to strike a bargain with you so that everyone is happy with the result. | ||
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#*Ask them if there is anything else you can do to convince them of your decision. They may suggest additional research or more chores around the house. | #*Ask them if there is anything else you can do to convince them of your decision. They may suggest additional research or more chores around the house. | ||
#*Be open to compromising on the length of your dreads. Your parents may be more open to a shorter style. | #*Be open to compromising on the length of your dreads. Your parents may be more open to a shorter style. | ||
| − | #*Suggest that you get temporary dreadlocks so that they can see how they look on you. <ref> http://blogforbeauty.com/fake-dreadlocks/</ref> | + | #*Suggest that you get temporary dreadlocks so that they can see how they look on you. <ref name="rf5"> http://blogforbeauty.com/fake-dreadlocks/</ref> |
#Thank your parents for listening to you and for giving you the chance to express yourself in a mature way. By being respectful throughout the process and ending with a real expression of gratitude, you set yourself up for good discussions with your parents in the future. | #Thank your parents for listening to you and for giving you the chance to express yourself in a mature way. By being respectful throughout the process and ending with a real expression of gratitude, you set yourself up for good discussions with your parents in the future. | ||
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