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“Confronting someone who has hurt us is a very difficult and threatening task. When we actually walk into the room and see the person’s face, we may become confused, shut down emotionally, or become violently angry,” they write. | “Confronting someone who has hurt us is a very difficult and threatening task. When we actually walk into the room and see the person’s face, we may become confused, shut down emotionally, or become violently angry,” they write. | ||
Follow the steps below that Clinton and Springle recommend when confronting someone who has hurt you (this process comes from the pages of their book Break Through). | Follow the steps below that Clinton and Springle recommend when confronting someone who has hurt you (this process comes from the pages of their book Break Through). | ||
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== Steps == | == Steps == | ||
# Be prepared: Write out what you want to say before you sit down with the person, so that you won’t get taken off track, do it. Don’t blame, just state your feelings. Use “I feel …” statements, not “you did …” statements. | # Be prepared: Write out what you want to say before you sit down with the person, so that you won’t get taken off track, do it. Don’t blame, just state your feelings. Use “I feel …” statements, not “you did …” statements. | ||
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#“Forgiving doesn’t mean we have to give in to manipulation. It doesn’t mean we have to blindly trust again. It doesn’t mean the hurt is magically erased. Reconciliation is based on trust, and trust must be proven over time.” | #“Forgiving doesn’t mean we have to give in to manipulation. It doesn’t mean we have to blindly trust again. It doesn’t mean the hurt is magically erased. Reconciliation is based on trust, and trust must be proven over time.” | ||
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSsWu1O4b8I | http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSsWu1O4b8I | ||
