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#*If a loved one has passed away, let yourself grieve. | #*If a loved one has passed away, let yourself grieve. | ||
#*If you’ve lost your job, let yourself feel mad and/or disappointed. | #*If you’ve lost your job, let yourself feel mad and/or disappointed. | ||
| − | #*If your community is changing for the bad, articulate that to friends.<ref>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisabeth-saunders-medlock-phd/seven-things-you-need-to-_b_4129918.html</ref> | + | #*If your community is changing for the bad, articulate that to friends.<ref name="rf1">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisabeth-saunders-medlock-phd/seven-things-you-need-to-_b_4129918.html</ref> |
| − | #Understand that change is an inevitable part of life. Before the time comes for you to accept change, learn that it is necessary for old things to go and new things to come. The entire history of the world and the history of humanity can be defined by continual change, evolution and development. Change is part of life and existence, and change often brings new opportunities--sometimes good ones! <ref>http://www.bizjournals.com/bizjournals/how-to/human-resources/2012/10/change-is-an-inevitable-part-of-life.html?page=all</ref> | + | #Understand that change is an inevitable part of life. Before the time comes for you to accept change, learn that it is necessary for old things to go and new things to come. The entire history of the world and the history of humanity can be defined by continual change, evolution and development. Change is part of life and existence, and change often brings new opportunities--sometimes good ones! <ref name="rf2">http://www.bizjournals.com/bizjournals/how-to/human-resources/2012/10/change-is-an-inevitable-part-of-life.html?page=all</ref> |
#Try to put change in perspective. It is easy to get overwhelmed by change and let it take control of your emotions, but you can get into a more positive mindset if you take some time to put things into perspective for yourself. For example, you can use these techniques: | #Try to put change in perspective. It is easy to get overwhelmed by change and let it take control of your emotions, but you can get into a more positive mindset if you take some time to put things into perspective for yourself. For example, you can use these techniques: | ||
| − | #*Reframe the situation. Ask yourself some questions about the change. For example, you can ask yourself “Why am I upset or worried about this change?” Then, “What is it that I believe will happen as a result of this change?” And then, “Are these thoughts and beliefs accurate and realistic?” Going through these questions can help you to determine if the change is really worth worrying about.<ref>http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/12/11/the-thoughtful-key-to-becoming-more-optimistic/</ref> | + | #*Reframe the situation. Ask yourself some questions about the change. For example, you can ask yourself “Why am I upset or worried about this change?” Then, “What is it that I believe will happen as a result of this change?” And then, “Are these thoughts and beliefs accurate and realistic?” Going through these questions can help you to determine if the change is really worth worrying about.<ref name="rf3">http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/12/11/the-thoughtful-key-to-becoming-more-optimistic/</ref> |
| − | #*[[Start a Gratitude Journal|List the things that you are grateful for in life]]. Among its many other benefits, practicing gratitude can help you to feel happier, sleep better, and possibly even overcome trauma. Practicing active gratitude is a great technique to use if you are dealing with a major life change.<ref> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-gratitude</ref> | + | #*[[Start a Gratitude Journal|List the things that you are grateful for in life]]. Among its many other benefits, practicing gratitude can help you to feel happier, sleep better, and possibly even overcome trauma. Practicing active gratitude is a great technique to use if you are dealing with a major life change.<ref name="rf4"> https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-gratitude</ref> |
#**Every day, try to write down 10 things for which you are grateful. Add to the list every day. You can start by listing basic things like a place to sleep, food to eat, a warm shower, friends, family, etc. Then, as your list continues, try to notice smaller things, such as a beautiful sunset, a good cup of coffee, or chatting on the phone with a friend. | #**Every day, try to write down 10 things for which you are grateful. Add to the list every day. You can start by listing basic things like a place to sleep, food to eat, a warm shower, friends, family, etc. Then, as your list continues, try to notice smaller things, such as a beautiful sunset, a good cup of coffee, or chatting on the phone with a friend. | ||
