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Reputation is how other people view you and can be based on things you have (or haven’t done), gossip, and how you present yourself in person and online. Your reputation may be good, bad, or somewhere in between, but you might not be happy with the image that you feel you project. The good thing is, your reputation is not permanent and with time and a plan, you can change how people view you. | Reputation is how other people view you and can be based on things you have (or haven’t done), gossip, and how you present yourself in person and online. Your reputation may be good, bad, or somewhere in between, but you might not be happy with the image that you feel you project. The good thing is, your reputation is not permanent and with time and a plan, you can change how people view you. | ||
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== Steps == | == Steps == | ||
===Examining Your Reputation=== | ===Examining Your Reputation=== | ||
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#*Think about the things people have told other people about you. | #*Think about the things people have told other people about you. | ||
#*Ask a trusted peer what type of reputation you have. | #*Ask a trusted peer what type of reputation you have. | ||
| − | # Figure out why you have this reputation. There can be lots of different reasons why you have the reputation you do. Take some time to determine why exactly you have this reputation.<ref> https://www.ivyexec.com/executive-insights/2015/how-to-change-a-negative-reputation/</ref> Where did the opinion of you come from? | + | # Figure out why you have this reputation. There can be lots of different reasons why you have the reputation you do. Take some time to determine why exactly you have this reputation.<ref name="rf1"> https://www.ivyexec.com/executive-insights/2015/how-to-change-a-negative-reputation/</ref> Where did the opinion of you come from? |
#*Is your reputation based on things you actually have said or done? | #*Is your reputation based on things you actually have said or done? | ||
#*Is it based on things you have posted, shared, or commented on online? | #*Is it based on things you have posted, shared, or commented on online? | ||
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#Separate your reputation from your self-image. Understand that your reputation is not always an accurate reflection of the real you. It is how people view you, and people can be wrong. | #Separate your reputation from your self-image. Understand that your reputation is not always an accurate reflection of the real you. It is how people view you, and people can be wrong. | ||
#*Ask yourself if your reputation truly represents who you are as a person. | #*Ask yourself if your reputation truly represents who you are as a person. | ||
| − | #*Make sure that you don’t let the negative things people think about you turn into negative things you believe about yourself.<ref>http://www.thehopeline.com/rebuild-a-bad-reputation/</ref> | + | #*Make sure that you don’t let the negative things people think about you turn into negative things you believe about yourself.<ref name="rf2">http://www.thehopeline.com/rebuild-a-bad-reputation/</ref> |
#*Always remember that you are a great person that deserves to be treated with respect, no matter what your reputation is. | #*Always remember that you are a great person that deserves to be treated with respect, no matter what your reputation is. | ||
===Planning Your New Reputation=== | ===Planning Your New Reputation=== | ||
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#*You may find that there are parts of your reputation that you don’t want to or need to change. | #*You may find that there are parts of your reputation that you don’t want to or need to change. | ||
#*If it’s to impress someone or just to fit in, maybe you don’t need to change your reputation, maybe you need to change your friends. | #*If it’s to impress someone or just to fit in, maybe you don’t need to change your reputation, maybe you need to change your friends. | ||
| − | #*If it is because your reputation is negative and makes you feel bad about yourself and/or causes you problems, then you probably do want to change it.<ref>http://www.teenink.com/nonfiction/all/article/7757/A-Bad-Reputation/</ref> | + | #*If it is because your reputation is negative and makes you feel bad about yourself and/or causes you problems, then you probably do want to change it.<ref name="rf3">http://www.teenink.com/nonfiction/all/article/7757/A-Bad-Reputation/</ref> |
#Develop a “profile” of the ideal you. Write a description of the new you. If you want to, create a vision board or drawing depicting the person you want to be. | #Develop a “profile” of the ideal you. Write a description of the new you. If you want to, create a vision board or drawing depicting the person you want to be. | ||
#*Be detailed and specific. Instead of using vague terms like "fun" or "intelligent", use more descriptive and exact terms like "puts people at ease" or "knows a lot about Latin". | #*Be detailed and specific. Instead of using vague terms like "fun" or "intelligent", use more descriptive and exact terms like "puts people at ease" or "knows a lot about Latin". | ||
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#*Include descriptions of things the ideal you would do, places you would go, etc. | #*Include descriptions of things the ideal you would do, places you would go, etc. | ||
