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Ever wonder why women can't seem to resist bad boys? It's not because they're jerks - no one likes someone because they're a jerk. Rather, it's because they're confident and assertive - in other words, sexy and charming.Use these pointers to build your masculine confidence and show the world (and all the women in it) who wears the pants! | Ever wonder why women can't seem to resist bad boys? It's not because they're jerks - no one likes someone because they're a jerk. Rather, it's because they're confident and assertive - in other words, sexy and charming.Use these pointers to build your masculine confidence and show the world (and all the women in it) who wears the pants! | ||
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== Steps == | == Steps == | ||
=== Bad Boy Behavior and Habits === | === Bad Boy Behavior and Habits === | ||
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=== Building Bad Boy Confidence === | === Building Bad Boy Confidence === | ||
# Know yourself. Much of the advice above requires you to have high confidence and a good self-image. If you don't have these fundamentals, it's difficult if not impossible to be a true bad boy. Ask yourself questions like, "are there situations that make me nervous?" and "am I being the best that I can be?" If you don't like your answers, use the following steps to build healthy confidence. You'll be on your way to badness in no time. | # Know yourself. Much of the advice above requires you to have high confidence and a good self-image. If you don't have these fundamentals, it's difficult if not impossible to be a true bad boy. Ask yourself questions like, "are there situations that make me nervous?" and "am I being the best that I can be?" If you don't like your answers, use the following steps to build healthy confidence. You'll be on your way to badness in no time. | ||
| − | # Get fit. You don't need to be a body builder to be a bad boy, but you do need to be healthy. Scientific evidence has shown that physical exercise has a positive effect on self-esteem and can help thwart depression. The effects are both immediate (through the release of stress-reducing endorphins) and long-term (through the improvement of self-image and overall fitness)<ref name="rf2738" />. Don't put it off - go to the gym today, not tomorrow. | + | # Get fit. You don't need to be a body builder to be a bad boy, but you do need to be healthy. Scientific evidence has shown that physical exercise has a positive effect on self-esteem and can help thwart depression. The effects are both immediate (through the release of stress-reducing endorphins) and long-term (through the improvement of self-image and overall fitness)<ref name="rf2738">http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/exercise-depression</ref>. Don't put it off - go to the gym today, not tomorrow. |
#* One study found that moderately intense aerobic exercise produces the greatest immediate psychological boost.<ref name="rf14081">http://ijahsp.nova.edu/articles/Vol7Num2/pdf/cohen.pdf</ref> Any exercise routine that improves your physical fitness, however, will make you more attractive to yourself and others. | #* One study found that moderately intense aerobic exercise produces the greatest immediate psychological boost.<ref name="rf14081">http://ijahsp.nova.edu/articles/Vol7Num2/pdf/cohen.pdf</ref> Any exercise routine that improves your physical fitness, however, will make you more attractive to yourself and others. | ||
#* For tips on starting an exercise routine, consult one of our many how-to guides on exercising, such as [[Exercise|How to Exercise]]. | #* For tips on starting an exercise routine, consult one of our many how-to guides on exercising, such as [[Exercise|How to Exercise]]. | ||
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#* Everyone (including bad boys) suffers personal setbacks. If you're experiencing difficulty in your career or personal life, keep it in perspective - by persevering through your difficulties, you're building a stronger personality. Never give up! | #* Everyone (including bad boys) suffers personal setbacks. If you're experiencing difficulty in your career or personal life, keep it in perspective - by persevering through your difficulties, you're building a stronger personality. Never give up! | ||
# Treat yourself with value. Allow yourself to enjoy the things you like. You don't have to spend lots of money to feel valuable - simply cook the foods you like, enjoy your favorite drink in moderation, and reserve time to practice your hobbies. If you're doing the things you like, you'll naturally be happier, and if you're happier, you'll be more confident. | # Treat yourself with value. Allow yourself to enjoy the things you like. You don't have to spend lots of money to feel valuable - simply cook the foods you like, enjoy your favorite drink in moderation, and reserve time to practice your hobbies. If you're doing the things you like, you'll naturally be happier, and if you're happier, you'll be more confident. | ||
| − | # Address any personal psychological issues. Sometimes, low confidence can be-deeply rooted. Childhood abuse and traumatic experiences can cause psychological difficulties throughout your life that can negatively affect your self esteem.<ref name="rf436" /> Try to seek treatment for any issues that are affecting you mentally or emotionally. A variety of treatments, including counseling, biofeedback techniques, and the prescription of medicines, are available. | + | # Address any personal psychological issues. Sometimes, low confidence can be-deeply rooted. Childhood abuse and traumatic experiences can cause psychological difficulties throughout your life that can negatively affect your self esteem.<ref name="rf436">http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201205/building-confidence-and-self-esteem</ref> Try to seek treatment for any issues that are affecting you mentally or emotionally. A variety of treatments, including counseling, biofeedback techniques, and the prescription of medicines, are available. |
#* Remember that seeking help for psychological issues is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Real men don't ignore their personal problems, they fix them. Sometimes, this requires the help of someone else. Never feel embarrassed to see a counselor or a therapist - over a quarter of US adults received some kind of mental health treatment within two years of a 2004 poll.<ref name="rf14082">http://psychcentral.com/lib/9-myths-and-facts-about-therapy/0009331</ref> | #* Remember that seeking help for psychological issues is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Real men don't ignore their personal problems, they fix them. Sometimes, this requires the help of someone else. Never feel embarrassed to see a counselor or a therapist - over a quarter of US adults received some kind of mental health treatment within two years of a 2004 poll.<ref name="rf14082">http://psychcentral.com/lib/9-myths-and-facts-about-therapy/0009331</ref> | ||
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#* Remember that the goal of being spontaneous is not to shower her with gifts. Maintain your personal value - if you're unsure of what to do, try to plan activities that ''' you ''' like. You'll be happy to go, and your happiness will reflect in your partner. | #* Remember that the goal of being spontaneous is not to shower her with gifts. Maintain your personal value - if you're unsure of what to do, try to plan activities that ''' you ''' like. You'll be happy to go, and your happiness will reflect in your partner. | ||
# Give her space and make sure she gives you space. Bad boys and their partners aren't dependent on each other. They maintain their own lives, friendships, and hobbies. This makes the time that they '' do '' spend together more valuable. | # Give her space and make sure she gives you space. Bad boys and their partners aren't dependent on each other. They maintain their own lives, friendships, and hobbies. This makes the time that they '' do '' spend together more valuable. | ||
| − | #* Balancing time between your friends and your partner can be difficult. Luckily, since this is a common problem | + | #* Balancing time between your friends and your partner can be difficult. Luckily, since this is a common problem, it's been the source of much thoughtful (and some thoughtless) online writing. Consider consulting a sensibly-written article for advice. |
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== Tips == | == Tips == | ||