#[[Be Positive|Look on the bright side]]. Even though change can have a negative effect on your life, in most circumstances, there is always something positive to look at. Use this as an opportunity to turn a loss or negative change into an opportunity or a way to rediscover your zest for life. | #[[Be Positive|Look on the bright side]]. Even though change can have a negative effect on your life, in most circumstances, there is always something positive to look at. Use this as an opportunity to turn a loss or negative change into an opportunity or a way to rediscover your zest for life. | ||
#*If you have a death in the family, think about all of the family members you have left. Let the experience be one that binds you together tighter as a family unit. | #*If you have a death in the family, think about all of the family members you have left. Let the experience be one that binds you together tighter as a family unit. | ||
#*If you have lost your job, look at it as an opportunity to find a new job, a new career, or a new way of supporting yourself that brings you more fulfillment. | #*If you have lost your job, look at it as an opportunity to find a new job, a new career, or a new way of supporting yourself that brings you more fulfillment. | ||
| − | #*If you are separating from your significant other, consider that there are reasons for that, and that both of you might be happier in the long run, and might be able to find more fulfilling relationships.<ref>http://au.reachout.com/7-tips-for-dealing-with-change</ref> | + | #*If you are separating from your significant other, consider that there are reasons for that, and that both of you might be happier in the long run, and might be able to find more fulfilling relationships.<ref name="rf5">http://au.reachout.com/7-tips-for-dealing-with-change</ref> |
#Try to understand why the change unsettles you so much. It’s hard to come to grips with change and accept it, if you’re unclear about why it makes you so uncomfortable or unsettled. Thinking about it and looking inward, might just help you better understand yourself. This, as a result, might help alleviate some of your anxiety about change. Consider the following: | #Try to understand why the change unsettles you so much. It’s hard to come to grips with change and accept it, if you’re unclear about why it makes you so uncomfortable or unsettled. Thinking about it and looking inward, might just help you better understand yourself. This, as a result, might help alleviate some of your anxiety about change. Consider the following: | ||
#*Does the death of a loved one make you face your own immortality? | #*Does the death of a loved one make you face your own immortality? | ||
#*Does social change give you a feeling of uncertainty and make you feel like everything you know about the world is falling apart? | #*Does social change give you a feeling of uncertainty and make you feel like everything you know about the world is falling apart? | ||
| − | #*Does breaking up with a significant other make you feel as if you're too emotionally fragile and lacking a support system?<ref>http://www.positive-changes-coach.com/how-to-deal-with-change.html</ref><ref>http://www.choosehelp.com/topics/counseling/existential-therapy-self-examination-and-change-for-a-meaningful-life</ref> | + | #*Does breaking up with a significant other make you feel as if you're too emotionally fragile and lacking a support system?<ref name="rf6">http://www.positive-changes-coach.com/how-to-deal-with-change.html</ref><ref name="rf7">http://www.choosehelp.com/topics/counseling/existential-therapy-self-examination-and-change-for-a-meaningful-life</ref> |
| − | #Embrace your dynamic nature and ability to adapt. Try to view change as a challenge and a chance to grow. Remind yourself that you are a strong and dynamic person and that you will be stronger as a result of this change. Also, keep in mind that change can be a powerful motivator to help you achieve your goals.<ref>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-power-prime/201201/personal-growth-motivation-the-drive-change</ref> | + | #Embrace your dynamic nature and ability to adapt. Try to view change as a challenge and a chance to grow. Remind yourself that you are a strong and dynamic person and that you will be stronger as a result of this change. Also, keep in mind that change can be a powerful motivator to help you achieve your goals.<ref name="rf8">https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-power-prime/201201/personal-growth-motivation-the-drive-change</ref> |
