Live Without a Boyfriend
Boys are not the most important things in our lives. Family and friends are just as - if not more - important. Sometimes it seems the opposite, though, especially when you see your other friends with their boyfriends. See Step 1 to learn how to enjoy life without a boyfriend.
Steps
- Concentrate on your friends, family and schoolwork for a bit. You're at school for a few years of your life, and then you're working for about 40-50 years! Work hard now, and you will find that making money will become a lot easier when you are older because you will get a good job, career, and more, all because of your hard work in the past. (Work smart, not hard, ladies - dig your ditches while you're young enough to do it with vigor, and life will present you with a lot more choices later.)
- Ponder exactly why you want a boyfriend. Most of the time it is not because you feel any real emotion toward someone for who he really is, but because you are needing something to satisfy an emotional need, or even just to feed your ego. If you are the type to "fall in love" with a guy you've known for only a few minutes, even though he's said nothing of value, try examining your own motives. Ask yourself if you would like to be used as an ornament or accessory for some guy, just so he can show his buddies he can get a girlfriend if he chooses to. You wouldn't dig it at all, if you're any kind of self-respecting young woman. Put yourself in his shoes. He won't dig it, either.
- Keep yourself busy! To keep your mind free of men, spend time on hobbies and try new things! You never know, you could find something you really enjoy doing.
- Consider volunteer work at your church or local hospital. Seeing others coping with harder circumstances than having no boyfriend may help you appreciate the good things in your life.
Tips
- Try a hobby - photography with a digital camera is fun and doesn't cost a lot to get started. A nice Nikon Coolpix or Canon or Sony Cybershot are great choices. Learn how to take great shots now, and you'll be ready for the next boyfriend - and there will be one, just relax and wait. Try scuba diving if you're athletic and live near the beach! Or karate, or kick boxing, or yoga! Consider oil or water color painting - especially if you've never tried it or think you're not artistic. Sweetie, it's just about YOU - nobody else is going to be watching you, and you might surprise yourself.
- Just realize that there is somebody for everybody, you'll find your man someday in your life even if it takes a long time.
- Definitely spend lots of time with girlfriends and family - now is your time to do this! Go to movies, theme parks, dinner, or just coffee.
- All of the above are great ways to meet people. Get off your tail and go out there into the world. If you still don't get it, go buy a copy of Liza With a "Z" and listen to Ring Them Bells until you do. Sitting around your house moping will not make your life better, or get you any closer to having someone to share your life with.
- Visit museums and see beautiful works of art and statues. It's good for your soul, and art is every bit as beautiful when you look at it by yourself as if some edgy boyfriend who just wants to get home to see the game is standing next to you.
- Times when you are between men can be some of the most rewarding and growth-oriented times of your life. Enjoy this time to find out about yourself, do as you please, go where you want when you feel like it without checking with someone first, and sleep whenever you want to!
- Read classic literature - you'd be surprised at how much more interesting you will be to others if you have a wider breadth of experience and culture.
Warnings
- Don't be cold with men. Your male friends don't deserve to be treated coldly because you are bitter about not having a boyfriend. It's not fair to make every man you interact with the punching bag for frustrations you have with your own feelings of inadequacy. Misery never helped anyone lead a happy life.
Things You'll Need
- a friend who isn't flirty
- Maybe a nice little camera
- some art supplies
- A library card
- Movie tickets!
- Family
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