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* Talk about love, dreams or anything that makes you feel happy. | * Talk about love, dreams or anything that makes you feel happy. | ||
* '''Working toward your ''own'' personal goals''', don't confuse yours goals with ones of parents or friends, but follow your vision. Goals can propel you to move forward instead of procrastinating/wandering. Figure out what will make you feel accomplishment, and make one step at a time to get there. | * '''Working toward your ''own'' personal goals''', don't confuse yours goals with ones of parents or friends, but follow your vision. Goals can propel you to move forward instead of procrastinating/wandering. Figure out what will make you feel accomplishment, and make one step at a time to get there. | ||
| − | * You feel the way you think. A simple way to look at this is the following equation: | + | * You feel the way you think. A simple way to look at this is the following equation:''(activating event) + (beliefs) = (consequence.)'' '''A + B = C ''' This means an external triggering event alone will only contribute to making you feel sad, anxious, fearful or any other emotion. Your beliefs also contribute along with the triggering event to how you feel. So changing the way you look at things (such as an attitude) will result in a big change in how you feel in response to situations that trigger negative emotions in you. As a rule of thumb, remember that anything that makes you feel bad for longer than than several minutes is self inflicted. It's your thought process, and not just the actual event that largely makes you feel the way you do (a concept from cognitive behavioral therapy). |
* '''Don't be ashamed'''; when and if you fall, get back up and dust yourself off and go again... Remember that most of what you're stressing over now will be irrelevant in a year. And when you had a bad day there is always a new chance to make next time or tomorrow better. When you fall, you may get a scratch or a broken bone but it will heal. | * '''Don't be ashamed'''; when and if you fall, get back up and dust yourself off and go again... Remember that most of what you're stressing over now will be irrelevant in a year. And when you had a bad day there is always a new chance to make next time or tomorrow better. When you fall, you may get a scratch or a broken bone but it will heal. | ||
* '''Take deep breaths, and smile''', even if there is nothing to smile about. Relaxation and meditation or prayer can be very helpful, if you believe in it. To relax, start by flexing your toes, feet and continue up the leg, and up to each area of your entire body, doing tensing up and then relaxing your neck, jaw/mouth, face and finally wiggling your scalp muscles. Even getting a massage is a way of taking just a bit of time out for yourself, as a way to reward yourself for all that you do. | * '''Take deep breaths, and smile''', even if there is nothing to smile about. Relaxation and meditation or prayer can be very helpful, if you believe in it. To relax, start by flexing your toes, feet and continue up the leg, and up to each area of your entire body, doing tensing up and then relaxing your neck, jaw/mouth, face and finally wiggling your scalp muscles. Even getting a massage is a way of taking just a bit of time out for yourself, as a way to reward yourself for all that you do. | ||