#*Try to use change as a motivation, if possible. For example, if you lose your job, then you might use this change as motivation to go back to school or to pursue a career that you have always dreamed about. | #*Try to use change as a motivation, if possible. For example, if you lose your job, then you might use this change as motivation to go back to school or to pursue a career that you have always dreamed about. | ||
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#*[http://www.wikihow.com/Do-Yoga Practice yoga]. | #*[http://www.wikihow.com/Do-Yoga Practice yoga]. | ||
#*[http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate Meditate]. | #*[http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate Meditate]. | ||
| − | #*[http://www.wikihow.com/Exercise Exercise].<ref>http://myheartofyoga.com/adapting-to-change-by-meditation/</ref> | + | #*[http://www.wikihow.com/Exercise Exercise].<ref name="rf9">http://myheartofyoga.com/adapting-to-change-by-meditation/</ref> |
#[[Be Busy|Stay busy]]! If you’re going through a period in your life when change is negatively impacting you, make yourself busy. Making yourself busy, by working, producing something, engaging socially with others, will do more than just distract you – it will help you contribute to changing your life positively for the future. | #[[Be Busy|Stay busy]]! If you’re going through a period in your life when change is negatively impacting you, make yourself busy. Making yourself busy, by working, producing something, engaging socially with others, will do more than just distract you – it will help you contribute to changing your life positively for the future. | ||
#*Making yourself busy will help you move on and think about other aspects of your life. | #*Making yourself busy will help you move on and think about other aspects of your life. | ||
#*Making yourself busy might open new opportunities for you. | #*Making yourself busy might open new opportunities for you. | ||
| − | #*Find a new hobby. Try something you've never done before! Finding pleasure in a new activity will help you enjoy life after the change. You will be glad you took the chance! <ref>http://www.hercampus.com/love/relationships/8-ways-keep-yourself-busy-after-breakup</ref> | + | #*Find a new hobby. Try something you've never done before! Finding pleasure in a new activity will help you enjoy life after the change. You will be glad you took the chance! <ref name="rf10">http://www.hercampus.com/love/relationships/8-ways-keep-yourself-busy-after-breakup</ref> |
#Talk it out. Talk to people about how the change unsettles you. Your friends and loved ones might sympathize or have different ideas about the consequences of the change that is unsettling you. If you talk to them, they might provide perspective that will alter your view of change and help you accept it. | #Talk it out. Talk to people about how the change unsettles you. Your friends and loved ones might sympathize or have different ideas about the consequences of the change that is unsettling you. If you talk to them, they might provide perspective that will alter your view of change and help you accept it. | ||
#*Another outcome might be that you find that others are as distressed as you when it comes to change. Knowing that others are in a similar situation might just give you the strength and gumption to accept change and move on. | #*Another outcome might be that you find that others are as distressed as you when it comes to change. Knowing that others are in a similar situation might just give you the strength and gumption to accept change and move on. | ||
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#*Getting a better job. | #*Getting a better job. | ||
#*Exercising and becoming healthier. | #*Exercising and becoming healthier. | ||
| − | #*Traveling and seeing new places.<ref | + | #*Traveling and seeing new places.<ref name="rf6" /> |
#Try to build a better world. Accept the change that makes you uncomfortable, and determine that you’re going to try to use your energies to make an even better world. In this way, you’re accepting change but also turning it upside down and using it to fuel what you think is positive change. Consider these techniques: | #Try to build a better world. Accept the change that makes you uncomfortable, and determine that you’re going to try to use your energies to make an even better world. In this way, you’re accepting change but also turning it upside down and using it to fuel what you think is positive change. Consider these techniques: | ||
#*Volunteering for a cause that you think is important. | #*Volunteering for a cause that you think is important. | ||
#*Helping someone in need that you know. | #*Helping someone in need that you know. | ||
| − | #*Adopting a homeless pet.<ref>http://www.theguardian.com/theguardian/2000/jan/08/weekend7.weekend5</ref> | + | #*Adopting a homeless pet.<ref name="rf11">http://www.theguardian.com/theguardian/2000/jan/08/weekend7.weekend5</ref> |
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