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| − | If you feel very attracted to members of the same sex or both sexes, but need to feel like you have accepted it within yourself, here is a guide to help you. You have [[Know if You Are Gay|found out your sexual orientation]], and you are perfectly normal. Accepting who you are - and being proud of who you are - is the next step on the road to [[Come Out As Gay or Lesbian|coming out of the closet]], and eventually to [[Have a Gay or Lesbian Relationship|having a successful gay or lesbian relationship]]. Some people have difficulty in accepting their sexual orientation, either because of personal or societal discomfort or pressure. Most people in the LGBT+ community know from experience that accepting your sexuality will lead to your becoming a happier, more open person. | + | If you feel very attracted to members of the same sex or both sexes, but need to feel like you have accepted it within yourself, here is a guide to help you. You have [[Know if You Are Gay|found out your sexual orientation]], and you are perfectly normal. Accepting who you are - and being proud of who you are - is the next step on the road to [[Come Out As Gay or Lesbian|coming out of the closet]], and eventually to [[Have a Gay or Lesbian Relationship|having a successful gay or lesbian relationship]]. Some people have difficulty in accepting their sexual orientation, either because of personal or societal discomfort or pressure. Most people in the LGBT+ community know from experience that accepting your sexuality will lead to your becoming a happier, more open person.''In this guide, the term '''gay''' has been used to include all forms of homosexuality and bisexuality, whether that be people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or pansexual, or others included in the LGBT. |
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*It is important to note that the American Psychological Association has declared that groups claiming to cure homosexuality are dangerous and unhealthy. It is very mentally and physically unhealthy to suppress your feelings and your true self. It is up to you to decide what's best for your life. | *It is important to note that the American Psychological Association has declared that groups claiming to cure homosexuality are dangerous and unhealthy. It is very mentally and physically unhealthy to suppress your feelings and your true self. It is up to you to decide what's best for your life. | ||
*[[Not Care What People Think|Don't worry]] about what others think; what is important is that you are [[Be Yourself|true to yourself]] and considerate of others - that doesn't mean you need to cater to the sensibilities of others. If a friend or a member of your family is having trouble coming to terms with your orientation, you may have to give them time and be patient, or in the long term face the end of that friendship. | *[[Not Care What People Think|Don't worry]] about what others think; what is important is that you are [[Be Yourself|true to yourself]] and considerate of others - that doesn't mean you need to cater to the sensibilities of others. If a friend or a member of your family is having trouble coming to terms with your orientation, you may have to give them time and be patient, or in the long term face the end of that friendship. | ||
| − | *[[Have a Gay or Lesbian Relationship|If you are in a relationship]], refrain from using the word "room-mate" or words to that effect to describe your partner. And don't let your loved ones get away with that, either - if you allow them to pretend by introducing your partner as your "friend" or "room-mate," then you're allowing them to put a mask on you and your partner, both. Don't get nasty about it, just correct them gently, for example: | + | *[[Have a Gay or Lesbian Relationship|If you are in a relationship]], refrain from using the word "room-mate" or words to that effect to describe your partner. And don't let your loved ones get away with that, either - if you allow them to pretend by introducing your partner as your "friend" or "room-mate," then you're allowing them to put a mask on you and your partner, both. Don't get nasty about it, just correct them gently, for example: |
**''"Well, yes we do live together. Auntie Joan, David is my partner"'' or ''"Auntie Joan, I noticed that Jo was introducing you to my girlfriend, Andrea. We dated for a couple of months before moving in together, and we've been together about a year now. I'm so glad you finally get to meet her... Andi, come here, sweetie, and meet my Aunt Joan"''. | **''"Well, yes we do live together. Auntie Joan, David is my partner"'' or ''"Auntie Joan, I noticed that Jo was introducing you to my girlfriend, Andrea. We dated for a couple of months before moving in together, and we've been together about a year now. I'm so glad you finally get to meet her... Andi, come here, sweetie, and meet my Aunt Joan"''. | ||
**Once your family get the idea that you aren't about to sit back and let them believe that you and David are ''"just room-mates"'', or that you and Andi are ''"just really good friends"'', they will stop attempting to put a mask on your relationship and be more open, too. | **Once your family get the idea that you aren't about to sit back and let them believe that you and David are ''"just room-mates"'', or that you and Andi are ''"just really good friends"'', they will stop attempting to put a mask on your relationship and be more open, too. | ||