#*Consider what your cyber reputation would look like as well. What types of sites, posts, comments, etc. are in line with the reputation you want to have? | #*Consider what your cyber reputation would look like as well. What types of sites, posts, comments, etc. are in line with the reputation you want to have? | ||
| − | #Make a realistic, detailed and specific plan to change your reputation.<ref | + | #Make a realistic, detailed and specific plan to change your reputation.<ref name="rf2" /> Using the profile you created of the ideal you, think about how you can change one or two things about your reputation.<ref name="rf4"> https://www.themuse.com/advice/how-to-change-your-reputation-at-the-office</ref> |
#*Think about what actions/tasks you will need to do. How will you need to change your attitude, your activities, and/or your appearance? How will you need to act and dress? Where will you need to go? What will you need to do? | #*Think about what actions/tasks you will need to do. How will you need to change your attitude, your activities, and/or your appearance? How will you need to act and dress? Where will you need to go? What will you need to do? | ||
#*Make sure your changes are things that you have the ability, time and money to achieve. Think about what financial, material, and human resources you have to support you in making your changes. Think about what resources you will need, as well as, if and how you can get them. | #*Make sure your changes are things that you have the ability, time and money to achieve. Think about what financial, material, and human resources you have to support you in making your changes. Think about what resources you will need, as well as, if and how you can get them. | ||
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#Start implementing your plan to change your reputation. Now that you know why you are changing, what you are changing, and how you are going to do it, you can take action. Use your plan to help you know what to wear, do, say, where to go, etc. | #Start implementing your plan to change your reputation. Now that you know why you are changing, what you are changing, and how you are going to do it, you can take action. Use your plan to help you know what to wear, do, say, where to go, etc. | ||
#Own up to what you have done in the past. If you have a bad reputation based on something you did, then be honest about what happened, apologize sincerely and show people that you really are sorry and really have changed. | #Own up to what you have done in the past. If you have a bad reputation based on something you did, then be honest about what happened, apologize sincerely and show people that you really are sorry and really have changed. | ||
| − | #Be consistent. Make a concerted effort every day, in every situation, and everything you say, do, and post to reflect the person you are becoming.<ref>https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-change-my-reputation</ref><ref> http://www.forbes.com/sites/yec/2014/01/28/10-simple-ways-to-improve-your-reputation/#7857234e213e</ref> | + | #Be consistent. Make a concerted effort every day, in every situation, and everything you say, do, and post to reflect the person you are becoming.<ref name="rf5">https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-change-my-reputation</ref><ref name="rf6"> http://www.forbes.com/sites/yec/2014/01/28/10-simple-ways-to-improve-your-reputation/#7857234e213e</ref> |
#*Make sure your outward appearance matches the other changes you are making to your reputation. Talk, walk, and look like the reputation you are building. | #*Make sure your outward appearance matches the other changes you are making to your reputation. Talk, walk, and look like the reputation you are building. | ||
#*Present yourself with confidence. When gossip or negative people come around, don’t let it upset you. When possible, ignore it and be confident knowing that you are changing yourself in positive ways. | #*Present yourself with confidence. When gossip or negative people come around, don’t let it upset you. When possible, ignore it and be confident knowing that you are changing yourself in positive ways. | ||
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#*Join positive online groups and forums related to your developing reputation. | #*Join positive online groups and forums related to your developing reputation. | ||
#Ask for support from people you trust. It always helps to have someone encouraging you and lending a hand when things get rough or just to remind of the great person you are becoming. | #Ask for support from people you trust. It always helps to have someone encouraging you and lending a hand when things get rough or just to remind of the great person you are becoming. | ||
| − | #Be patient. Unfortunately, although they can be destroyed in a moment, good reputations take time to build and rebuild. At first people may not see or even believe that you are changing. Remember that change takes time, but know that as long as you work at it consistently, people ''will'' begin to see the new you. <ref | + | #Be patient. Unfortunately, although they can be destroyed in a moment, good reputations take time to build and rebuild. At first people may not see or even believe that you are changing. Remember that change takes time, but know that as long as you work at it consistently, people ''will'' begin to see the new you. <ref name="rf1" /> |
== Tips == | == Tips == | ||
