Get the Boy You Like to Go from Total Stranger, to Friend, to Boyfriend

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It's not easy to get a boyfriend, or even be friends with a boy for that matter. They're picky and at times completely moronic. Here are a couple of steps to help you get that boy, whether you like him for looks or personality: or if you really aren't sure why you like him, but you do.

Steps

  1. Try to make sure you really like this guy, and if he's even worth your time. If you're looking for specific traits in someone, ask a friend or even take the time yourself to see what this boy is all about. You don't want to waste your time on someone who isn't who you think he is. What's the point of that?
  2. Start getting to know him better. Spend some time talking to him: make your goal at least once every other day. You don't want to seem obsessive, but you don't want to appear too afraid to talk to him either.
  3. Find common interests. Do you both love rock music? What about basketball? It's always helpful to know what this guy is interested in, and even if you can't find anything you two have in common, try to get interested in what he likes. Who knows? He might not end up liking you, but you could find a new hobby.
  4. Joke around and carry a sense of humor. Make him laugh and feel comfortable around you. However, make sure you avoid using any jokes that could offend him; you never know what could happen.
  5. Flirt! You don't have to go overboard, but the occasional sitting next to him or complimenting him can have a huge impact.
  6. Ask questions. The best thing to do in a moment of awkward silence. You can also start a conversation like this, especially if you want to get off of a topic other than yourself. This is also a great way to get to know him a bit better.
  7. Ask him if he's busy during the weekend. Consider inviting a few other people with you to avoid an awkward first "date" night. Go to the movies or an arcade, or go and get some pizza.
  8. Give him gifts. You should get him a birthday gift/Christmas presents. Nothing too big, though.
  9. Ramp up your flirtatious behaviour. When you guys have been talking for a while (about 2 to 3 weeks) start flirting with him a little bit more. Touch his shoulder during conversation or look him right in the eyes when you two are talking. (But don't look into his eyes in a weird or obsessive gaze or he will flip.)
  10. Ask personal questions. Once you guys start hanging out more often, ask more personal questions about him, and reply honestly when he asks you about your life, unless it's something personal you don't want to spill, and be open to him. Let him get to know you, but make sure not to take it too fast. Don't tell him everything he needs to know about you in your conversations. Let him nibble off the cheese and show him little tidbits of yourself. That way, you'll have new conversations every time, and you won't be boring. Boring topics are the free way to the check out list! And avoid lying too. The truth will always find it's way back to him, and it could end up embarrassing you.
  11. Get him to be comfortable around you. If it's just you two, strike up a conversation casually, let him know that he can be comfortable with you in any situation. That's a great way to land him as your boyfriend. And always be there when he needs you. That's not just if you want to be bf/gf, that's for friends in general. But it's still a good tip.
  12. If he had an ex, find out if he's over her. The first thing you've got to find out if whether or not he's still got a fire for his ex. If that's the case, you don't want him as a boyfriend. To find out, casually ask him. Get him to talk about any feelings he has about her, whether they're good or bad. Get him to spit out about whether or not he's seen her recently, if they still keep in touch, etc. If you find that he's over her, then move on to step two.
  13. Tell him about your ex. Let him know in no vague terms that you are 100% over that "person" who broke your heart. Guys are very easily deterred by women who are still hung up on an ex. Don't come off like one of those women. That's the quickest way to make sure this guy that you like stays just your friend.
  14. Hint to him that you're interested. Let your guy friend know how much you highly think of him and how much you think he would make a great boyfriend for someone one day. He's probably so used to being nagged, debased and mothered by his ex that it will be refreshing to hear that you think he would actually make a fabulous boyfriend.
  15. Ask him out on a date. But don't call it a date. In its place, invite him out to the movies one night as friends. If he asks you out the following weekend and you ask him about again, the next thing you know, you both will find yourself dating.
  16. Text and e-mail him. Send him comical text messages and e-mails. It's a fantastic way to build your friendship and future relationship. Guys want women they can be themselves with them. By letting all hang out, you're letting him know that you're fun and cool at the same time.
  17. And once you guys have hung out and finally gotten to know a lot(but not everything) about each other, pop the question, "Have you ever pictured us, you know, "together"?" Do this when you two are alone someplace, you won't know if his answer is true otherwise. A lot of guys say "no" if they're around their friends because, they don't want to attract attention from everyone else. They feel like they're pressured to say yes, because, well, their friends will rag on them and drive him to "no".
  18. If the guy says "I don't feel like I want to take us to next level right now." He means, "You're great as a friend, I just don't want to be bf/gf right now." Respect his choice, and then stay friends. Don't act let down, because that will create an oddness between you two, which will set you back to almost strangers. And if one day, he says, "Hey, do you want to catch a movie with me? You know, as a date?" then smile(you know you've been waiting!) and say, "I thought you'd never ask." and bite your lip. Biting your lip gives you a look of excitement and anxiety which is a good look, because then the guy knows you're nervous too.
  19. And if the guy says yes the first time, be cool about it. Do the same "bite the lip" routine. And, if he goes in for the kiss, enjoy every steamy moment of it. You can't say you haven't known him for long enough, because you have, as a friend. That automatically gives you the right to kiss him right when he asks you out. But don't kiss him first, let him do the honors, and then, after a few dates, you can make the first moves all you want.
  20. If he doesn't like you, don't take it personally. There are more fish out there in the sea. You'll find that one guy someday!

Tips

  • Pay attention to what he says, and don't forget everything. Isn't it annoying when you tell somebody your birthday is a certain date, and the next day they ask when your birthday is?
  • Just be honest and open. In relationships, ALWAYS be honest and open. Tell him how you feel. That's it.
  • Don't worry if you say something stupid. If he likes you he'll get that your probably just nervous and chances are he is too.
  • Tease him and smile. When he teases back, you can gently push him and laugh saying 'I do not' or whatever. This is being affectionate but not being obvious.
  • Don't ask questions that can be answered with yes or no or you will never have a real conversation.
  • If he asks you if you like him then say yes softly and when nobody is around not by your or his friends!
  • If you don't know how to trigger conversation, just casually walk past and say 'Hey, you're in Lucy's class aren't you? Have you seen her anywhere?'
  • Just relax and have fun with your date.
  • If you are very shy, then ask one of your friends to help, just don't seem desperate. whatever you do, don't act like you DON'T want to talk to him!

Warnings

  • Don't lay it on too thick. This means, don't make it so obvious, or he'll get 'creeped out'. It also means don't ask him out in the first conversation you two have!
  • Don't try to change yourself for some guy. If you have to do that, the guy probably isn't even worth it!
  • Try not to talk to him 24/7 or stare at him. This creeps everybody out, especially him!
  • Don't mention stuff like parents and grandparents in conversation; it will be really awkward for you if he says "Well my grandma died a few weeks ago actually".
  • If you talk to him, try not to be shy and blush. It's a dead giveaway that you like him!
  • Make sure you don't try to make him jealous. He may get the wrong message and think you don't like him.
  • Don't become a stalker, but its cool to run into him a few times, or actually 'run into him' and spill your books on the floor. It's a good conversation starter.
  • If the boy you're crushing on doesn't like you, just be friends.

Things You'll Need

  • This guide

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