Difference between revisions of "Ask Your Girlfriend to Hold Hands"

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#Be somewhere special. Make sure you are somewhere where you and your girlfriend feel comfortable. Try not to be somewhere that is too loud or distracting. For instance, try not to be in a really loud restaurant with TV's blaring from every side. This is probably not the place that your girlfriend wants to have this special moment with you. You also probably don't want to hold her hand for the first time in math class, or somewhere that both of you would rather not be.This moment should be about your relationship, not anything else. <ref name="rf1">http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating_top_ten/75_dating_list.html</ref>

#* Seeming relaxed as opposed to stiff <ref name="rf2">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vanessa-van-edwards/female-body-language_b_3469175.html</ref>

#Get a bit closer to her. Does she seem to mind you getting closer? If she moves a little bit away as you move closer, she may not yet feel comfortable holding hands. However, you can tell that she is interested if she does not move away and if her torso and feet are pointed towards you as opposed to pointed away. If someone has their body pointed towards you while you are close together, it shows a level of comfort and trust. <ref name="rf3">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201110/reading-basic-body-language-dating-and-persuasion-success</ref>

#* The fact that you are asking her rather than just doing it shows your girlfriend how much you respect her. Society often tells us that men have to make the first move, so she may have really wanted to hold your hand this whole time! <ref name="rf4">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201510/should-women-make-the-first-move-in-relationship</ref>

#*If she takes it off the table, then you should take that as a sign that she does not want to hold hands.<ref name="rf5">http://www.herinterest.com/how-to-get-a-guy-to-hold-your-hand/</ref>

#Act natural. You're probably totally psyched that you're holding hands for the first time. But one important thing to do is to keep on acting as you normally do. Even though you probably paused the conversation by asking her to hold hands, start talking again, either about what you were talking about before or a new subject. You don't want to just start holding her hand and go silent on her! <ref name="rf1" />

#Try not to get upset. Maybe you tried to hold your girlfriend's hand and she did not want to. This can happen, but it isn't anything to get too upset over. Maybe she wasn't ready for it and it took her by surprise. It could be that she hadn't thought about holding hands before, and she needs some time to consider if she wants to. <ref name="rf6">http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/dealing-with-rejection</ref>

#Remember that it may not have to do with you. You know the old phrase "It's not you, it's me?" Well, it really could be her! There are a lot of reasons why she could have rejected your offer, so try not to take it personally or as a reflection of your relationship. <ref name="rf7">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fighting-fear/201308/how-cope-rejection</ref>

#Check that you are on the same page. Holding hands is often a sign that you are part of a couple. Are you public about your relationship? Maybe she didn't want to hold hands because she felt it was the wrong moment for your relationship to go public. <ref name="rf8">http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/05/fashion/05hands.html?pagewanted=all</ref>  

* Remember that your girlfriend is probably excited to hold hands too! Studies even show that women on average like hand-holding more than men do! <ref name="rf9">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201401/seven-types-physical-affection-in-relationships</ref>