Hook up With Girls Out of Your League

Template:StubThis is a guide for the people who want to give a shot at hooking up with a girl out of their league. This is your moment to try to turn your life around, and in the process maybe even learn some things about yourself you never thought you could do.

Steps

1. Show your confidence. There is one constant characteristic about "playboy" men - confidence. Everyone has a particular type that turns them on. But having confidence in every little thing you say or do will invariably bring you closer to the woman of your dreams. Confidence will show that you mean what you are saying, no matter what it is.
2. Be able to communicate. This isn't an art you need to master, but you at least need to be able to communicate exactly what you intend to when talking to a beautiful woman. Even if it is inadvertent, projecting the wrong thing can shut the door in your face very quickly. There is no room for error. In order to be a good communicator, you need to be a good listener. You also need to appear genuinely interested in people, if you aren't already. Start engaging people in your daily life. Find out about people that you have brief interactions with. Step out of your comfort zone completely. Having back-and-forth conversations with strangers will help you to think on your feet when approaching a hottie. It will also help you build material for your discussion with said hottie.
3. Work on your appearance. This is important, obviously. Business casual, off-camera actor, and rich playboy. Attaining looks for all three will take some time but not as much time and money as you might think. It isn't what you're wearing, but how you look in it. Having 400 dollar jeans won't matter if you look like a tool in them. Don't be that guy. Be yourself, but a better version of yourself aesthetically. Play to your strengths as well. Put some thought into it. If a certain color brings out your eyes, wear it. But don't look like you put too much thought into it. Effortless class is what we're going for, boys.
   • Shoes: A great starter shoe that is high quality and not too expensive is Ferragamo. They run around $300 but are a must. They are also very recognizable to women of taste. You will be able to pair these with all of the three styles mentioned. Business Casual: Hit up outlets for this stuff. It's hard to decipher quality with this look so don't break the bank.
   • Nice pair of slacks, button down, and sweater if needed. Off-Camera Actor: Diesel or A/X jeans and a plain white T-shirt. If it's cold out, throw on a strong leather jacket. Hugo boss or Kenneth Cole at Nordstrom rack might produce one that isn't crazy expensive. But you will most likely spend around $500 minimum for a high quality leather. Wear the stuff around the house for a while before approaching your hottie. Rich playboy: Now all you need is a nice blazer and shirt. Club Monaco, A/X, Express. Check them all out for one that works with your jeans and Ferragamos. the idea is to find a sharp looking blazer that isn't decipherable. That might be tricky at A/X but if you look hard you can find sharp youthful stuff there.
   • Avoid logos at all costs when you can. Nothing too blatant. Rich people don't need to display their labels unless it can't be helped. This is tacky and women of high class can smell it a mile away. It's also okay to mix it up when you're out. If you're wearing jeans and a T-shirt at happy hour on Tuesday, you will stand out. If anyone asks why you look like a bum... this brings us to our next topic.
4. Know when to lie. It is not a must, but if you generally hang out playing video games all day, this is something that you will need to do. This is a slippery slope because lying only begets more lies, and you can get into trouble. The number one rule when telling a lie is to add some truth, so if you look like you don't have a job, say you work from home. The other option is to get out there. If you tell her that you like going to clubs, start going to clubs. pick a favorite, get to know the people there, and then bring her.
   • Keep the lies as harmless as possible, so that even if they are found out, it won't be too big a deal to her. Don't lie about what kind of car you drive or how much money you have (even if asked). Everybody does this and it's obvious. This is rude, and rich people don't discuss money, only poor people do that. All you need to do is create the illusion that you are on their level. Drop hints of exotic places you've been (but study up on those places). Trump up/make up your interests to align with rich and interesting people. Most rich people are more interested in what you do for fun than how you make your living. You want her assuming that you are a catch. You do this with calm, confident, flattering lies. But don't be overzealous.
   • Never lie unless prompted too. Read her signals and know what you can get away with. This is why it will help to have a wing-man who can corroborate your bullshit. But it isn't imperative. Besides, frequenting fine establishments will already give the impression that you are in their league, so try to steer the conversation onto her and about things other than you.
5. Know when to tell the truth. It's very difficult to be funny when lying. The funniest conversations and topics are from the truth. And being witty or at least entertaining (but not annoying) is a key factor. This goes back to communication. Talking to a stranger is a dance.
   • Keep it light and read the signals she's sending. Don't tell jokes! Improvise. Make almost every sentiment you're expressing to be in the interest of fun and light-hearted humor. At some point in the conversation be self deprecating. This shows that you don't take yourself too seriously, that you're confident, and it will make your lies more believable.
6. Gather information. It is key to understanding the environment around you and how you have been/or not fitting into it. Take some time to be an observer.
   • Take note of the types of places that you see beautiful women that interest you. Notice how they dress in those places, what kind of energy they give off, and what types of people you see them with if they are not alone. Be a sponge. It is almost certain that a beautiful, well-dressed woman will be very particular about the type of man she will give the time of day to.
7. Step out: Now that you've worked on your verbal ability, dress, and saved up some money, pick a home base that you see beautiful women at. Make sure you spend a couple times going there (with friends) before approaching her. Meet as many people that work there as possible. Remember names and faces.
   • Most high class women don't talk to strangers! So it will help if you can be seen out a few times having fun with friends. If you have a sister or girlfriends take them there whenever you can. You want to be seen with other women as much as possible. It doesn't matter what they look like. This is one of the most important steps, because it is here that you want to create an environment that is a home field. Bottom line, you need to get out there. Become a friendly and recognizable face where the women are.
8. Master the approach. If you have done all this it will make your approach much easier. You won't seem like a stranger, yet someone that seems like fun to be around. But, the most important thing to remember is that this is a numbers game.
   • You aren't going to score nearly as much as you get turned down. No matter what, you will encounter rude and bitter women. That is why it is important to always be polite, never vulgar (unless she likes it), and never give off the impression you want sex. Treat her like an interesting human being.
   • Hot women are self-conscious about their looks. Appear to be interested in her intellect, ask her questions that are unusual and make her think you are different from the other ten thousand shmucks that hit on her last week. Basically, treat her like a guy (without the fart jokes, obviously).
   • If you can, avoid compliments altogether. But if you must, don't compliment her looks. You're trying to find her interests, not get her into bed, so she thinks. Never buy her a drink. This doesn't work. The value you're adding is of a conversationalist who can open up new things for her. If you are having a great time and after she finishes a couple drinks, it's okay to buy her one. But do this very infrequently. If nothing sexual comes out of this, that's okay. You met someone new, who is hot. And it's on to the next one immediately. That will help build your resume once you're seen out with her again, hopefully. If it does turn sexual, make it her place so you don't wake Mom. Most women prefer to go back to their own place anyway. Happy hunting.

Tips

• Numbers game: I am reiterating this from the last step. It's that important. Don't get discouraged! This is sales. And like any sales position, you are really selling yourself. If you follow these steps, you should at least get to talk with 1 out of every 5 hotties. And once you get good, have sex with 1 out of every 10 to 15 women.
• Take it slow. This advice has been built up for me over about ten years so take some time to work on your game before trying out for the majors.
• Treat her like a queen and hug her randomly.

Warnings

• Watch out for her friends, especially guy friends. If she is as hot as she should be, they will be very protecting. Be humble and include everyone in the group.
• Remember, women are not only for sex. They are people just like you and me.

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